“Children don’t like to study” is a problem that worries many parents. Many parents will try to reason with their children, while others will let their children experience the hardships of life in an attempt to make them understand the importance of learning. Recently, a piece of news on the Internet caused controversy. Because the child was tired of studying, a father brought his 9-year-old son to the construction site to experience the life of moving steel bars. Within two days, the child regretted it and said that he should study hard after returning to school. The father\’s education methods have been praised by many netizens, but also opposed by many people. How do parents communicate with their children? The most acceptable education method for children. There are many such parents in mobi life. In order for their children to study well, they let them go to rural areas to experience life, pick up garbage, and move bricks at construction sites… Is \”hardship education\” worth promoting? Can children understand the sweetness of learning through the hardships of life? See what the experts have to say! Straightening out educational evaluation and constructing educational defaults. Special observer: Lv Li (Secretary of the Party Committee and Principal of Yuanyang Branch of Beijing Jingshan School) – First of all, parents should distinguish between the suffering of \”making\” and the suffering of \”experience\”, and the suffering of \”labor\” and The pain of “learning”. First, where does \”bitterness\” come from? It comes from the daily grind of sharpening one\’s will and overcoming difficulties, from overcoming every learning difficulty, from the habit of persevering for a long time, and from the grinding of relationships. And it is definitely not made in the name of \”bitterness\”. Second, correctly view the relationship between labor and occupation. For workers, picking up garbage from trash cans and carrying bricks on construction sites are all labor costs. During labor, they may experience not the hardship of life, but the joy and value of labor. Based on this, respecting every worker is the outlook on life that every child should first establish when growing up. Third, experiencing the pain of short-term \”labor\” may not necessarily lead to the sweetness of \”learning\”. \”Hard-working education\” is a long-term project that is poured into the soul and melted into the blood. The concept that \”if you don\’t study hard, you will have to pay the price of life and physical fatigue in the future\” is a disrespect for labor and a failure to respect ideals. \”The pain of labor\” and \”the pain of study\” are two aspects of hard-working education. They are the gathering of efforts, the handshake of peace, the internalization of spirit, and the catalyst on the road to \”study well\”. Secondly, parents and schools must share roles, build educational presets, and produce learning benefits. Falling in love with learning should involve role sharing. Students maximize their strengths and focus on internal drive; parents focus on the process and eliminate anxiety; schools streamline evaluation and focus on diversification; society respects labor and balances relationships. Falling in love with learning should have an awakening function. Through moderate training and education, we can awaken children\’s inner needs and awaken their consciousness to challenge themselves and adapt to difficult environments, so that they can feel beautiful and unforgettable while accepting training and challenges. Falling in love with learning should have educational presets. The mission of school education should be to help a person change from a natural person to a social person, while expanding the length, width and height of his life, and helping everyone become a better self. How to transform \”I want to learn\” into \”I want to learn\” has always been a topic studied by educators. Define the default of education on \”I want to learn\”. Only with interest and internal drive can you want to study hard.The foundation of education; define the presupposition of education on \”I can learn\”, teach methods, and form abilities to have the tools for learning; define the presupposition of education on \”I can learn well\”, and fight for ideals, so that children can have to achieve the learning benefits that can be produced. Moderate \”hardship education\” helps children grow up healthily. Special observer: Tian Guoying (Principal of the Primary School Affiliated to Beijing Medical University) – Many parents believe: \”If a person wants to achieve a big career, he must go through some hardships in order for him to grow.\” But. Simple and crude hard-working education will not only fail to achieve the desired results, but may also lead to children\’s rebellious psychology and worsen the parent-child relationship between children and their parents. Therefore, parents should look at the \”hardship education\” for their children dialectically and not overdo it. Moderate hardship education is beneficial to the growth of children, can sharpen their will, sublimate their realm of life, and enhance their survival skills. On the one hand, parents must have the awareness to let their children endure hardship. You can let your children \”work out\” a little. When children are five or six years old, parents can let them learn some simple housework. For older children, let them do menial and heavy work appropriately, so that they can increase their survival skills and understand the daily hard work of their parents. Purposefully develop children\’s multiple life skills. When children enter middle school, it is necessary to strengthen the cultivation of various life skills so that they have strong hands-on ability. For example, take part in more social activities outside, get in touch with society, and cultivate a spirit of enduring hardship. Criticize and discipline your children appropriately. There is no rule without rules. If a child does something wrong, parents should criticize them when they need to, and they can be more severe. Over time, children will be able to distinguish right from wrong. On the other hand, parents endure hardships with their children. Parents can participate in sports with their children, such as playing ball, swimming, and traveling together, which not only increases the opportunities for communication with their children, but also allows the children to get exercise. Being able to endure hardships comes from the accumulation of little things in daily life, and from the little things that do not compromise. For example: a child and his parents are running, and they will reach the predetermined end point in more than ten meters. The child is panting and does not want to run anymore. The parents