Children cannot grow without their families, and families have a great influence on children. Some children are outstanding, while others are mediocre. These are all the effects of family education. As parents, of course we want our children to become outstanding people, so what kind of family education is correct? Let Mama Dandan sum it up for everyone! Good parents are learned. There are no born successful parents, and there are no parents who do not need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement. An excellent mother even said: Many people think that I am very relaxed, saying that your child is so good that you don’t need to worry about it at all. But as everyone knows, I actually have one eye open even when I sleep at night! A good mother takes nip in the bud, but an unqualified mother\’s child\’s problem is already serious. Even the teacher has talked to the child, and she is not aware of the problem. Entering the 21st century, the information society has higher and higher requirements for people\’s quality. All positions require training and assessment. However, it seems that only childbirth and education do not require training. It seems that you will automatically be employed and will never be laid off. In fact, this understanding it is wrong. Everyone must learn relevant knowledge before becoming a parent. The earlier the awareness and knowledge about how to be a parent are prepared, the better and the more fully the better. Good children are all taught. Mommy Dandan has come into contact with hundreds of excellent parents. One thing they have in common is that they put a lot of effort into educating their children! Some people may say that if there are so many parents who are illiterate, can’t they educate good children? In fact, it is not that illiterate people cannot educate, these parents are also masters at educating their children. \”Focus Interview\” once introduced the deeds of An Jinpeng, the world middle school student Mathematical Olympiad gold medalist. His family was extremely poor. He had been admitted to a key middle school but had no money to go to school. His father said that his children should go to work, but they still had no jobs after going to college. What’s more, you didn’t know whether you would be able to go to college. But my mother firmly disagreed and sold the only donkey in the family. The child is the only one in middle school who can\’t even afford vegetarian food, and the only one who can\’t even use soap. According to this, the child is entirely dependent on himself, right? After asking in person, I found out that although this mother had not even graduated from elementary school, she had made her children master the four arithmetic operations before elementary school. Only this point, how many parents who graduated from college can do it? Good habits are cultivated. Many parents blame their children\’s bad habits on the school, the teachers, and the children, but they do not blame themselves. In fact, most of the habits in children, whether good or bad, are cultivated by our parents intentionally or unintentionally. In fact, parents are teaching all the time, but they are not aware that they are teaching. This is \”subtle education\”, which is an essential education that is much more powerful than \”explicit education\”. Excellent children are mostly the result of high-quality education, while problem children are mostly the product of problem families. Most of children\’s problems are not caused by the children themselves, but are a reflection of their parents\’ problems. Parents are often the biggest creators of children\’s problems, and they are also the biggest obstacle for children to correct their mistakes and shortcomings. The most urgent thing to educate is not the children;Parents, without the changes of the parents, there will be no changes of the children. There are no children who don’t want to learn well, there are only children who cannot learn well; there are no children who cannot educate well, there are only parents who cannot educate them well. Good grades come from help. Regarding quality education and exam-oriented education, the whole society must have a correct understanding. Exam-oriented education is an issue that neither schools nor parents can avoid, and schools and parents need to work together to adapt. According to statistics, there are nearly 10 million \”idle\” minors in our country. The so-called idle minors refer to children who should be studying in school but do not want to study and choose to drop out of school. 94% of these are the result of academic failure. Being behind in school, being tired of studying, skipping school, and running away from home have become the four steps of today\’s juvenile crime. Therefore, it has become a duty of our parents to help our children adapt to exam-oriented education. The best way to help our children reduce their burden is to increase our parents\’ burden, that is, our parents can become their children\’s mentors. Of course, good grades are brought about by school teachers, but today, when competition in exam-oriented education is so fierce, these good grades are increasingly soaked in the sweat of parents. Good communication can only be heard. For parents whose children have entered junior high school or high school, there is a common confusion that it is difficult to communicate with their children. Children entering puberty and mothers entering menopause have more conflicts, not only because they are in a period of internal psychological turmoil, but more importantly, both are under great external pressure. Children face the pressure of going to school, and mothers face the pressure of career. pressure, which requires enhanced communication. Most excellent parents do a good job in this regard. Their good communication comes from consciously following the following three principles: The first step is to listen, which is to let the child speak out and understand the true meaning of the child\’s words. . The second step is understanding, which is to think about whether it makes sense from the child\’s perspective. The third step is advice. Children who make sense may not necessarily take the right action, so parents should give advice here. Of the three steps, listening is the hardest for parents to do. Good achievements are all about intelligence, not the most important thing. What is more important than intelligence is will, what is more important than will is mind, and what is more important than mind is a person\’s character. Unfortunately, nowadays, instead of more and more people paying attention to moral character, there are fewer and fewer people. As for a person\’s mind and ambition, it is an overseas legend that parents don\’t want to hear, because it has nothing to do with current test scores! In fact, these are the most important things in a person\’s growth. When we read biographies, we are often deeply impressed by the protagonist\’s extraordinary childhood. The reason is that this achievement motivation has a huge impact on a person. The most important factors such as will, mind, and moral character are not effective through parents’ preaching—this kind of “explicit education”—but through parents’ behaviors—that is, “subtle education”—that are incorporated into the flesh and blood of children. . The best way to let children develop a big mind, in addition to setting a good example as parents, is to let children read more classics and biographies of famous people, so that children from an early age can learn to see society and themselves through the eyes of famous people.