\”Look at those facial features and eyes, they are carved from the same mold as mine. They look so much like me when I was a child~\” \”My mother said the baby\’s eyes are like mine, and his nose and mouth are like yours~\” \”Whenever he gets angry, he takes off his clothes and throws things away, just like you. Yes, I have a terrible temper…\” It can be said that from the moment the child was born, the debate about who the child looks like has never stopped! In addition to who they look like, as the children grow up, there are more and more voices about whose personality the children will follow. Recently, my best friend can’t help but complain to me when we meet, saying that her son’s bad temper comes from someone. Of course, the final conclusion must be to follow his father. He complains that his son gets angry at every turn. As long as he is not satisfied, he starts to pout and cry, silently finding a place to cry alone. Last Wednesday was even more outrageous. I took half a day off because of a stomachache. During a video chat with my grandma at night, I casually said something to ask him to go to school the next day. Then the little guy immediately started to be arrogant and ignored his grandma. 😂😂😂 My bestie was funny and angry. She thought she was just like his dad. When she was angry, she started to be arrogant and ignore people. In life, there are many arguments about who will follow the personality of a child. Some say that a son will follow his mother, and a daughter will follow her father. Some say it depends on whose genes are stronger… So, does a child\’s personality follow that of his father or his mother? Today we will discuss Let’s have a chat with everyone! 01 About the influence of heredity on personality yic huan The ancient sayings such as \”a tiger father has no dog son\”, \”like father, like son\”, \”the upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked\”, are all affirmations of the influence of genetics on the child\’s personality. So from a scientific perspective, how much influence does heredity have on a child\’s personality, or does it have any influence at all? The conclusion is that it does have some influence. The details vary from person to person and will be affected by many factors such as the growth environment. Just as the authoritative professor of genetics Robert Plomin said: DNA is certainly not the whole factor, but it is more important than all other factors combined. There are no exact figures for the specific differences, as well as the specific proportion of the influence of genetics and nurture on a child’s personality. Speaking of which, we have to mention the famous \”Minnesota Twins Experiment\”. The experiment selected more than 200 pairs of identical twins. From the time they were born, each parent was allowed to raise a child and grow up in a completely different environment! It was found that although the twins were raised separately, their correlation coefficients for each characteristic were surprisingly similar! Then it was concluded that genetic factors have a considerable impact on people. In addition, in 1980, Casspi, a professor at the London Institute of Psychiatry, conducted a unique experimental observation with psychiatrists from King\’s College London. They collected 1,000 three-year-old children as observation subjects and classified them according to their personality characteristics. 26 years later, experts compared their personalities and found that children who were \”confident\” in childhood were still cheerful, active, and lively when they grew up. Strong desire to lead; children who were \”taciturn\” in childhood are more likely to hide their feelings as adults than ordinary people, are unwilling to influence others, and dare not do anything that may cause them harm… In summary, the aboveAs mentioned above, heredity has a certain influence on a child’s personality. In fact, it is easy to understand. Facial features and the like all have genetic factors. Why is the personality not affected by genetics? It will be more or less imprinted by the parents. As parents, we must dialectically view the impact of genetics on our children\’s personalities. It is even more important to self-examine and self-correct. If we think that one of the spouses has a character problem, then we need to put more thought into cultivating the child\’s acquired character. 02 Acquired factors have an impact on children’s personality. Since the saying “character is innate” has a certain scientific basis, does nature or nurture have a greater influence on the formation of a child’s personality? Presumably this is also a key point of concern for many parents. If the correction is not good in the later stage, then there is no need to work in vain! Here Chenma would like to quote Pavlov\’s words: \”Character is an alloy of nature and epigenetic. Character is inherited from ancestors, and it is constantly changing and improving in real life.\” To highlight the point, in real life Constant change and improvement, that is to say, the development of children\’s character can be corrected, cultivated and improved through the day after tomorrow. Speaking of this, I have to mention the often-mentioned saying \”You look at your age at the age of three\”, which means that character development in childhood is very important and will affect the growth of the child throughout his life. As parents, we must grasp our children\’s childhood, help them develop correct values and character, and use our own words and deeds to influence our children. The recent hit TV series \”Alley Family\”, with three groups of family life models, fully illustrates the importance of parents in cultivating their children\’s character. It is worth mentioning the two families of Zhuang Tunan and Lin Dongzhe. Zhuang Tunan is a brother and sister. Their father is a people\’s teacher and their mother is a cotton spinning factory worker. In Lin Dongzhe\’s family, his father is a skilled worker and his mother is also a cotton mill worker. Logically speaking, the two families have similar family conditions, but the family atmosphere is very different. In Zhuang Tunan\’s family, his father is old-fashioned and filial, and he can\’t balance everyone and his family well. He is sucked by his parents, and his family also suffers. Therefore, the relationship between husband and wife is not as harmonious as that of Lin Dongzhe\’s parents. Lin Dongzhe\’s parents are very affectionate and carefree about what they say. The main thing is that Lin\’s father loves his wife, and the two show their love in the small details of their relationship. However, Zhuang\’s father and his wife Huang Ling often had quarrels because of their parents-in-law\’s blood-sucking, and they both felt resentful in their hearts. The result is obvious. Lin Dongzhe, who grew up in a family with loving parents, also inherited his mother\’s carefree personality, being lively, active, innocent and cute. The key point is that Xiao Dongzhe is also very good at loving people, polite, sharing, and generous to his friends. When he grows up, he treats people sincerely and treats relationships with deep affection. Looking at Zhuang Tunan\’s growth trajectory, you will find that he inevitably bears the imprint of his parents, being sensitive, stubborn, and needing face. In addition, he has enjoyed \”patriarchal\” treatment since he was a child, and has also developed a somewhat cold and selfish character. In the play, when faced with the experience of her sister being slapped on the ear, she did not come forward and did not come forward to comfort her afterwards, which seemed a bit disconnected. The daughter Zhuang Xiaoting, who grew up in this kind of family environment, has been sensible and cute since she was a child, and has good academic performance, but she is also sensitive and has low self-esteem, and her personality cannot be relaxed. Although, from a genetic point of view, every child is not born with a pure blank sheet of paper.Point to the shadow of your parents’ genes. But the environment in which they grow up has a more important impact on children. It may make up for some bad factors caused by genetics, or it may push the child to another direction in life, and the character becomes worse and worse. Parents who are far-sighted know how to work hard to develop their children\’s character, which will permeate every word and deed of their children when they grow up. At that time, you will be so proud when you see your child’s behavior filled with the sweat of your education! Conclusion There is no absolute conclusion as to whether a child’s personality will follow that of his father or his mother. In a broad sense, the father’s influence is slightly greater. However, the silent influence of mother\’s moisturizing will also fill the child\’s growth trajectory and profoundly affect the child\’s life. I hope that all parents can pay attention to the development of their children\’s character. It is necessary to grasp the early stage of children and help them manage their emotions in a targeted manner, respect, love, and know how to share…
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