Do children need to endure hardship?

Many adults lie about their true experiences. This is the biggest problem in education. The most obvious manifestation is the hard-working education they advocate. After yesterday’s article, a reader asked a question: Uncle Lian, in the past few days, the autumn heat has turned into a dog, and a high temperature warning has been issued. My son is a freshman in a public school. There are 46 people in the classroom. There is no air conditioning but 4 ceiling fans. I am thinking with a few parents. Many parents objected to raising funds to install air conditioners, saying that there is no need to be so pampered and that they have to be trained in a harsh environment. This is how everyone has been here, and they are afraid that they will catch colds and fevers if they sweat and go back to the classroom to blow on the air conditioner. The system will drop… ·It’s really depressing. It’s much hotter than before. Should primary schools be equipped with air conditioners? ! I support the installation of air conditioners. (On a technical level, we will not discuss whether it is possible to pretend, how difficult it is to pretend, and how parents struggle.) First of all, what I want is what others want. Education cannot be separated from this point. I want to be comfortable, and my children also want to be comfortable. I installed the central air conditioner myself and it is at a comfortable temperature 24 hours a day. If I think this is good, I naturally think it is good for my children. My life is comfortable, but my willpower has declined? No, I feel better, I am more focused on doing things, and I have more willpower. Technological progress means that people will have to endure less hardship. In the future, with advanced technology and cheap energy, it will be possible to make the entire city air-conditioned and spring-like all year round, completely free from the heat and cold. Going through hardship, being too cold or too hot, drains a person\’s energy and only makes him more easily distracted. When I was in the first grade of junior high school, I had to walk for more than an hour to study every day. The road conditions were not good, and it was cold and rainy. I had to carry a lunch box in one hand and an umbrella in the other. I had no gloves. When I arrived at school, my pants were soaked through, so I had to wait. It slowly dried out, and eventually, my hands, feet, and ears were all covered in frostbite. I don’t think this experience has increased my willpower, I just have to endure it. Children are a group of people who can only obey. A classmate who often walked with him had an even harder time. He could only go barefoot and was nicknamed the \”Barefoot Immortal\”. His parents were extremely harsh on him. One day at noon, he and I were playing chess on the stone slab under the sycamore tree. Suddenly, he was swept to the ground by a pole. His mother did it because she thought he had sneaked out to play. He saved himself in the end with his talent. Otherwise, I think he would have been beaten to death by his parents and driven crazy by the hardships of life. In elementary school, he was the smartest kid in our class and could solve even the most difficult problems. Once, he made a mistake and the teacher asked him to write a self-criticism and his parents signed it. We sympathized with him very much and couldn\’t escape a beating. The next day, he submitted it for examination intact. Surprisingly. This is what he did: When he came home at night, he took out a pen and paper while his father was in a good mood and said: Dad, how do you write your name? His dad was impatient and grabbed a pen and wrote his name on the white paper. Then, he writes a review on a piece of white paper. Our high schools were separated in two places. I heard that he was admitted to a good university and was assigned to live far away from his hometown after graduation, cutting off contact with his parents. Congratulations to him. Parents who deliberately make their children suffer are some degree of sadism. They destroyed a lot of kids. It is absolutely true that children\’s self-discipline, will, and patience are conducive to growth and success. The problem is that children can do better when they live comfortably and in a rich environment., these qualities can be achieved through communication with children, in reading, in competitions, and in the details of life. I have also seen parents who deliberately let their children wear old clothes, saying that they cultivate simple feelings. In fact, this will only make the child feel unnecessary inferiority and grievance, and eventually he will become accustomed to being inferior to others and lose his temper. The parents are quite happy: My child is so sensible! Never want new clothes. The so-called children who can endure hardship are children who have no requirements. No matter what their parents ask for, they just refuse to endure hardship! Parents who deliberately let their children endure hardship may want to embellish their own points: 1. If they are impatient, it is best for their children not to pester them all the time. 2. Children who do not know how to educate, happy and smart have many problems, and parents must often admit their ignorance. 3. Poor. Children\’s needs almost cost money, so you can go through hardships and save a lot of money. Leaving a child to endure hardship for a long time is a form of abandonment. The child will be unsatisfied, have low self-esteem, and be irritable. Not only should we not carry out so-called hardship education, but we should also try our best to let the child live at least an average life so that he will not feel inferior due to basic living conditions. What his friends eat, play, and use will satisfy him. In this way Only then will he use his energy to build character and not be afraid of losing common topics with his friends and falling into unnecessary anxiety. Lack of material and hard life bring about more perversions and distortions of human nature. People born in that kind of time and space are unlucky. Your children live in a wealthy environment. You create hardships for others and do not work hard to improve them. situation, this is because you are jealous of your child, it is a deep perversion, and it is the sequelae of your hardship. Be nice to your child and it won\’t cost much to satisfy him. Teaching by words and deeds is very important. If you live well, your children will also learn well. There is no need to torture him deliberately.