Since I was a child, I have been accustomed to my father\’s high voice. No matter who he spoke to, he always stared with big eyes and his voice was like a bell. Then my uncle also seems to have a naturally loud voice when talking to people. In my mother\’s words, when these two brothers talk to people, it always seems like they are quarreling. Can\’t they lower their voices and speak slowly and clearly? Later, when I grew up and got married, one day I suddenly discovered that the way my father-in-law and mother-in-law talked was very interesting. They never spoke loudly. They spoke slowly, word by word, and calmly. Only then did I realize that this is how normal speaking should be. It also reminds me that when we educate our children on weekdays, we always talk and unknowingly raise our voices and emotions. We force our children to look at our faces and judge the seriousness of things based on the volume of our voices. Speaking is an art. If we want to teach our children how to speak, we need to practice it ourselves and set a good example for our children. Thinking of that sentence that many people have heard, I post it here. I hope that everyone, like me, can remember it. When talking to children and educating children, they can also teach them this: Urgent matters, Speak slowly; speak clearly about big things; speak humorously about small things; speak cautiously about things you are not sure about; don\’t talk nonsense about things that haven\’t happened; don\’t talk nonsense about things you can\’t do; don\’t talk nonsense about things that hurt others. Say; if you hate something, say it to the person but not to the person; if you are happy, say it depending on the occasion. What is low-key education? Whispering education is the opposite of educating children by shouting. Parents or kindergarten teachers are often at a loss because of poor results in disciplining their children. No matter whether you are persuading or educating by shouting and commanding, the children will completely ignore you. If you often loudly reprimand children who have done something wrong, not only will it not be effective, but it will have a negative impact on the child\’s character development and mental health. At this time, you should consider switching to a low-pitched education method. Low-pitched education – scientific basis Psychologists have conducted research on what tone of voice should be used to express certain things, and found that different tones will have different effects when dealing with the same thing. When adults criticize children, children are more likely to accept it if they use a low tone. . This is because: 1. A low tone can make people more rational and calm, and can also relax children\’s psychological defenses of resistance and rebelliousness, which is conducive to communication. 2. Criticizing the child in a low voice can not only focus the other person\’s hearing, but also preemptively prevent the child from using a high tone. In life, we often see adults scolding children loudly, and the children\’s voices of resistance are not low. Both parties become more and more agitated. In the end, the adults are very angry and the children are not convinced. 3. A low tone of voice can drive away anger. Parents are the longest-serving teachers in their children\’s lives. The words and deeds of adults have the greatest impact on their children. Parents who are irritable, uncool, and scold loudly when things happen will definitely have a subtle influence on their children\’s character. Low-tone education – Method 1: Lower your voice when criticizing children. Low-tone education can make people more rational and calm. It can also relax children\’s psychological defense lines of resistance and rebelliousness, which is conducive to communication. Criticizing children in a low voice is not only okayFocus the other person\’s hearing, but also preemptively prevent the child from using a high-pitched voice. In life, we often see adults scolding children loudly, and the children\’s voices of resistance are not low. Both parties become more and more agitated. In the end, the adults are very angry and the children are not convinced. 2. Use the correct tone and wording. For many parents, it is difficult to control themselves from criticizing their children. Therefore, please think twice before speaking and use the appropriate tone and wording, and the effect will be very good. For example, \”I love you, but I can\’t accept your behavior.\” This kind of statement may feel very stiff at first, but after a while, the child will naturally understand what you mean. 3. Explain to them the requirements you expect your children to do, such as taking your children to the supermarket, telling them not to touch the products, and warning them what the consequences will be if they violate it. You need to follow through from start to finish without shouting threats. 4. Don’t use language that hurts your child’s self-esteem. Don’t vent your emotions to your child at will. Don’t use language that hurts your child’s self-esteem. Every child hopes to be respected by others, including parents, and this kind of respect and trust will give children self-confidence and is an important motivation for them to move forward. Every parent hopes that their children will succeed, but beating and scolding education is definitely not the best way, and the temporary effect will not last long.