\”Mom, wash an apple for me.\” \”The apple is in the kitchen, wash it yourself.\” \”Then I won\’t eat it.\” \”You kid.\” The friend got up helplessly and washed the apple for his son. \”Why don\’t you cut it up? How can I eat such a big apple?\” The friend just sat down and stood up again because of his son\’s words. When I saw this scene, I felt a faint worry in my heart, both for my children and my friends. My friend\’s son is 10 years old, and his attitude of \”everything mom does should be taken for granted\” makes people a little angry. Cai Lixu talks about discipleship in detail 40 episodes mp4+mp3+pdf full series 5.1GB However, who can say that children’s attitudes have nothing to do with their parents? I advised my friends to let their children do some housework and let them do their own things. I wonder if my friends listened. In fact, there are many situations like this at friends\’ houses where the children do nothing at home and the parents do everything. I have seen such a set of data. The average working time of primary school students in the United States is 1.2 hours per day, and in South Korea is 0.7 hours. However, the average working time of primary school students in China is only 12 minutes per day. The hours that Chinese children work every day are surprisingly short. As parents, we usually pay special attention to cultivating children\’s various abilities, but we forget to cultivate children\’s working ability. Psychologists believe that today’s parents want their children to spend their time on things that can bring them success. But the irony is that we have given up on one project that really leads to success in our children – housework. The impact of housework on children is far beyond your imagination. Children who do housework have better academic performance. A Harvard study found that compared with children who do not like to do housework, the employment rate as adults is 15:1 and the crime rate is 1:10. Children who love doing housework have higher mental health index and family happiness index. Children who love doing housework tend to perform better academically. In 2014, the Chinese Academy of Educational Sciences conducted a survey on the family education status of 20,000 primary school students in four provinces and cities: Beijing, Heilongjiang, Jiangxi and Shandong. The results show that children who can do housework have better academic performance. Children who do housework are 27 times more likely to achieve excellent results than children who do not do housework. Steven Chu, winner of the Nobel Prize in Physics and U.S. Secretary of Energy, said: \”It\’s hard to imagine that children who can only read and can\’t even fry or boil eggs would know how to do experiments.\” Steven Chu has three brothers. All received doctorate degrees. Their family is known as \”the most awesome Chinese family in American history\” with \”12 Ph.D.s and three generations of professors.\” What kind of education method can we cultivate so many promising children and grandchildren? Steven Chu mentioned that his mother asked them to learn to cook for themselves. Child psychologist Piaget pointed out: Children first develop their thinking through actions. The more they like to do things, the better it is for brain development. When children are doing housework, their fingers will make some complex and delicate movements, which will increase blood flow to the brain, making the child\’s thinking more agile. At the same time, in the process of doing housework, children\’s limbs will be fully exercised, their hand-eye coordination will be improved, and their hands-on ability will be stronger. Children make houseNot only will it not delay children\’s learning, it will actually help improve their performance. Children who do housework are more responsible. At a night market stall in Xi\’an, Shaanxi Province, a 13-year-old boy was serving food to customers. A reporter asked him: \”Why are you taking care of the stall here?\” The boy said: \”Because my mother is working very hard, and I want to help.\” The child\’s words made people feel warm. Mom must be very happy to have such a caring child. She remembered that she and her colleagues were on a business trip. On the way back, she received a call from her son: \”Mom, I\’ve stewed the rice and cut the vegetables. I\’m just waiting for you to come back.\” As both old mothers, at that moment, I was moved by other people’s babies. A child who knows how to do housework often has a good sense of family, understands the hard work of his family, understands sharing and responsibility, and will be filled with love for his family. I watched a video in which a little girl about 5 years old talked about the difference between family members and guests: \”What is a family? Everyone helps each other.\” \”A guest is someone who eats and plays at home. I\’ll leave.\” The difference between family members and guests in the little girl\’s mouth is also what we need to teach our children. Housework is a matter for the whole family, and children are part of the family. As a member of the family, children have the responsibility and obligation to do housework. The process of doing housework will teach children to share and take responsibility, and enjoy the joy of contributing to the family. If you want your children to have a sense of responsibility in the family, taking on household chores is the best way. Do housework to make children more independent. Remember a piece of news. A 22-year-old boy spent 2 million yuan studying abroad for 2 years, but in the end he couldn\’t even get a diploma. After returning to China, he played games at home every day, and his grandma even fed him meals. This 22-year-old boy comes from a divorced family. His grandmother takes good care of him in life, and his parents respond to his needs. Growing up in an environment where his family took care of everything, the boy enjoyed the care of his family as a matter of course and almost lost the ability to take care of himself. The love of family members eventually becomes the sword that hurts the children the most. Parents who do everything for their children in every detail will only make their children go further and further on the road to independence. A German mother’s experience in teaching integrity and self-discipline: Teach good children who are strong + independent + tolerant + thrifty. A Jewish mother of Chinese descent, Sarah, raised three children alone. The three children are all very outstanding, two sons are worth over 100 million yuan, and one daughter has grown into an outstanding diplomat. Her education method is: let the children participate in the work at home. She encouraged her children to sell spring rolls in the market and earn money through their own labor. In this process, the children realized how difficult it was for their mother and took the initiative to help their mother shoulder the burden of the family. At the same time, children become increasingly confident and independent. Sarah wrote in her parenting book \”Special Cruelty, Special Love\”: The love Chinese parents give their children is not too little but too much. I can’t bear to let them experience the hardships of life since childhood, and I don’t know how to ask for them at the right time. This ultimately leads to a lifetime of hardship for the children, who have to ask for things from their parents all their lives! A child\’s ability to do housework is the ability to take care of himself. Children will eventually leave their parents and live alone. The ability to take care of themselves is the most basic survival skill for children.. A child who can solve life problems on his own must also be able to take care of his own life. Only when you are willing to use your children can you really love them. Children naturally like to do labor. Later, the reason why they are unwilling to do it or are unaware of doing housework is often because of their parents\’ obstruction. Many parents have had this experience: when their children are two or three years old, they always like to follow us, rushing to help us wash fruits, clean tables, and move chairs. If parents often reject their children, the children may give up completely and stop fighting. And a child who is always allowed to participate in labor will become happier as they do it. For children, the process of doing housework can give them a sense of satisfaction, which is more fulfilling than any material rewards and praise. Psychologists suggest that children can do some simple housework from 9 months old. Conscious guidance from parents can help children develop good habits from an early age. Psychologist Seidez said: People are like ceramics, and early childhood is like the clay used to make ceramics. What kind of education will be given will determine the prototype. No matter how much you do to help your child, it is better to teach him a skill that will benefit him throughout his life. A primary school in Shanghai has included housework as homework, and the chores for students in grades one to five are in increasing order of difficulty. The first grade students are asked to do simple housework such as dressing and putting away tableware, and the fifth grade students are required to be able to cook or cook wontons by themselves. The launch of this chore list has also received support from many netizens. Doing housework is an indispensable part of a child\’s growth. It should not be something that parents remind or force them to do. I wish more parents would realize this. If your child never or rarely does chores, it’s not too late to start teaching them today. Let children manage their skills independently and arrange time reasonably. All three volumes PDF. If you love your child, let him do what he should do. Only when you are willing to use your children can you truly love them.