After Lin Dan’s affair, a child’s inner words are worth pondering for all parents

A message from a mother: Yesterday it was revealed that Lin Dan had cheated on him, and the entire Internet was hotly debated. I recall that not long ago, just a few days after Wang Baoqiang’s divorce incident settled down, Hawick Lau was caught cheating again. One wave comes after another. The loving relationship between husband and wife is once again at the forefront. Just after discussing this matter with my friends online last night, I found a letter written by my daughter in the living room. After reading it, I burst into tears and stayed sleepless all night. Now I put this letter here in the hope that parents can take it as a warning. Mom and Dad: I’ve been wanting to write this letter for a long time, but at the moment I write it, I still can’t hold back my tears. I shut myself in my room right now, and I can hear every word you say in the living room. Sometimes I feel that the door is not only not soundproof, but is like a loudspeaker. Your noisy words hit my heart like a knife, so clear that I can\’t sleep at night. There are some things that my daughter has never dared to say because I have no good friends with whom I can share them. I am afraid that if I say these words, I will be laughed at. The secrets hidden deep in my heart may only be dared to be written down in one go today. How many times has this quarrel happened this month? The fourth time? Or the sixth time? Actually, I can’t remember exactly. I really never thought why, ever since I was sensible, the two people I love the most have often been blushing and shouting insults. The reason for your fights is always weird: Who\’s going to do the dishes tonight? Should I lend money to someone? Should my daughter enroll in a cram school? Or maybe dad comes home an hour late… In short, all small conflicts can become the trigger for your quarrel, and it will become more and more intense. It may start out as a quarrel over trivial matters, but the quarrel brings up some old issues, and then you start to curse. Dad, you always lean on the sofa at this time, light a cigarette, blush and stare. You smoke every time we quarrel. I advise you to smoke less, but you always don\’t listen. Mom, you have a tough personality and can bang the table and throw things. I coaxed you not to be angry, otherwise your skin will deteriorate and you will not be beautiful. Although you agreed, you forgot the next day. At this time, I always hide in my room secretly. I don’t know who to help. You are both my heart and soul, and you are the two people I love most in the world. If you make a loud noise, I will cover myself with a quilt. Maybe you don\’t know, but while you are making noise outside, I am crying under the quilt. I was thinking: If everyone becomes so unhappy when they grow up, then I would rather just be a kid forever. But not all children in the family are happy. If I understand correctly, two people are together to create a happier life, and when they have children, the joy will be even greater. But now I\’m suffering, like I\’m having a nightmare. When you are in love, the sun shines brightly every day, and I feel like I am living in heaven. I have never been so eager to go home early to see you after school. I want to eat the pickled fish made by my mother, and I want to share interesting things in the class with my father. But the days when you are noisy and unloving, it is no exaggeration to say that my sky is full of haze, as if I am being dragged into an abyss, and the pain is a bottomless pit. I never know whether I will be greeted by your gentle calls or cruel quarrels when I wake up tomorrow.. Because you often quarrel, I live cautiously. At home, I don\’t dare to talk too much, and I don\’t dare to speak too loudly, for fear of accidentally triggering a war between you. I also dare not invite my classmates to my home because I am afraid that others will know that my family is unhappy. When I was in second grade, I called my deskmate to my house to do homework. Your sudden quarrel frightened her, so she left in a hurry. From now on, she always deliberately avoided me in school. Outside, I seldom mention you. When someone asks, I pretend that your relationship is very loving and our family is happy. In fact, essentially I have low self-esteem. I feel that my life is incomplete and so am I. Because of my low self-esteem, I am not confident about many things in reality. I rarely made friends and slowly became distrustful of others. I\’m afraid that one day my friends and I will be like you, and our relationship will change from a tacit understanding to a heartless rivalry. I am not in the mood to study either. On nights when you two quarrel, I will suffer from insomnia and cannot sleep well, and I cannot concentrate in class. Not only do I doze off, but I also wonder if you will continue to quarrel tonight? Will there be a fight? Who should I help if a fight breaks out? What if you get divorced? Will you want me? What do my classmates and teachers think of me? In short, I will think about many questions in class, and the class will be over after thinking about it. Sometimes the teacher asked me to get up to answer questions, but I couldn\’t explain why and was so anxious that I burst into tears. I always have a frown on my face, and my classmates say I am introverted and don\’t want to get close to me. Mom and Dad, your ups and downs in your relationship have had a great impact