• Mon. Dec 4th, 2023

What should I do if my child talks dirty words?

I received a message from a mother in the background: Recently, my 4-year-old son Doudou has often said such words: stinky mom, stinky dad… Everyone in the family has been labeled \”stinky\” by him. Words, the originally happy atmosphere, when Doudou made such a fuss, the surrounding air immediately solidified. I scolded my son with a black face: \”Children can\’t say dirty words!\” But my son thought it was funny and ran around the room, shouting one by one: \”Smelly mom, stinky dad, stinky grandpa, stinky grandma\” , Butt mother…\”. I felt very embarrassed at the time. My son said such things in front of his grandparents, which made me want to find a crack in the ground to crawl under and tell my son not to say anything, but he spoke even more energetically. Especially when my son is unhappy, he speaks louder and feels like people next door can hear him. I\’m so annoyed, what should I do? Signs of high emotional intelligence: training methods to improve emotional intelligence, preschool child psychology book box. The famous psychologist Freud divided the ages of 3-6 into the third stage of the \”genital stage\” in the individual development stages of sexual psychology. At this stage, \”all excretion is pleasure\” and the child loves \”poop and farts\” very much, so the child\’s mouth can become dirty. It is also called the sensitive period for swearing (sensitive period for cursing). I remembered that I took my daughter and nephew to visit my best friend’s house. At the dinner table, my best friend let the children eat steamed pumpkin. Her 5-year-old son suddenly shouted: \”I won\’t eat it, it\’s yellow and smells like shit!\” This sentence made my daughter and nephew burst out laughing. A kid was chirping and kept talking: \”It doesn\’t look like stinky daddy, it looks like urine, hee hee!\” \”It must taste like a smelly fart from a big stinky butt, puff puff puff!\” This made my best friend so embarrassed that she kept shouting for it. Hit your son. My best friend and I said: relax and don’t take such big things as “peeing and pooping” seriously! From a psychological point of view, it is very normal and natural for children to like to talk about \”poop and farts\”. This is a sign of the little guy\’s hazy sexual consciousness, which is an instinct of the child. This is just a stage characteristic of the child\’s growth. After this stage, it will naturally not be discussed. Think about it, who of us adults would still talk about this topic? We must respect the normal stages of children\’s growth. All we need to do is a little indifferent and implicit and effective guidance! In fact, from birth, children begin to explore the world. They use their eyes to see, bite with their mouths, and grab with their hands… Around the age of one and a half, children begin to be interested in body excrements. Feces, butt and urine are things that children come into contact with every day after they are born, so they will naturally have a natural affinity with them. They will squat and observe their daddy, smell the smell of diapers, seriously think about whether they pee like a little dinosaur, and even happily identify who farts. Children aged 4-5 are in the \”sensitive period for dirty language\”. This is a way for children to explore themselves. So, what should we do when children enter the \”sensitive period for dirty language\”? When a child starts to poop and pee again, the correct response for parents is to remain calm. They should neither yell or stop them, nor tease the child offline because the child is exploring. If you respond at this time,If it should be very large, the child will find it particularly fun and interesting, and then he will repeat such language. Especially some parents, when they hear their children say such things, they will laugh until they can\’t stop laughing, thinking that their children have become more capable. This is a very wrong reaction. Some parents directly reprimand or even beat and scold. This reaction is also wrong, because the children will also feel that this kind of language is powerful. When he is angry, or when he deliberately confronts you, he will still say dirty words just to make you angry. We don’t like to listen. At this time, we can distract the children’s attention by playing some small games or telling stories. When a child can use some language correctly, parents must praise him in time. When parents praise him, he will have a sense of accomplishment and be willing to use such beautiful language more to gain more appreciation.

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