I attended a friend\’s birthday party a few days ago. The children who came to the party with their adults each held a mobile phone in their hands. They were very focused on playing and had almost no communication with each other. My friend said with emotion: \”Times have changed. When we were children, we used to chase and play, but now children play with mobile phones.\” After hearing what my friend said, I just felt very sad. The more people move into the era of mobile phones, the more parents must pay attention to avoid raising a child who is addicted to mobile phones. Especially during the summer vacation, there is no regular schedule, no discipline from school teachers, and parents are busy with affairs all day long. It is difficult to provide effective supervision. It is easy for children to be addicted to mobile phones during the holidays! 1. The harm caused by mobile phones to children. An American psychologist published the results of his ten-year study, which are shocking. The scientist selected 100 children from lower-middle-class families across the country 10 years ago and divided them into two groups: 50 children who had no access to mobile phones and 50 children who were obsessed with mobile phones. Then follow them up. Ten years later, the survey results are as follows: only 2 of 50 children who are obsessed with mobile phones have been admitted to college. Almost all of the other 50 children who did not use mobile phones were admitted to college, and only three children chose to help at home after graduating from high school. Of these children who were admitted to college, 16 received full scholarships from the school. A test by the University of Clermont-Ferrand in France showed that when children use mobile phones, their brains absorb 60% more electromagnetic waves than adults. Some time ago, the British \”Daily Mail\” even wrote an article pointing out that children\’s use of mobile phones can cause memory loss, sleep disorders and other health problems. Dr. Gerard Kedu of the University of Warwick in the UK warned that mobile phone radiation will destroy the normal function of the child\’s nervous system, causing memory loss, headaches, poor sleep and a series of other problems. How are cell phones ruining children? ✘ Smartphones affect children’s health. News about smartphones harming children’s vision, causing blindness, or injuring children’s cervical vertebrae, causing deformation of children’s cervical vertebrae are common. These injuries are tangible and can be seen to be believed. In addition, children who are addicted to smartphones often show a negative attitude towards exercise, resulting in low exercise ability, which in turn affects the child\’s growth and development. ✘ Mobile phones cause children to suffer from depression. Some experts say that the more time spent on mobile phones and the more people like to stay at home, the higher the chance of suffering from depression. Children who often play with mobile phones have a higher proportion of depression. higher than the average child. ✘ Mobile phone damage to brain nerves Children’s physiological structure and physiological form are different from adults. The electromagnetic wave radiation generated by mobile phones, tablet computers and other radio equipment is far more harmful to children’s nervous system than adults. Excessive exposure to electromagnetic wave radiation will have adverse effects on children’s health and cognition. have a certain impact. ✘ Mobile phones delay children’s learning. Children who like to play with mobile phones are accustomed to the relaxing and pleasant information brought by mobile phones. They feel boring about learning knowledge and their academic performance declines. After being criticized, they need to find comfort in the mobile phone network, forming a vicious circle. Children gradually lose their desire for knowledge and become tired of learning. Addicted to the world of mobile phones all day long, spending time studyingNaturally, less time and energy will be spent on studying, and over time, academic performance will inevitably decline. ✘ It can easily lead to sleep disorders. Everyone may know that children’s frequent use of smartphones can cause vision loss. But what\’s even more frightening is that it can cause sleep problems. A health institution in California, USA, conducted a survey on the impact of mobile phone light on children\’s sleep compared with daily light. Ten children were put into two rooms respectively. The children in one house watched TV before going to bed. It took 28 hours. Falling asleep within minutes; children in another room who played with smartphones generally fell asleep after 39 minutes. Of course, we don’t recommend that children watch TV before going to bed. So, how to guide children to use mobile phones rationally and prevent them from being overly addicted to mobile phones? 2. Different intervention measures should be taken for each age group. 1-3 years old: Try to keep children away from mobile phones. The retina of young children will not be fully developed until they are 12 years old. Before that, they should have as little contact with mobile electronic products as possible. The more children who are exposed to electronic products (mobile games/TV) at the age of two or three, the more likely they are to develop attention disorders (such as ADHD) at the age of seven or eight. Suggestion: Parents try not to play with mobile phones in front of their children, interact more with their children, and actively update their children\’s toys. Parents are prohibited from downloading any games on their mobile phones to prevent children from asking for mobile phone play due to game addiction. If your child is curious about mobile phones, you can demonstrate to your child how to make phone calls, send voice messages, take photos, etc. to build your child\’s correct understanding of the uses of mobile phones. 3-6 years old: Try to keep children away from mobile games. Many parents occasionally leave their children to mobile games to \”look after\” them for a moment of peace. However, children aged 3-6 are still young and lack self-control. Once exposed to games, they are easily addicted. Therefore, children of this age can have appropriate access to mobile phones, such as letting them understand that mobile phones can make calls, chat with people, video and other basic purposes, but they must stay away from mobile games. Recommendation: Parents and family members should de-entertain their mobile phones, that is, delete games, music, videos and other apps that may attract children. Even if children want to play with mobile phones, they will not find it interesting other than flipping through photo albums and taking photos. Naturally, they will not keep pestering their parents for mobile phones to play with. Actively cultivate children\’s reading habits and read children\’s picture books with them more often. (The colors and stories of picture books are also more attractive to children. As long as children fall in love with reading, they will basically not think about playing with mobile phones.) Enrich children\’s life experience, take children out to experience nature more, and encourage children to make more friends friend. 