\”Mom, do you love me?\” \”Yes!\” \”How much do you love me?\” \”I will love you if you are obedient; if you are disobedient, I will not love you anymore!\”… In a corner of the park, I heard A mother and son were talking, with mixed feelings in their hearts. As parents, we have all loved our children unconditionally with all our hearts and souls. However, as the children grow up, we unknowingly add various \”weights\” to their love. It seems that only children who are obedient and well-behaved are worthy. Get the unreserved love of your parents. The following eight moments reveal the truth about love: It turns out that this is \”unconditional love.\” Accept emotions: you can empathize, but you can\’t understand. If you ask, which moment makes parents collapse the most? The \”crying\” of children during rest is definitely on the list. Once, I met an emotional little boy downstairs in the community. No matter how much his mother tried to comfort him, the child wouldn\’t stop crying. \”As long as he doesn\’t agree, he will cry for two hours. How sad!\” The mother shook her head and finally relented, \”Let\’s go, let\’s go to the store to buy toys.\” The child\’s mood gradually calmed down. Zhou Hong Appreciation Education Case Video Original Full Series 6VCD+mp3 Many parents believe that to love their children, they must accept their emotions, so they greet their children with a smile when they are well-behaved, and try their best to be calm when their children lose their temper. This is actually the wrong response to love. To truly accept a child\’s emotions is to review the child\’s emotions with him after he calms down – to help them recognize their wrong behavior and tell them how to deal with such things in the future. As for those things that are not allowed, we still cannot compromise; those children who should apologize must apologize. Only in this way can the child understand that parents can accept his sad emotions, but not his wrong behavior. In this way, children can truly grow and learn to deal with their emotions with every cry. Accept mistakes: You can make mistakes, but you must learn to take responsibility. \”He is still a child!\” When children make mistakes, there are always many parents who use this as an excuse to take responsibility. Parents don\’t take it seriously, always thinking that their children will naturally understand the truth when they grow up. As everyone knows, children grow up by making mistakes. Some experiences must be experienced by themselves; some responsibilities must be borne by themselves. I especially appreciate what Sha Deng did in the variety show \”Mom is Superman\”. That day, Dalinzi accidentally hit Dumpling\’s head while playing and refused to apologize. Deng Sha did not fight or scold him, and the mother and son left the scene to talk alone. She used empathy to let Dalinzi know where he went wrong and what he should do after making a mistake. When he returned to Dumpling again, Dalinzi truly said \”I\’m sorry\” to his friend sincerely. There is a sentence on the screen that is particularly deeply rooted in people\’s hearts: Mom does not blame you for your mistakes, but I hope you will be brave enough to take responsibility. Yes, children all grow up stumbling. Parents can accept their children making mistakes, but they must let their children learn to take responsibility. Because only children who have taken responsibility will understand where the boundaries are. And this is the distance between children and the world living in harmony. Accept getting into trouble: Instead of punishing, find solutions. There is an old saying: Children are neither skinny nor smart. But if the child is too naughty, it will also cause headaches for parents. Why are some children naughty but not naughty?Get into trouble, but some children frequently cross the line, make small mistakes, and even lead to big mistakes? Parents\’ different ways of coping produce different children. Remember that naughty kid who splashed ink at high altitude? As a bottle of ink was thrown downstairs, all the residents downstairs suffered. Next, the parents’ first reaction was textbook. The mother immediately took her children and went door to door to apologize. She took all the \”disaster\” clothes home and washed them by hand with her children. If they were not clean, she bought new ones and gave them to others. The father hired professionals to clean the exterior walls, and when the workers were cleaning, they required the children to stand in the sun and stay with them. The child\’s mother said that she did this to make her child deeply aware of the mistake and the seriousness of the matter. Rather than blaming and scolding, letting children go door-to-door to apologize and wash clothes together is more memorable for children. When children get into trouble, punishment is indeed a necessary means of education. But smart parents will accept their children\’s mistakes and regard the time of mistakes as the best time to help their children grow. They neither punish nor condone, but try to help children understand things and find solutions. Use guidance to help children understand the essential issues from deep inside. In this way, children will focus more on introspection. Accept cowardice: No one is born strong, but I hope to face the wind and rain with you. You don’t dare to say hello when you see strangers, you don’t dare to fight back when you are bullied, and you always want to retreat when you encounter difficulties… Every time a child shows \”cowardice\”, many parents instinctively Worry: If you are so timid and cowardly, what is the use of growing up? Therefore, some parents try to stimulate their children with words, hoping that the children will correct themselves in the provocation; some parents are vigorous and resolute, forcing their children to correct immediately. The effect is often counterproductive. Under the hard control of parents, children become more and more timid and cowardly. There is a \”labeling effect\” in psychology. Once people are labeled with a certain label, they will become the person designated by the label. The same goes for educating children. The verbal stimulation of \”You are so useless\” and \”You are so cowardly\” will only put cognitive labels on the children. Their psychological burden will become heavier and heavier, and they will become more timid and fearful. Escape from reality. If you love your children, you must accept their weakness, because no one is born strong. Only when parents give their children enough sense of security will the children step out step by step under the eyes of trust. Less pampering, more encouragement; less intimidation, more love. By giving children support and confidence, they will have the determination and courage to explore the world. Accept the ordinary: All extraordinary things create a circle of friends in the ordinary. There was once a cruel truth circulated: no matter how hard their parents try, 99% of children will eventually spend their lives ordinary. Can you accept that your child is ordinary? The mental journey of Peking University professor Ding Yanqing may be the best way to explain it from his own experience. The couple both graduated from prestigious universities, but their daughter, who was born into a family with the reputation of being a \”student overachiever\”, has gone further and further down the road of being a \”student scumbag\” – his daughter not only struggled in studies, but also ranked second from the bottom in grades. There is a big gap… To say that he is relieved is false, and Ding Yanqing is not resigned to it. He once forced his children to study under high pressure, and indeed helped them to recover some achievements.. But soon, he discovered that the child\’s smiles were getting fewer and fewer, and he was losing more and more happiness. In the end, Ding Yanqing made a decision: to give up high-pressure and forced study and accept an ordinary daughter. \”Every child has his or her own uniqueness, even something extraordinary. As parents, we should help our children find their own strengths, let them find a path that suits them to develop, and eventually become a useful talent.