For children, the best hobbies and specialties are…

As the mother of a first grader, I have been a little anxious lately. The reason is that the child was detained in school for the third time this semester. The teacher listed three major \”crimes\”: the child who scored the least 100 points in the major and small tests this semester; the child who always liked to talk to others in class and kept making small moves; the three children who did not meet the standard in the physical education test. Among the children, you are one of them. …Finally, the female class teacher who was born in the 1990s said sincerely, \”Hold on tight, happy education for the first and second graders. After the third grade, all you will receive are the bills for not working hard today. Achievements are one thing, if you have some special skills or something, it will be even better.\” Okay, this is also our evaluation standard!\” I, an old aunt born in the 1980s, stood respectfully, nodding her head to show that she was listening, saying \”yes\” repeatedly to show her approval, and finally she lost no time in making up her mind and expressing her attitude: \” You\’re right, educate me well when you get back!\” Then he dragged the child home in a mess. In fact, I have been a top student since I was a child. I grew up with the praise of my teachers and the joy of my parents. Was the teacher called a parent? That has never happened! I thought that giving birth to a baby would be the perfect continuation of genes and a good replacement of generations, but who knew that I would have to spend half my life struggling with a 7-year-old baby. My self-confidence has suffered two major setbacks in my life. The first time was when my first love was dumped, and the second time is now. Raising a baby is a perfect destroyer of self-confidence. When I got home, I took a breather and opened WeChat to find some comfort. I almost died after a lap: my best friend’s 9-year-old son named Zhang could already play \”Spirited Away\” by Joe Hisaishi. The daughter of a friend named Li has already hosted a school-level party and stood with the principal. The daughter of a colleague surnamed Wu showed off a row of shiny certificates for English, Mathematical Olympiad, and dance. The trend of showing off babies is so high that it hurts my old eyes. If I want to like it, humph, there is no way. Jealousy makes people lose their reason, friendliness and beauty. I think Snow White’s stepmother must have felt like this at the beginning. Then I looked back at my baby: he was writing his homework unhurriedly, looking like a Buddhist who was unfazed and leisurely strolling around. Thinking about the few specialty classes she has signed up for recently, she agreed to them all, and she didn’t want to go after signing up. As soon as class started, I felt droopy. After class, I was left discussing techniques with the teacher. If you think about it carefully, the baby really doesn\’t have any special abilities. If you want to say that you are a bit outstanding, does eating more count? Does being tall count? So, what about being polite? As an old mother who worries about her baby all day long, I am not willing to face a baby with mediocre qualifications and no special skills! On the weekend, I want to invite my best friends to my house to play. Aman covered his cheek and said, \”It\’s better not to go. I\’m sick. I have severe internal heat and endocrine disorders, and I have several big blisters in my mouth. The monthly exam is coming soon, and I should report my tutoring results to the teachers of various subjects.\” .\” There was the sound of piano playing in the background of Xiaolin\’s phone. She said that her daughter would take her piano test next week, not to mention going out to play and even eating. As she was talking, she suddenly yelled: \”Can I still play well?\” I was so frightened that I quickly hung up the phone. The weather is dry and things are dry, so be careful of my mother getting angry. The mother of the older child is busy with \”assisted learning\”, so the mother of the younger child should always have time to be happy. Before I could contact Mengmeng, her messages came in like a flurry: \”Quickly, teach me some tips on how to make children crawl.The secret to getting faster! Lend me your music speaker. My son will crawl faster when he listens to it! \”It turned out that her son had participated in a crawling competition, and now he had defeated the babies in the district and entered the finals. He was about to compete with all the babies in the city for the title of \”The Strongest Crawling Cow Baby\”. She was racking her brains. It’s time for the final training! \”What\’s the championship prize? Is it a five-day trip to Europe? Is it worth being so serious about?\” I asked. \”A set of building blocks, what\’s wrong? This is not about prizes, it\’s about expertise and honor, do you understand?\” She said firmly, \”With this championship, it will be a bonus for my son to enter key kindergartens in the future! \”Crazy, crazy!\” There is a saying: Why do I often have tears in my eyes? It’s because I am too tired from being pushed by my baby. After becoming a mother, the pace of life is like the speed of a high-speed train, the workload is like an overloaded subway, and the coordinates of activities are like a spinning top—turning around, spinning around the baby. Not crazy, not mom. The strong insecurity in life is transmitted from the mother to the child in all aspects. Occasionally, I also think about raising children in a Buddhist way: don’t be happy with the baby, don’t be sad with the baby; having specialties is fate, not having specialties is destiny; being an ordinary mother and raising a happy baby is better than anything else, right? Haven\’t we reported in the news that many children are forced to suffer from neurogenic frequent urination, tics, mental illness and developmental delays due to excessive pressure in extracurricular classes? Suddenly, the voice of my daughter crying while practicing the piano sounded in my ears: \”555, it\’s too difficult, 555, I can\’t-\” Maybe, one day I will be forced to do something wrong. The gain outweighs the loss! At this point, the baby\’s father is very generous: academic performance is not important, happiness is the most important… Yes, why push yourself and the baby so hard to be a Buddhist who has no desires and desires, has a bright future, and smiles all day long Isn’t mom very good? After all, education is basically an unsolvable problem. There is no fixed criterion for success in life. From a certain philosophical point of view, working hard to live is itself a kind of success. Today, we ask our children to work hard. We just hope that at the age when they should work hard, as parents, we will not feel guilty; as children, we will not regret it in the future. If a child is really likely to be \”left behind\” by his peers in the future, what may be left behind may be a car, a house, a savings or power, but it is not necessarily a heart that knows how to work hard and make progress. Gao Xiaosong once talked about his experience in raising children: \”In fact, few children are really successful when they grow up, and sometimes success is destiny and cannot be educated. Therefore, the most practical education is to let children know how to be content with the situation in unsuccessful life, no matter what they encounter. Despite all the misfortune, we can be calm and indifferent, and spend the long years with peace of mind without complaining. When the children grow up, they will not suffer from pain and loss, and the parents will be successful!\” I looked back at my daughter who was writing seriously at the desk, and I prayed silently in my heart. Wish: May you have the ability to rise to the top of the clouds, and the determination to face ordinary life with a smile; May you have the courage to overcome obstacles, and the backbone not to be discouraged in adversity; May you have the pleasure of singing loudly in the hustle and bustle, and may you have the courage to face the ordinary life with a smile. Listen to your heart and stick to your true heart. For children, the best specialty and the greatest happiness is the ability to live their lives the way they like in the future. And for us parents, raising children, the most important thing is to be happy. Otherwise, what is the point of having children?