\”When he bought new clothes, he was too embarrassed to wear them to school. He chose the clothes himself. When he met his classmates in the mall, he hid in the toilet and was too embarrassed to say hello. When he went out to play, he always looked at others and did not dare to let go. Play; hide when seeing strangers, refuse to say hello, and get sulky if asked; never raise his hand in school, the teacher said he is a transparent person in the class. \”My child has such low self-esteem, can I change him?\” what do I do? When he was still young, I noticed that my child couldn\’t be polite in public and was always a little coy. I didn\’t criticize him, and even encouraged him to be bolder and be a little man, even though he tried hard sometimes. Pretend to be bold, but lose it after a minute or two. I hate that iron cannot become steel, but I really don’t know how to change my child’s personality. I’m really worried that if he continues like this, he won’t be able to make friends at school and will be easily ostracized and bullied by others. Ask the teacher to give me some advice. The popular science knowledge documentary Dangerous Earth, all 6 episodes in ultra-clear 1080P, is a father\’s request for help. As a parent, he can understand his anxiety and worry. We all hope that our children can be confident and generous, because in our opinion, confident children have better social skills, are more popular, have better ability to withstand frustration, and have a better chance of turning over. So is there any way to quickly increase children’s self-confidence? The answer is: there are no shortcuts. Children\’s self-confidence cannot be developed overnight. But in the process of children growing up, the positive interaction between parents and children is the key to determining whether the child is confident. If you are facing such troubles, or if you want to raise your child to be a confident person, you may wish to take two or three minutes to carefully read these 18 suggestions, which may affect your child\’s life. Don\’t always tell your children that you don\’t want to ask too much. This can\’t be touched, that can\’t be done. If you don\’t say anything to reduce the child\’s passion, it will also give the child a psychological hint: I can\’t do it. Children who are encouraged to try more are more likely to experience the joy of \”success.\” When a child makes progress, specific recognition and praise from parents is the biggest motivation for the child\’s progress. When praising, focus on affirming \”progress\”, \”hard work\”, \”persistence\”, \”habits\”, etc., such as, \”The paintings painted today have more colors than yesterday, and the colors are more vivid when combined.\” When a child fails, don\’t criticize him. Instead, encourage him. Instead of criticizing or scolding him, help him analyze why and what to do. Children with parents who support them will not be depressed even if they encounter similar setbacks next time. Instead, they will have more courage to face them and be able to think of solutions to problems. Let the child do what he can to avoid giving the child the opportunity to be overly dependent. As long as everything within his ability is left to him, I believe he can do it well. This helps to enhance the child\’s personal pride. Such as: brushing teeth and washing face, putting on shoes and clothes, eating and washing dishes, washing socks, tidying up your toys and desk…it is a typical characteristic of children to take children\’s questions seriously. When he asks questions, he is thinking, and parents take them seriously and give their children positive feedback. Even if you can\’t answer on the spot, it\’s not shameful to tell your children the truth, and then find a way to solve it together so that your children can learn how to do it.How to find the answer yourself. Ask children for their opinions more and strengthen their sense of existence. Although children are young, they also have independent personalities. Asking for their opinions more will make them feel cared about and have a strong sense of value. Sometimes, the problem you can\’t figure out may be suddenly enlightened by a child\’s childish words. Ask your children for help more often and ask them to do what they can in a consultative tone, such as \”Please help mom get a glass of water, please?\” Letting your child know that he is needed is the best way to improve his self-confidence. Don\’t compare your child with other children, which can easily hurt your child\’s self-esteem, even if he is really worse than other children. Every child\’s background is different. Comparing one\’s children with one another hurts one\’s children and makes oneself anxious. Comparing one\’s children\’s yesterday with today\’s. Even a little bit of progress is worthy of recognition. Don\’t laugh at your children. From turning over to being able to crawl, from being able to crawl to being able to walk, from being able to walk to being able to run, it\’s all a process. At every stage, the child has his own challenges, so don’t laugh at your child when he is still clumsy. Don\’t spit out hurtful words like \”stupid\”, \”pig brain\” and \”trash\” from your own mouth. Don’t be overly modest and accept praise from others calmly. When others praise your child, don’t choose to be overly modest or even belittle your child out of politeness or to deliberately stimulate your child. Children do deserve to be praised, so why can\’t you accept it kindly and praise other people\’s children by the way? It is neither rude nor disappointing to the children. Do not ask your children to be sensible and love should be unconditional. Don\’t use your own sacrifices and suffering to ask your children to be sensible and obedient, or even use this to achieve the purpose of controlling your children. Children who are imprisoned by love will find it difficult to learn to love themselves throughout their lives. Satisfy his little wishes within your ability. For example, your child has liked a piece of clothing for a long time and begged you to buy it, but you know that you can’t wear it after you buy it home, so it feels like a waste. But if you buy it, your child’s wish will come true. Compared with what you think is a waste, it is more worthwhile for the child to be enveloped in love. Taking your children to get closer can help them play more with their peers, allowing them to explore the \”skills\” of interacting with others during play, and prepare them for their future social skills. You can take your children on many trips, allowing them to experience different cultures and scenery during the journey, and enrich their horizons. Dads, don’t forget to take care of your children. Generally speaking, children whose fathers spend more time with them are more courageous. Because, compared to mother\’s caution, father\’s adventurous spirit can give children a different experience and confidence. Satisfying the most basic right of choice What is the most basic right of choice? For example, if a child wants to wear clothes inside out when going out, wants to wear a scarf when going out in the summer, or wear different shoes… let him make his own decisions as much as possible on matters that have nothing to do with safety, health, and right and wrong. As long as he is happy and happy, you can even praise him as \”so cool\” and \”personalized\”. When he grows up, he won\’t be willing to do it if you ask him to do it. Don\’t criticize in front of others, tell him alone. As the old saying goes: you can\’t blame others. Do not criticize or scold the child in front of many people to protect the child\’s self-esteem; tell the child what he did in privateIf he makes a mistake, what should he do? This is to teach him what is right and wrong. Reject negative nagging. Everyone has a bad temper sometimes, but after your emotions are vented, don’t nag them left and right. Excessive vomiting in front of children will only subtly infect children with negative emotions. Especially crying in front of children all the time will greatly reduce the child\’s self-confidence. You can learn a small amount when learning a skill, but you must learn it well and have a specialty so that you can have the opportunity to show yourself when participating in some activities or competitions, instead of just envious of others while knowing nothing yourself. The above 18 suggestions can be summed up in 12 words: be accepted, be understood, be needed, and be respected. Family is a child\’s first foundation. Confident children all have similar growth environments, while unconfident children have their own misfortunes. May we all have a confident child! May he be happy being himself!