encourage the child and run to the end together… Parents accompany their children to endure hardships, which will make them stronger. quality of will. In short, parents should let their children experience some hardships, which will help their physical and mental development, and also prepare them for a smooth and smooth life journey in the future. Find out the reasons why your children don’t like to study and then work harder. Special observer: Sun Dongjun (psychology teacher at Beijing No. 171 Middle School, key teacher in Dongcheng District) – “Parents must first find out the reasons why their children don’t like to study, and break through the reasons one by one. “First, barriers to interpersonal communication lead to children’s inattention to learning. If the child has deficiencies in communication skills, parents can train the child\’s interpersonal skills at home; if the child has incorrect understanding of interpersonal communication, parents can help the child correct misunderstandings and help the child reflect and make corrections. The second is that teachers’ improper education methods lead to children’s rebellious mood towards learning. If a child is not adapted to the teacher\’s teaching methods and is rebellious and resistant to learning, parents should communicate well with the teacher and communicate the child\’s emotions to the teacher tactfully. At the same time, guide children to correctlyFace the teacher’s criticism and education. Third, children encounter difficulties in learning and lack self-confidence. Children encounter problems in understanding and applying knowledge during their studies, and their academic performance is low. Parents should focus on encouragement, sympathize with their children\’s feelings, affirm their children\’s efforts, and encourage their children. This will allow their children to seek support from classmates, parents, and teachers, find suitable learning methods, and gradually improve their performance. Fourth, test scores are low and children are discouraged from studying. Parents can help their children face exam success or failure correctly. If your child\’s performance improves, you can ask your child, \”You have improved in this exam, how did you do it?\” If your child says that he did not do well in the exam, it is because the test questions are too difficult, or the content he reviewed was not tested in the exam. Parents should guide their children in a timely manner: difficult questions and bad luck are uncontrollable factors. Find out what factors you can control. Let the test results become an opportunity for the child to self-examine and reflect, rather than a blow to the child. Learning is not an easy task, and you may encounter various setbacks and challenges. Only when children feel the sense of accomplishment brought by learning under the guidance of parents, can they concentrate on and love learning. Feel the charm of learning and experience the joy of growing up. Special observer: Wang Yuhang (teacher at the Institute of Educational Sciences, Haidian District, Beijing) – In order to make children love learning, parents really try their best, such as letting their children endure the hardships of life and experience the sweetness of learning. . As everyone knows, in the context of the development of the times, parents doing this may cause their children to fall into a narrow understanding of labor and practice. It will not cultivate children\’s love for learning from the root, but will also cause children to misunderstand the role of labor, especially physical labor. and value. How to make children love learning? It is necessary to let children fully feel the charm of learning, experience the joy of growth in the learning process, and achieve the combination of learning process and individual growth. Specifically, we should start from three aspects: stimulating learning motivation, cultivating learning habits, and providing feedback on the learning process. The stimulation of learning motivation is the driving force for children\’s learning and the starting point for their spiritual growth. If parents use test rankings, grades, and success in entering higher education as pressure and goals for their children, the children\’s learning motivation is likely to be short-term goals of quick success and quick gain, and they ignore the cultivation of their own inner desire for knowledge and exploration, and even think that learning is a To make parents happy. If you change the perspective, let children feel that learning is an effective way to understand the world, understand themselves, and feel the charm of human science and technology and culture. It is a process of individual growth and socialization, and learning is a kind of spiritual enjoyment. For example, many parents will ask their children to recite ancient poems. If it is to show their achievements in reciting many poems, the children\’s motivation will be reduced. If you guide children to appreciate the beauty of Chinese characters and engage in spiritual dialogue with the ancients, they may enjoy it endlessly. The cultivation of study habits is the fundamental guarantee for children\’s learning and enables children to learn to learn. I think the most important study habit is concentration. Many parents often unknowingly become helicopter parents, monitoring their children\’s every move all the time. As everyone knows, this will give the child the feeling that \”parents don\’t trust me\” and seriously damage the child\’s development.Concentration. Parents should restrain their impulse to talk to their children and respect their children\’s choice to focus on things that interest them. Feedback on the learning process is a positive incentive for children to learn, allowing children to experience the joy of success and the gift of hard work. The more positive incentives there are, the more happiness the child will experience. He will naturally feel learned diligence and learned happiness, and he will love learning more, thus forming a virtuous cycle. We must also see that with the development of society and the advancement of the times, children\’s learning content will also move from relatively closed textbooks to a broader world, and children\’s learning methods will also change from listening to lectures to immersive, participatory and interactive . We should pay attention to the huge role of the Internet and computers in children\’s growth, and also pay attention to the fact that life practice is also the content and way of learning for children. Parents must keep pace with the times and actively change their concepts so that their children can continue to feel the charm of learning, continue to experience the joy of growth, and help their children grow.