\”Don\’t force your child if he doesn\’t like it.\” Don\’t let this sentence ruin your child.

On the weekend, my husband’s college classmates came to visit me at home. When I walked in, I heard the baby playing the violin with melodious music. My husband\’s classmates were full of praise for the baby. Not long after, the baby ran out of the room, hugged her husband\’s legs and started acting coquettishly, saying that she felt uncomfortable and could she stop practicing. After my husband and I looked at each other tacitly, I pulled him into the room, and under my supervision, he completed the day\’s repertoire. During lunch, my husband’s classmate felt that we were too strict with our children and suggested that we as parents should not force our children to learn things they don’t like. We should find out our children’s interests and cultivate them to achieve twice the result with half the effort. We all understand the truth, but I want to say that we will not drink this pseudo-chicken soup. It is a child\’s instinct to like the new and dislike the old. Learning the violin is not our interest, nor is it mandatory for us to sign up for classes. It is his own choice. When we were watching an anime one time, he pointed at his brother who played the violin and said he liked it very much and begged me to buy him one. I originally thought this was just something he said casually while watching anime, but I didn\’t expect that he was like a little tail, chasing me every day and saying that he liked the violin. We held a family meeting and decided to help him realize his wish. His love for the violin did not last long. From the novelty and seriousness at the beginning to the resistance and laziness now, it is obvious that his love for the violin has passed. So now we ask him to practice violin, which in the eyes of outsiders is unreasonable forcing. I believe many mothers will have the same experience. He chose drums in many interest classes, but ended up paying money and not attending a few lessons. Because he didn’t like the teacher’s request to withdraw from the class, he switched to Go, and after studying for a period of time, he wanted to learn swimming. . Should we compromise in the face of children\’s fickleness? I want to say no! If we blindly indulge our children\’s preferences and allow them to grow up in a free environment, what are the chances of future success in the harsh competition in today\’s society? I think as parents, we need to be responsible for our children\’s future, rather than blindly pampering our children. Only the weak will emphasize their love, while the strong will insist that \”parents love their children, and their plans are far-reaching.\” I believe this is the sentiment of most parents. We want our children to have a bright future. Competition in today\’s society is cruel, and many parents become anxious before their children are born. Nowadays, children are under a lot of pressure and technology is advancing. We hope that children can have skills to survive in this world where the jungle is strong. The biggest difference between the strong and the weak is that the strong can maintain self-discipline and accumulate experience. The development of many academic masters is not all due to talent, but to unremitting study. All six students in a dormitory of the School of Optoelectronic Science and Engineering of the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China were admitted to first-class universities such as Tsinghua University and Peking University, and two of them got direct Ph.D. Li Jiarong said: It is common to do two or three things in homework. Once, it was dawn while doing homework, \”Only if you are better than others, you have the right to choose.\” Don\’t be soft-hearted and satisfy his preference for the new and dislike the old and give up halfway, then How do you want your child to face the world in the future? If you want your child to achieve success in the future, then start from now on and let him learn to persevere. Be a far-sighted parent and be willing to let your children endure hardships. The famous educator Ye Shengtao once saidSaid: The essence of education is to cultivate habits. Many parents feel that we should give our children a happy childhood, so no matter what appearance he shows, good or bad, it is natural and does not need to be suppressed deliberately. However, they are too young to distinguish between liking and liking the new and hating the old, nor do they understand what perseverance and giving up halfway will bring to them. Life is a movie without rehearsal, there is no way to do it again. Learning itself is a hard process. We all have laziness. If we let it go, I believe no child will choose to endure hardship. Parents are their children\’s first teachers and must play a guiding role. Forcing children to study appropriately is actually taking responsibility for their future. Don\’t wait until your child enters the society and finds himself unable to do what he wants when faced with difficulties in life. Then he comes back and complains about why we chose to let him go free in the first place. He could have done otherwise. If you want to ruin your child\’s future, then let him live a comfortable life, but if you want to give him a bright future, be cruel~