Children who lack sibling interaction will be willful and arrogant? Two principles of raising only children

Because of the lack of sibling interaction at an early age, he became unsociable, willful, and arrogant. Are these impressions of only children true? On Taiwan\’s largest BBS site \”Pukeki\”, only children expressed dissatisfaction with being labeled as arrogant and dependent for a long time on the \”Only Child Board\”. Some netizens said with indignation that in the near future, only children will There are more children than non-only children. Perhaps this society will start to study the \”personality traits/adaptation issues of non-only children.\” The key to determining a child\’s personality is not whether he is an only child or not, but rather the parents\’ views and parenting attitudes towards their children. The advantages and disadvantages of an only child\’s upbringing are two sides of the same coin, and the individual differences are very large. When a child becomes egotistical, willful, or unwilling to share, go back to the original parenting principles and see what corrections need to be made? There is no original sin for an only child, as long as the parents have a healthy attitude towards this matter. According to research, being without siblings does not adversely affect a child\’s development. Chen Ruolin, director of the Department of Childhood and Family Studies at Fu Jen Catholic University, pointed out that only children are even more confident, able to be alone and creative than children with siblings. If appropriate resources can be provided, only children will have advantages that non-only children do not have in an environment with no sibling quarrels and sufficient resources. Principle 1: Create diverse peer interaction experiences. Chen Ruolin recommends helping your children find playmates before they enter kindergarten, and inviting relatives and friends with children to your home for gatherings and outings together. Or visit a nearby park’s play area where your children can interact with other children. Interpersonal interaction requires practice. Don\’t think that you can play together if you are close in age. The important thing is not the age gap, but the world they create as children when they play. In the process of interaction, children learn to share, compromise and help each other. Principle 2: Don’t give too much, whether it’s tangible material or intangible love. Parents always want to “give the best to their children.” In addition, other members of the family may also put all their care and attention on their children, so that they can live a happy life since childhood. in a magnifying glass. Chen Ruolin emphasized that parents should always remind themselves to let go at the right time, not to over-care or interfere with their children, or to create an experience of \”lack\” when necessary. Taking care of everything will only cost him the opportunity to practice and grow. Especially in adolescence, it is the key for children to learn to be independent.