In the eyes of many parents, mobile phones are more powerful than tigers. In order to prevent their children from being addicted to mobile phones, many parents use coercion and inducement and use various methods, but their children\’s addiction to mobile phones has not subsided at all, and has even become more serious. So why don’t any of the parents’ methods work? In fact, there is a complete process for children to go from being addicted to mobile phones to being able to put down their mobile phones by themselves. But many parents don’t know the entire process. Many parents have used this method to successfully enable their children to put down their mobile phones and study by themselves. So what does this process look like? Let children release the sense of scarcity. Why can’t children get enough of playing with their mobile phones? Behind this is actually a sense of scarcity at work. No matter how long the child plays, as long as he feels dissatisfied while playing, the sense of scarcity will exist and he will always want to play. If you want your children to be less addicted to mobile phones, you must first let them release their sense of scarcity. How to release the feeling of scarcity? It means that parents should let go and let their children have fun. Many parents will think that if they let him play, he will have to play in a dark way. How can that be done? But in fact, this process is necessary. This is the process by which children release their sense of scarcity. The process of releasing the sense of scarcity actually doesn\’t take that long, and the child plays it day and night. It may take less than three days for him to feel tired of playing with his mobile phone. But the premise is that no matter how the child plays, the parents will accept it and will not nag him or preach to him. Some parents may ask, will playing with mobile phones still make me tired? If you have ever let yourself fly like this and try to play for a whole day, you will believe that this is the case. The same goes for children. After playing for a long time, their brains, eyes, and other aspects will feel tired. But if the child\’s sense of scarcity is not released, even if he feels tired, he will not admit it, because he will feel that as soon as he says he is tired, his parents will nag and preach and stop him from playing. And this was something he was unwilling to accept. Even if the sense of scarcity is released, the child may still be unwilling to admit to his parents that he is tired because the parent-child relationship has not yet been repaired. So how to repair the parent-child relationship? In fact, letting go is also a process of repairing the parent-child relationship. When you first understand what your children are playing with and let go, the children will not trust their parents that much. Even if you say you allow him to play as he pleases, he may still play behind your back or lock the door and play in the room. Fan Deng Reading Club’s Five Compulsory Courses in Family Education for New Parents [Video + Audio] After parents really accept it, the children will gradually stop locking the door; then they will gradually dare to play in the living room; and then slowly, you will If you get close to him or look at him, he may still feel a little nervous involuntarily, but he won\’t go back to the room right away. This process is a great progress, indicating that children have begun to have some trust in their parents. When the parents sit next to them and the children dare to continue playing with themselves, this is the opportunity. what chance? It is an opportunity for parents to get to know their children. Parents can ask him what he is playing and watching. After such a long period of testing, the child has believed that his parents will not nag him about playing on his mobile phone, so he is willing to talk about it at this time. But parents must pay attention, they are not trying to cheatLu him, not thinking about continuing to control him, but simply out of curiosity to understand him. Otherwise, the previous efforts may be in vain. In the process of understanding, parents can also learn about some of their children\’s outstanding qualities and interests through observation. After understanding this, parents will have more common topics with their children, and the parent-child relationship will further improve. In the process of accompanying, parents should focus on observing their children\’s emotions and states while playing with mobile phones. For example, how long did the child play, how long did his posture change to half-lying, and how long did it take for him to become sleepy? Parents should observe and record this process. Reflection and review, continuous adjustment, reflection and review are the beginning of a child\’s growth. But if parents do not allow their children to release their sense of scarcity, do not play with them, and do not observe and record their emotional state during play, then the review will definitely be impossible. After all the above is done, the parent-child relationship becomes harmonious, and the child has trust in the parent, only then will the child tell the truth when you ask him what he played and how he felt. After playing for a long time, the child will feel tired. He doesn\’t want to play anymore, but he can\’t stop. This feeling will make the child feel painful. This is an opportunity to take your children to review and adjust. At this time, parents stand on their children\’s side, discuss solutions with their children, and make plans for playing with mobile phones. Children are the ones who dare to discuss with their parents and are willing to discuss and make adjustments. I made a plan to play with my mobile phone, but when I implemented it the next day, my child still couldn\’t do it. For example, if you plan to take a break after playing for an hour, your child still won’t be able to stop. This is normal because children need a buffer time when adjusting. At this time, parents should remind their children. If they still can\’t stop, they will remind them again after a few minutes. If they still haven\’t stopped after three reminders, there is no need to say more. Leave a sentence of \”I believe you can do it\” and then leave it aside. Just watch him. Then parents have to review the situation with their children and think about how to adjust. Then on the second and third days, as long as the parents can trust him, encourage him, and constantly guide him to reflect and adjust, the child\’s self-control ability will be developed and he will be able to control the mobile phone by himself. If you want your children to be able to control their fun mobile phones on their own, they must go through the three links of letting go, accompanying them, and reviewing them. No link should be missing, and they must be repeated continuously to form a closed loop. The biggest challenge for parents in the whole process is whether they can accept the current situation, stabilize their emotions, and repair the mutual trust relationship with their children. If you can do this, your child will become more and more independent.