\” These words from the bottom of my heart are the best words of advice for all anxious parents. Accepting ordinary children does not mean giving up on the child. Instead, parents adjust the correct posture to re-understand the child, and at the same time help the child discover his characteristics and allow the child to position himself more objectively. All extraordinary things are achieved in the ordinary. Perhaps parents letting go will give their children another dazzling life. Accept individuality: Every child is a unique angel. In this world, no two leaves are exactly the same; in this world, there cannot be children with the same personality. Unfortunately, many parents try their best to mold their children into the \”standard\” in the eyes of everyone and suppress their children\’s own unique personalities. Thinking of the little boy in the Pixar animation \”Gone with the Wind\”, he only has the super power of flying, but after discovering the difference in his child, the father fell into anxiety and fear. He did not dare to take his son out easily. He put a lot of bricks and stones in his son\’s schoolbag to prevent the child from taking off due to his playfulness… All these measures were just to prevent the neighbors from seeing the child as a \”monster\”. Finally, the child couldn\’t bear the restraint. When he went out, he happily flew into the sky and played freely while his father was not paying attention. Everyone was frightened to death. When the father came back to his senses, he was furious and shouted, \”Can\’t you be normal?!\” The words were heartbreaking and shocking. Although it is just a short film, it reveals a truth about education: How many parents, based on worldly standards, are unable to accept their children\’s truest appearance? If you love your children, you must accept their individuality. He may like to be alone and quiet, or he may like to be free and unrestrained. Only by allowing children to release their nature can they become better versions of themselves. In the documentary \”Post Zero\” that I especially admire, a child named \”Yiyi\” likes to play alone, but her parents never take it seriously. Instead, they tell her: You have the right to play alone. Years later, this child who likes to be alone has not become an outlier. She has a cheerful personality and can enjoy the tranquility of being alone as well as being leisurely and contented in group activities. We always say that parents are a mirror to their children. Only when parents accept their children\’s personality from the heart can their children look at themselves in the mirror and grow up calmly. No matter how the world looks at them, children can live fearlessly because they know that their parents will always appreciate them. Accept your dreams: Chase your dreams boldly and be your strongest supporter. When your child says “I want to go to the moon,” as a parent, what is your first reaction? Many years ago, in a small rural yard in the United States, a boy pointed at the moon and told his mother this. There was no ridicule, no blow. His mother smiled and gave him hope: \”Okay, just don\’t forget to come back from the moon and go home for dinner.\” The seeds of the dream were quietly planted from then on, and in order to realize it,To realize his dream, the little boy continues to set goals, plans and take action as he grows up. The dream became an ideal, and eventually, the boy became the first man to land on the moon – Armstrong. Thirty-three years later, when Armstrong returned to the earth from the moon, he said something particularly interesting when facing the camera: \”Mom, my son is back from the moon. I will go home on time for dinner.\” What is unrealistic in the eyes of adults is very important to us. It is said in children, but it will grow quietly in my heart like a bud. Children who are nourished by dreams live in hope since childhood and will use their own efforts to continuously create miracles in life. Lin Yutang once said: \”No matter how vague our dreams are, they always lurk in our hearts, so that our state of mind will never be peaceful until these dreams become reality.\” Childhood is where dreams begin. Parents who love their children should protect their children\’s dreams and protect the seeds of their children\’s dreams. Only then can dreams have the opportunity to grow into towering trees. Unconditional Acceptance: Always 100%, Always Favorite If the score was 100, how would you rate your child? In an investigative documentary, several mothers respectively gave their inner evaluation scores of their children: 7.5, 8, 9… The missing scores in that corner are mostly the unsatisfactory aspects of the children, such as poor hygiene, stubborn mouth, and disobedience. …When mothers complain about their children, all they see are their children\’s shortcomings. Even if they give one more point, they are worried that their children will be proud from now on. The camera switched to the child, and the score given by the child was surprising: full marks! 100 points! 200! 100 million points! In the child\’s heart, the mother is priceless; in the child\’s eyes, the mother\’s advantages are full: beauty, gentleness, hard work… Even if the host asks the child: Between your favorite toy and your mother, who would you choose? \”Mom!\” The child answered without hesitation, and his love for his mother was unreserved. Even if mothers think they are very strict and cruel to their children, in the hearts of their children, mothers are always the best and most perfect mothers! Seeing this scene, both on and off the screen, made people burst into tears. Yes, parents always think that they have given their children so much love, but in fact, children love their parents even more… What is unconditional love? Alfie Cohen proposed in the book \”Unconditional Parenting\”: Full Score Essay Tips: 20 Primary School Students\’ Writing Essay Skills Complete Collection mp3+Pictures and Texts PNG \”The difference between conditional parenting and unconditional parenting is that what is the parent\’s love for the child?\” Because of \’what they did\’ or because of \’who they are.\’\” The most selfless love in the world is the love that parents have for their children. Maybe the love is too deep and turns into expectation. But love and expectation are two different things. If you add \”conditions\” to love because of expectation, it will not be far from harm. The best parent-child relationship, no strings attached, just because you are my child.