Effort is useless, the child’s future depends on heredity

There was an uncle who traveled thousands of miles and knocked on the door in the middle of the night to find me. Because his child\’s grades are not very good and he is unwilling to work hard, he asked if there are any good education methods. I blurted out at that time: Hard work is useless, it all depends on genetics! After saying that, I slapped myself hard! Snapped–! As a human being, the most important thing is to be happy. What truth are you talking about? There are many ways to raise children. But in detail, there are only four types: raising eagles is the best, raising pigs is the worst, donkeys are the worst, and wolves are the worst. Different feeding methods produce different results. I once read an article that said that in an era of material scarcity, there was a naughty child who thought about eating popsicles day and night. But my family is poor and cannot afford food. One day, my mother carried hundreds of kilograms of grain on her back and went with the team leader to pay for work rations. Afterwards, the captain bought everyone a popsicle, but the mother couldn\’t bear to eat it. She held the popsicle in her hands and ran all the way home to give the popsicles to her children. ——Many years later, the child realized that his mother had run 5 kilometers for this popsicle. A loving mother\’s heart makes me cry when I read it. At that time, I read the article and cried for a long time. Suddenly I thought – if this naughty child has the same virtue as me, greedy and greedy, eating one and thinking about the next, and wanting to eat every day, wouldn\’t his mother have to run wild every day? 5 kilometers? Running 5 kilometers once in a while is fine. However, once the supply of daily material conditions exceeds the ability of parents, parenting may go in the opposite direction. A father complained online that he was a working-class man who lived frugally and sent his children to aristocratic schools. Children are so smart that they quickly learn to compete with others in terms of style, taste and taste. Eat big meals, wear famous brands, high-end underwear, and have a white face. But after all, the family had no money, and the feeling of inferiority became stronger and stronger, until I shed tears all day long. Lamenting the misery of his life and blaming his parents for their incompetence. This kind of parenting is the worst: it is like raising wolves – although parents pay a lot, it does no good to the children. The probability of eventually raising a white-eyed wolf is high but not low. If you are in Tokyo, Japan, you can go to the subway station for a walk. You will see some neatly arranged cardboard boxes. After a few taps on the cardboard box, there was a whooshing sound, and a dull face emerged from the box. tramp! According to statistics, the weight of homeless people in Japan is 30% higher than the national average. ——Most of them are fat, and almost all of them have diabetes. Why is this? Because the homeless people have given up on life and do not want to wrong themselves anymore. They go to fast food restaurants every day and eat unsold food from the fast food restaurants that day. After eating, I would sleep in a cardboard box. It was really difficult not to gain weight. ——Some parents, although they have not lived in a cardboard box, have really given up on themselves. When people are in bed, their hearts are wandering. There is no goal, and the business is just like a fly. Don’t study, don’t work hard. I hold a small wine cup in my hand and play mahjong every day. He would always say something to his children: That’s it for me, your dad, and it’s up to you for the rest of my life. There are also some parents who complain about their children every day: Why are you so stupid? Why are you so stupid? Why are you so hopeless? Look at that person and that person. Everyone is doing that, so why don’t you do that? It\’s still you who refuse to work hard! Hope that the son will turn into a donkey. It is to raise children like donkeys, hoping that when the children become successful, they will carry them on their backs. But these days, children carry their ownIt\’s hard to carry yourself, so how can you carry adults who are lying on the ground like mud? The third type of parents is more sensible – simply raise their children like pigs. An elder sister on the Internet complained that she was confused in reading, but her parents worked hard and put her into a good unit through some activities. She has more money, less things to do, is close to home, and can spend her time leisurely. 10 years passed in the blink of an eye. The great power of my parents no longer has any influence. My sister\’s 5-year-old child\’s mind was simply unable to cope with all kinds of harassment from her colleagues in the workplace. Resigned with sadness and anger. After leaving my job, I discovered that I had no skills, was upset, and had no ability to survive. Live like a pig, and you won\’t have to negotiate if you get stabbed. There are some strange parents who deliberately destroy all the survival skills of their children. Feed the child, open the door for the child, wash the clothes for the child, and put on the socks for the child. What’s even more bizarre is that the relationship is negotiated for the child and the job is found for the child. Children who grow up like this simply cannot survive. Who will they resent when they can no longer survive? If you are raised by wolves, your children will come back to bite you. If you are raised like a donkey, the child will not be able to carry you. Being a pig will make people put on their napkins, pick up their knives and forks, and eat you slowly. How should the child be raised? There was a girl named Quintanilla, who was born in a poor village in Mexico. When he was 13 years old, he went to Texas to study