A child’s ambition is like a seed, it will sprout under the right conditions.

Let me first tell you a story about Roger Rawls: Roger Rawls was the first black governor in the history of New York. He was born in the notorious Big Sandhead slum in New York, where few children had decent jobs as adults. Roger Rawls was an exception. At the press conference when he was inaugurated as governor, Rawls said nothing about his history of struggle. He mentioned a name that was very unfamiliar to everyone-Pierre Paul. Pierre Paul was hired as the director and principal of Nobita Elementary School where Rawls was in 1961. When Pierre-Paul first walked into Nobita Primary School in Dashatou, he found that the poor children here were even more idle than the \”lost generation\”: truant, fighting, and even smashing the blackboard in the classroom. When Rawls jumped down from the window sill and walked to the podium with his little hand stretched out, Pierre Paul said to him: \”I can tell by looking at your slender little finger that you will be the governor of New York State in the future.\” Rawls was shocked and grew taller. At this age, only his grandma encouraged him once, saying that he could become the captain of a 5-ton boat. This time, Mr. Pierre Paul actually said he could become the governor of New York State! He remembered this statement and believed it. From that day on, \”becoming the governor of New York State\” became a banner on his life path. His clothes were no longer stained with mud, and his speech was no longer mixed with obscenities. He became the class president. In the next 40 years, there was not a day when he did not demand himself as governor. At the age of 51, Rawls really became governor. Yes, as this story tells us, if your child has no ambition, don’t worry, it can be nurtured and it’s never too late. The famous American social psychologist David McClelland also expounded a similar point of view in his \”Achievement Needs Theory\”: Wanting to do better and striving for success, part of people\’s need for achievement comes from nature. A larger part comes from the nurture of parents. How to cultivate children\’s ambition and need for achievement? I have compiled the views of McClelland and other experts as well as some of my own experiences. Let’s take a look: 1. Help children better understand themselves. Did Paul really tell from Rawls’ little finger that he would become the governor of New York in the future? of course not. It was only his prediction and affirmation that inspired Rawls to re-understand and judge himself. It turns out that he still has huge potential and a bright future. As a result, Rawls developed a strong expectation for future success. This expectation continued to push him forward for 40 years, and finally became the governor one day. As the people who know and are closest to their children, parents should help their children better understand themselves and the goals they really want, affirm their abilities and potential, and encourage them to keep working hard toward their goals. Ordinary and casual encouragement and affirmation may become the spark that inspires children to work hard throughout their lives. 2. Read proactive books. An interesting study found that at the beginning of the 17th century, the achievement motivation signals contained in British children\’s books increased, and the national product increased after a period of time; while at the beginning of the 18th century, the achievement motivation signals dropped. , the national product also declined. Explain the cause and effect relationshipDepartment: The more children\’s books contain positive content that encourages children to pursue success, the more children will grow into adults with a strong need for achievement a few years later, thus promoting the development of the entire national economy. This goes back to the point of view that I have always believed in, what kind of book you read, what kind of person you become. Read more inspirational stories to your children to stimulate their inner desires and ambitions, making them enthusiastic and full of fighting spirit. 3. Set moderately difficult goals for children. In business management, when superiors set goals for subordinates, they pay attention to the principle of \”advanced accessibility.\” This means that this goal cannot be easily achieved or out of reach, and subordinates need to make certain efforts to achieve it. Parents are strongly encouraged to adopt this principle. Set moderately difficult goals for your children at home, and enthusiastically encourage and help your children achieve such goals. In this way, on the one hand, he can establish an attitude from an early age of being brave enough to accept challenges and strive to achieve his goals; on the other hand, his enthusiasm will not be dampened because the goals are too difficult. I remember that when my son Xiaochuan first learned chess, practicing chess records was a very painful thing for him. Because he not only had to use his brain to play chess, but also used his hands to memorize the chess records (at that time, he had just started to learn to write). So, we started with 2 questions per day. When he really couldn\’t do it, I would guide him and encourage him. When he really couldn\’t write, I would hold his hand and write to him stroke by stroke. Every time he completes two questions, I will congratulate him solemnly. Pride and confidence are clearly visible in his eyes. Slowly, he was able to practice chess records every day. The number of questions continued to increase, and his handwriting became better and better. Now, Ogawa is very enthusiastic about learning chess and clamoring all day long to become a first-level chess player. 4. Set a good example for your children and let them see excellent parents. They say that parents are their children’s best teachers. But if the teacher asks the children to read books, but he keeps scrolling on his mobile phone; asks the children to do homework seriously, but he is watching TV; asks the children to improve their grades and enter the top few in age, but he has been willing to be a junior clerk… I have read this mother\’s story. She has a very strong working ability. She leads a team of 100 people and is busy all day long. At home, she is also very filial to her elders, makes good meals, and can draw and write calligraphy… In the eyes of the children, she is a mother who can do anything. Her two children are very good. They not only study well but are also polite. Everyone who knows her children praises them. The children said to her: \”Mom, we must work very hard to be excellent. Otherwise, how can we be worthy of being your children?\” In order for children to work hard, we must first constantly improve ourselves, and let the children See a great parent. PS: If your child is still in infancy, or has just begun to bab and stagger, you may feel that \”ambition\” is still far away from you. You may think that as long as your child is happy and grows up safely every day, it will be fine. But I can guarantee that when your childAfter you start going to kindergarten, start attending interest classes, learn this, learn that, start elementary school or middle school, you will definitely find that happiness is no longer your only expectation for your child, and \”motivation\” will become your new requirement for him. . Of course, we can’t be eager for quick success, plunder seedlings, or demand too much from our children too early. However, it is never too early to cultivate self-motivation.