on my outlook: Although I am still young, I don’t believe in love, or long-term love; I don’t believe in marriage, either. Marriage is very important to me. It was a hardship; I didn’t want to have children when I grew up, because I was afraid they would be the next me; I became insecure, and I felt that anything I had could be lost at any time. I have long been unable to live happily and without baggage like other people\’s children. I envy them so much. You used to argue because you had no money. Later, when living conditions improved, you started arguing about other things again. If we live to quarrel and fight day and night, is there any point in existence? Because of your quarrels, my entire childhood was dark. At the moment when you were arguing so hard, I thought about hurting myself in front of you. I want to remind you in this way that I was affected. Mom and Dad, please stop arguing. But I am cowardly after all, I dare not. I\’m afraid you will be sad. My classmates always say how loving his parents are, but I can\’t. My classmate always invites us to his home, but I can\’t. My classmates always travel as a family of three to watch movies, but I can\’t. My classmates can always do many things with their parents, but I can\’t. No one knows my desire for a happy family. Mom and Dad, don’t you understand? Only if you live lovingly and lovingly can your daughter grow up healthily. Parental love is the best education for children. I read in books that the quality of the relationship between parents is directly reflected on the faces of their children. A relaxed and cheerful face is a sign of good family relationships. The misfortune and vicissitudes of family relationships are written all over his depressed face. I don\’t feel how unfortunate I am,On the contrary, I feel that being your daughter is the luckiest thing in my life. You have given me a lot of material care. My mother always prepares the most beautiful clothes and the most considerate meals for me. My father also leaves early and comes home late to make money. I can still feel you covering me with a quilt late at night. If possible, I hope that when encountering conflicts in the future, parents will sit down and discuss it calmly. It will not help to compete with who has the loudest voice. It is fate that we can become a family. God brought us together in this life not to hurt each other or torture each other, but to support each other, warm each other, and spend the rest of our lives together. I know that none of us is perfect and everyone has character flaws, but these flaws are not meaningless. My father is a bit of a chauvinist, but when the family encounters difficulties, it is still up to the macho father to take the lead in solving them. Mom is usually a bit nagging, but I have to say that you take good care of our lives. My words are too cowardly, but this is somewhat of a buffer for the relationship between you two. I\’m thinking that we form a family with our own strengths and weaknesses, and conflicts are inevitable. As long as we consider each other\’s perspective and slowly change ourselves, we will definitely have a better family environment. Home should be a haven full of laughter and laughter, not a battlefield filled with cold guns and hidden arrows, right? Mom and Dad, I am writing this letter today not to complain or accuse you. How I wish we could live happily every day. If you can, please grant your daughter a request, please? I will put this letter in the living room right away. No matter who reads it first, I hope you will bravely knock on the door and say a word to the lover in the room who has been with you for more than ten years, and your partner who has been with you through thick and thin for more than ten years. : \”You\’ve worked hard, I\’m sorry.\” Thank you for giving birth to me, thank you for always loving me. I believe we will find a more suitable way of loving each other. Mom and Dad, I love you, and I love you lovingly even more! Your love is the best education for me! Sincerely, your daughter 2016.11.17 Mom’s words: After reading this letter, I secretly hid in the bathroom and cried for a long time. The child\’s father and I stayed up all night, full of regrets. In the Internet age, we are all discussing who is right and who is wrong when celebrities cheat, and whether the deterioration of the relationship between husband and wife is due to the woman being unfaithful or the man being a scumbag. But we forget that, whether we are celebrities or ordinary people like us, in all disharmonious relationships between husband and wife, the ones who are hurt the most are always the children. I never thought that my quarrel with my child\’s father would have such a profound impact on his child\’s growth. In contrast, when we quarrel, we are not as mature as children. We felt very guilty and made a promise that from now on, we would \”talk it out properly\” and even if we occasionally quarreled, we would never do it in front of our children. The child is right, home should be a haven full of laughter and laughter, not a battlefield filled with cold guns and hidden arrows. We are the ones who should apologize the most, and we should also be the ones who say \”Thank you for your hard work, I\’m sorry\” to our children. Daughter, I\’m sorry! In the past, you were always careful to accommodate us. From now on, we will take good care of you. Children, believe us, weI will love you well and give you the best family education!