with his father, who was a migrant worker in the United States. But Quintanilla\’s grades were too poor and he couldn\’t keep up. If you can’t read the book, take an intelligence test. The reason was found – it turned out that Quintanilla was a mentally retarded girl. Can only drop out of school. Marry and have children. She said to her son: Son, mom, I am mentally retarded and will be useless in this life. You must study hard and don\’t be as miserable as mom. But I never expected that something would happen to my child just a few days after he entered school. Call the parents. At the age of 27, Quintanilla arrived at school anxious. The school said: There is no point in working hard for things like studying. It depends on genetics! When you were studying, your intelligence test showed that you were mentally retarded and you were forced to drop out of school, right? Now your son has inherited your mental retardation and failed the intelligence test. A mentally retarded mother gave birth to a mentally retarded son. Hahaha. Drop out of school and forget about it. At that time, Quintanilla was shocked: I am not a teacher, but can you not let my child drop out of school? I feel that the child seems to…can still be saved. The school administrator laughed: Stop joking and take the mentally retarded children away. Quintanilla cried loudly: No, I want to study from today on. I want to prove to my children that everyone can study, others can, and so can we. Let those who laugh at our feeblemindedness die! Please click here to enter the image description. I want to give my children a sky. It has to be this way! The school teacher tried hard to persuade Quintanilla: You must have courage and dare to face reality. The reality is that you are mentally retarded. If you insist on studying, isn’t this too retarded? Quintanilla replied: My mental retardation has lowered the family\’s IQ and destroyed the children\’s confidence. Therefore I must study. Only if I understand it clearly can I give my children confidence. Quintanilla, the mentally handicapped mother, started reading. 3 years to obtain a Bachelor of Science degree. Got another Master of Arts. Start blogging. After receiving his Ph.D., he became a member of the American Council on Education. Later, he became assistant to the provost of Huisden University. get nominated,Worked at the Institute of the National Judicial Advisory Council, providing full-time educational consultation to the president. The newspaper established a scholarship in her name, and the university awarded her the Outstanding Educator Award. She is low-key and humble. Whenever someone asks her what she does for a living, she replies: Sister, I am mentally retarded and don’t have enough brains. I can only teach and do scientific research in the university, and then provide consultation to the president. ——Her mentally retarded eldest son Mario became a physician after graduating from college. ——The mentally retarded second son Victor graduated from college and became a lawyer. Daughter Martha is studying law at university. The children said: We started as mentally retarded, but did not end as mentally retarded. That is because – mother gave us love, confidence and courage. Mom can do it, so can we! Quintanilla, a mentally retarded mother, said: In matters like education, hard work is useless, it depends on heredity. Genetic, not a rigid and fixed intelligence quotient. ——But your attitude, belief, will and courage in life. From ancient times to the present, for thousands of years, no golden phoenix has ever flown out of any chicken coop! At most, a gorgeous big rooster will fly out. No matter how far it flies, it will never reach the height of an eagle! Never! ——Unless your home is not a chicken coop! ——Unless, like Quintanilla, you endow your family with courage, courage, the will not to succumb to fate, and the eagle gene that is determined to challenge the heights of life. ——Even if a bad eagle flies out of your eagle\’s nest and flies lower than a chicken for a while, an eagle is still an eagle after all, and it will always own the boundless sky! Give your children a sky! Give your children eagle genes. Too superior material conditions, like too much meat and bones, will most likely feed children into white-eyed wolves. Take everything for granted. If one day you find it tastes bad, I will catch you and bite you randomly. You are decadent and weak, but you urge your children to work hard. This kind of preaching is the most nutritious fodder. Even if you feed a braying donkey, it\’s hard to say whether the lazy donkey poops or urinates a lot. Follow the child\’s path in life and leave the child with nowhere to go. This kind of taking care of everything will make the children become fat pigs waiting to be slaughtered. Are parents really happy to see their children being knifed every day? ——A truly good education does not require IQ or energy at all. It is the inheritance of family cultural spirit and ideological power! It is nothing more than giving the family a beautiful enterprising will, aiming for a high-quality life, never giving up, never giving up, always trying, and always making progress. Treat any difficulties and obstacles as the normal state of life, do not be happy with things, do not be sad with yourself, flowers bloom and fall, and you are not surprised by favors or disgrace. Just to make life no longer empty and boring, just to not let my life be wasted and lived in vain. Happiness and achievement in life have nothing to do with rigid IQ. What matters is attitude towards life. Should you go against the current and choose to forge ahead? Or follow the crowd and choose decadence? Your choice is your life, your decision is your genes, everything you do now will be reproduced in your descendants! All anxiety is meaningless, only the inheritance of this strong will to life is everything!