After becoming a mother, I can no longer just leave. Not to mention going on a trip, even if you want to go downstairs to buy a green onion, it is as troublesome as learning a lesson. Children will never cooperate and will chase you every minute. What a fun game to play, if you can\’t help but roar! Well, the baby curled his lips, sat there and howled, and couldn\’t even move anymore! If you are patient, you will really have to put it off until the end of time, twisting and wrestling with you while putting on your clothes, kicking off your right leg with your left leg when putting on your trousers, kicking off your left leg when you put on your right leg, forcing you to stand if you sit down. He insists on lying down while standing, and when you turn around to grab a bag, he plays with something again and says not to leave… In short, every time you go out is a battle, summer is better, I just need to get my shoes, winter is so miserable, I’m already sweating before I even go out! In fact, there is no child who does not procrastinate. They lack the sense of time, their attention is easily diverted, their limbs are uncoordinated and clumsy, and they hate being controlled by adults. Most importantly, they lack the motivation to \”get up quickly\” and are \”late\” It makes no sense to them at all, so how can you expect him to act quickly? At the beginning, I tried various ways to solve this problem of going out: for example, letting children experience the natural result of being \”late\”. Many articles said that letting children experience being late will make them know that they will miss some fun things if they procrastinate, or If you are punished, you will remember the lesson next time. This may be suitable for children after school age. The younger the child, the harder it is for this trick to work because their memory is really bad. Even if they cried so hard because they missed an activity last time, they will still procrastinate next time. , if you remind him, he will not understand it half-heartedly and will not remember it at all. Not to mention that sometimes I have to catch a car or a plane, which is simply unbearable. For another example, giving a delicious food as a reward is very useful at first. After using it twice, the child starts to push his nose and face, and discuss with you, no, I don’t like this! No, I want to eat now! No, I want more! While discussing, he continued to dilly-dally, and you threatened not to reward him, so he spent extra time to make trouble with you. For example, it is useless to leave time for children to dilly-dally. No matter how long it takes, the child will be annoyed. He will waste time in various ways. If you think it\’s still early, he will be even less anxious. When it\’s time to go out, there will always be something wrong. He has successfully interpreted what it means to \”get up early and catch the evening market\”. Children really don’t know where the time has gone. The only useful method is to attract the child with things he is interested in, such as going out to play, watching trains and planes, meeting friends… Children are looking forward to it and will be more active in their actions, but in life Where are there so many things to attract children? You always have to take your children to the supermarket, to the hospital, to kindergarten, and other places they don’t want to go, but you can’t lie to them, so how can you drag them out of the house quickly? Over such a long period of time, I have figured out my own method, which can successfully get two babies out of the house within ten minutes. The main idea is very simple.Children strongly feel the \”fast\” atmosphere. Children have no concept of time. If you say \”quick, quick, quick\”, they don\’t understand what fast is at all. They will only think that you are in a bad mood. Your bad mood will infect them, making them nervous and stressed, and want to escape, so More grinding. Therefore, parents should set an example, stop emotional contagion, and instead use actions to tell their children what happiness means. Ten minutes before you are ready to leave, tell your child that we are going out in 5 minutes. Then the child will do whatever he likes. You first prepare the things for going out. Note that when you prepare, your movements should be as big and exaggerated as possible. Walk quickly back and forth next to your child, pack the bag next to your child, and let your child hear you stuffing things into the bag and zipping the zipper. After preparing and counting the things, he threw the bag heavily at the door, and then put all the clothes for the children to wear when going out and put them next to the door. The next step, please note, is not to start messing with the child, but to start putting on clothes and shoes yourself, and tell the child that mom is leaving and you should come over quickly. Note that the process of putting on clothes and shoes by yourself requires a little more drama to achieve the effect of \”it looks very fast, but actually it takes some time\”. For example, take out the coat and put it on first. Shake it a few times, then put it on your body, put it on your body, and quickly adjust the sleeves twice when you put them in. In short, you need to make more fake movements to create a tense atmosphere. If the couple packs and puts on clothes together, the atmosphere will be more intense. Under the strong atmosphere, it is difficult for children to sit still. They are small animals that are particularly sensitive to changes in the surrounding environment. If the child is a little slow and unmoved, you can open the door and pretend to go out. The child will definitely be unable to sit still and run towards you. At this time, the child is asking for something from you. If you change his clothes or something, he is at your mercy. It will be done in the shortest possible time. The door is a magical place. As long as you stop there, it will naturally create a sense of urgency. It is more effective than saying \”hurry up, hurry up\” a hundred times. Everything is done at the door, and it will be particularly efficient. For a while, I even combed my daughter’s pigtails at the door. If your child is older and wants to wear his own clothes, you can throw the clothes to him, pack his things, and move closer to the door. Let the child fight with the clothes for a while. It will be fine if he is dressed well. , seeing that you are ready and standing at the door, he will naturally become anxious and be willing to let you help. Note that during the process of going out, you only need to verbally tell your child once that we are going out. You must not say it a second time. Once you say it a second time, you will fall into the same old routine again. The child will know that the more you urge, the more likely you are to go out. The more you know how to wait for him, the less anxious you will be. All the information of \”anxious\”, \”urgent\” and \”going to go\” must be conveyed to your children through your own actions and body language. Therefore, parents can practice their acting skills in private. Of course, the first time you do this, the atmosphere is too strong, and the child may cry anxiously, but it doesn’t matter. After getting familiar with it twice, the child will understand.Unlock the rhythm of the door and start to become more and more cooperative. Anyway, since I started doing this, the problem of taking the baby out has not been a problem for me, and the two kids can be taken out of the house within ten minutes. The only thing that bothers me a little is that because I am too involved in the drama, I am not calm enough. I always forget to bring things, which is a bit buggy, but the flaws are not hidden… Mothers who have difficulty taking their children out, you might as well give it a try!