7-12 years old: It is not appropriate to forcefully suppress children of this age group regarding mobile phone issues. Children of this age have entered the second stage of psychological rebelliousness, that is, the child rebellious period. Children in the rebellious stage have a strong sense of self and independence and will become stubborn and bad-tempered. Sometimes, even if they make sense, their parents will be speechless. When faced with children\’s addiction to mobile phones, many parents commonly use the following methods: First, they use their status as parents to force them (I said you are not allowed to play, so you are not allowed to play/If you continue to play, you will have no food to eat/If you continue to play, I will beat you); Second, they use the threat of parent-child relationship ( I won’t want you if I play again/I won’t like you if I play again). Both methods do more harm than good. If things go on like this, it will not only seriously damage the parent-child relationship, but also aggravate the children\’s dependence on mobile phones.dependence and addiction. Suggestion: Negotiate with your children to set the length and frequency of playing with mobile phones as rules that must be followed. If violated, you can be punished by taking on household chores. Parents should be aware of their own emotions and motivations, and the goal is \”the child stops playing mobile games\” rather than \”the child obediently stops playing mobile games.\” Allow children to express dissatisfaction such as talking back and crying. Parents should try to understand their children’s feelings and stance. For example, parents want their children to finish their homework first before playing on their mobile phones. Instead of saying “Do your homework now,” say “I know this game is fun, but you must finish your homework first.” . I\’ll watch you finish playing this game, and then you can do your homework, okay?\” 12-18 years old: Appropriate intervention to guide children to use mobile phones rationally. Children of this age are in the prelude to adolescence, and their ideological and cognitive levels are relatively high. High, and already possess certain self-control and self-management abilities. Parents should insist on appropriate intervention and reasonable use. Confiscating it directly, yelling at it in anger, or even beating it up are all approaches that treat the symptoms but not the root cause. Mobile phones are like a double-edged sword. They can harm children, but they can also help them. The key lies in how to use them. Suggestion: Pay more attention to children’s psychological and behavioral changes and give them a certain amount of personal space. Many teenagers are addicted to mobile phones because they are curious about sex. Parents can ask questions and educate them tactfully. For example, teach children some basic sexual knowledge through WeChat, Qiankou or email. After communication and trust are established, negotiate with your children to formulate rules for playing with mobile phones, such as whether they can be taken to school to play with, when they can play with mobile phones, how long they can play at one time, and what kind of punishment there will be if they exceed the time limit, etc. Treat children\’s use of mobile phones correctly and guide them to rationally use the positive effects of mobile phones, such as it is more convenient to read e-books on mobile phones, search for learning information on mobile phones, etc. Maybe after reading so much, many parents still have a headache when it comes to actually doing it. How to find a balance between parents personally accompanying their children and letting their children use electronic products? Parents can try the following three tricks. 3. Parents do this. If their children are not addicted to mobile phones, every parent will be worried when they see their children playing with mobile phones. In fact, if you want to prevent your children from being addicted to mobile phones, you can do this: 1. Provide your children with high-quality company. Once when we were eating in a restaurant, there was a family of three sitting next to us. The child wanted to talk to his parents, but his parents were always there. Look at your phone. Seeing that the child couldn\’t call his parents and had nothing to do, he would look at his father\’s phone for a while, then his mother\’s phone, and finally the content on his father\’s phone was more interesting, so he followed his father and watched it with relish. The picture of this family of three soon turned into three quiet mobile phone users, with almost no interaction throughout the whole process. I believe that in such a process, the emotions between parents and children must be unable to circulate. Many times, we think that staying with our children means we are accompanying them, but we don’t know that such careless companionship can only bring harm to our children. Only with attentive companionship can children feel the love of their parents, and this is also the nutrient that children need most for healthy growth. The deepest love for a child is to provide him with high-quality companionship. 2. Cultivate children’s interestI remember when I was in elementary school, my brother and I would play game consoles at home during the summer vacation, and we would play all day long. It’s not that the game console is so fun, but that we really don’t know what to do. Psychologists have studied that when children have nothing to do and no good direction for activities, it is natural to choose the visual stimulation brought by mobile phones. If a child has his own interests and hobbies, and he only has so much time every day, he will naturally not be completely addicted to his mobile phone. 3. Parents lead by example. A friend said that her son used to love playing with his mobile phone and would never leave his hand all day long. This made her very worried and she tried various methods, but to no avail. Later, she applied for a public account and started writing. Because of writing, she had to read more books and spent less and less time looking at her mobile phone. Soon after, she discovered that her son\’s frequency of looking at his mobile phone was also decreasing. What surprised her even more was that his son dug out a long-lost picture book and wanted to read it with his mother. My friend said, \”If you plant flowers intentionally, they will not bloom, but if you plant willows unintentionally, they will be shaded.\” In the past, I tried my best but could not get what I asked for. Unexpectedly, I actually had this key with me. When I put down my phone, my child also put it down. Everyone is happy, that\’s all. When raising children, educate yourself first. What kind of person you want your children to become, let yourself become such a person first. A good education is always influenced by the subtle influence of the family. Parents do not give up on self-improvement, hold hands with their children, and both grow into better versions of themselves. This is the most beautiful form of education.