In the 21st century, which quality of a child is the most valuable? Some parents may ask, today\’s children have been under heavy academic pressure since they entered elementary school. They do homework late every day and attend various extracurricular classes. Will you be so anxious when Edamame will go to elementary school in the future? Will you force him? I can honestly say: I won’t. The reason why I say this is not because I don’t care about my children’s studies, but because my standards for measuring the success of education are different from most people. If we go in the right direction, we can achieve efficient and cost-effective parenting. Deng Xiaoping once said a very simple saying, \”Education must be oriented to the future.\” The criterion for testing the success of our children is whether they can succeed in an unknown future environment, not their current ranking. In this era of drastic changes, there is no ready-made map, only a compass with a general direction. Who knows what the future will look like? Therefore, when you take a longer-term view, you will not become an anxious mother who stays with you, but will cultivate your child\’s most basic abilities in a steady stream. Don\’t be too obsessed with whether your child can count quickly, memorize all the words, and write all the new words. What will really determine success for children in the future will be their ability to collect data, compare, analyze, make decisions, and predict. These abilities are the most important in the coming era of artificial intelligence. Once mastered, incredible energy will burst out and more potential will be developed with one against ten. I think the most important thing is: thinking ability! Thinking ability refers to children’s ability to think logically such as deriving unknowns from the known and predicting patterns. The reason why I attach so much importance to \”thinking ability\” is because children with strong thinking ability often predict children with higher IQ and stronger learning ability. In our kindergarten class, there is a 4-year-old boy named Xiao W. His IQ is higher than that of ordinary children. The most obvious manifestation is his strong logical thinking ability. He can extract some abstract words from life phenomena, which is something few children of this age can do. For example, after reading a book, he would ask: \”Teacher, what does \’kindness\’ mean?\” The teacher told him: \”Kindness means being friendly to others and doing things that make others happy.\” He thought for a while and asked: \” So if I comfort a sick child, is that considered kind?\” The teacher said, \”Forget it.\” Next, he immediately created a story using the word \”kind\”. From specific phenomena of life – abstract words – to generalize other phenomena in life, this thinking process can only be mastered by five or six-year-old children. If a 4-year-old child can do this, it can be said to be very smart. We often find in life that children who think clearly, are good at summarizing, and have strong reasoning skills have better academic performance. Therefore, there is an ingenious aspect of parenting that involves leveraging a thousand pounds: cultivating a child\’s thinking ability can help the child become more successful in the future. This ability sounds mysterious, but it can actually be cultivated from the age of 0, and the cultivation method is very simple. Cultivating children\’s thinking ability is easier than you think! I have personally seen that many Chinese parents do not know that their children will learn a lot while playing. Many parents violently stop their children from playing, thus causing theirThinking ability has not been developed. For example, a very critical core of thinking ability is to understand how things work. And do your children do this kind of thing every day? For example, if a child sits on a dining chair and throws a spoon on the ground repeatedly, he is actually exploring the cause-and-effect relationship between things. The child pushed the spoon to the edge of the table and pushed it harder. The spoon fell off every time, and the contact surface when it landed on the ground was different. Throwing a spoon and throwing a steamed bun have different sounds when they hit the ground. The child became curious: What happened? Why is this happening? For another example, when Edamame was 1 and a half years old, he liked to slide glass balls and cloth balls down the handle of the sofa. After he picked them up, he continued to slide them down. Maodou\’s grandma was very angry: \”You kid, why don\’t you play something serious? Are you always throwing balls?\” I observed for a while and said to my grandma: \”Maodou is actually very curious about why things of different materials are different. The speed of rolling on the same surface is different. You see, every time when the glass ball accelerates to slide down, he stares nervously and excitedly, and when the cloth ball slowly slides down, he wants to push it. This is the child trying to explore the world The germination of operating laws, his brain is running excitedly, understanding the laws of physics. We should not ban it, but should support it.\” (Of course, you can also guess the consequences, grandma said: \”What you said is so right, then You come and clean up the battlefield of edamame, and I’m going to dance in the square. \”As expected, being a mother is still the best.) Also, many little boys will curiously touch the wheels of cars parked on the roadside. , rub it, a super car fanatic like Maodou can also touch the exhaust pipe. On the road, I saw many old people using \”dirty\” as an excuse to stop their children from touching the wheels, even though they were sure that there was no driver in the car and it would not move. But in fact, children are feeling the outline of the circle. They are wondering why square things cannot spin but round things can run. This kind of feeling while playing is actually the bud of thinking ability. In our kindergarten, there is a little girl named Little K. According to her mother, little K especially likes to watch herself put on makeup. She thought that if a child likes to watch makeup at such a young age, it is a sign of stinky beauty and he will not like to study in the future. I came up with an idea that day and prepared a thinned carrot stick, a cauliflower, and a special color stick for children\’s makeup for little K. Sure enough, little K imitated her mother and started painting on her lips. She discovered that carrot sticks had no color when applied to her lips, but color sticks made their lips change color when applied to them. I said to little K\’s mother: \”Have you seen it? Your daughter is not trying to be pretty at all, but she is wondering why lipstick can change the color of her lips, but carrots can\’t. If I were you, I would use this as a starting point. Guide little K to think about why some substances can be colored and some cannot? What are their differences? If we want to change the color of things, what should we do? This is a great opportunity to cultivate children\’s thinking. \”There is also a particularly good The best way to exercise thinking is \”pretend play\”. Last time a mother complained to me that her 4-year-old child fantasized about something completely different every day.The doll that exists still has to bring him tea and water and ask me if this is abnormal. I burst into laughter and said, \”The child is playing imaginary games. Instead of stopping you, you should play with your children.\” The advantage of \”imaginary games\” is that there is never a standard answer. The situation is in What the other person wants to say and how to decide his next action based on the other person\’s words are constantly changing. The child\’s brain is thinking very fast. Children who always play imaginary games will have strong logical thinking and interpersonal adaptability. This kind of \”brain-burning\” game is more brain-burning than any cram school! An educator I particularly like once said: “Children’s thinking is about curiosity, flexibility, and keeping an open mind.” Children’s thinking is not only about brain power, but also about curiosity, flexibility, and keeping an open mind. Don\’t use adults\’ fixed thinking to limit children\’s thinking in games. The more rough and rough off-roading a child has, the smarter he becomes. There are two or three other tips for cultivating thinking ability, which are also very easy to do in daily parenting. We plan to talk about them on the weekend or next week. Digest this article first and use it in your life! Otherwise, if you don’t practice it after reading it, your children will not benefit from the good ideas!