Huang Lei: Children are not born randomly

At noon the day before yesterday, a message suddenly popped up on the mobile phone information that Huang Lei had given birth to her third child. Huang Lei is one of my favorite male artists. When I saw the news about him having three children, the first thing I thought about was not whether it was allowed for him to have three children, or whether he favored boys over girls. As an expectant mother, I What came to mind was: This child is lucky. In the past two days, I have paid attention to the information on the Internet and the reaction to Huang Lei’s birth. Although a few netizens think that Huang Lei favors sons over daughters by having three children, the vast majority of people think that the idea of ​​​​having both sons and daughters is common among parents all over the world. Wishes are also full of blessings for Huang Lei and his family. Many female friends around me have a very direct attitude towards this matter: If my children have a father like Huang Lei, I would also like to have more children. In the past two days, I have also been thinking about this question. Why do some people get blessings when they give birth to children, while others get onlookers and criticism? Just like the news I saw a while ago that a couple gave birth to eight children in a row in order to have a boy, they received far more criticism than sympathy. Is it just because Huang Lei is a public figure? I think onlookers have a certain sense of judgment. Although I can\’t judge other people\’s affairs casually, I still feel sincerely happy for the child when I see the birth and imagine the child\’s future. In the final analysis, it depends on whether the parents can provide him with certain protection after giving birth to this child, and whether he can have a good childhood and a promising future. Obviously, Huang Lei and his wife have this condition. From Huang Lei and his wife, we can basically predict that after this child is born, his life will not be bad, and his birth will basically not affect the lives of the other two children. First, he has a pair of parents who love each other deeply. Some people say that the best education for children is for parents to love each other. There is a certain truth to this sentence. If you are born in a loving family, you can feel the complete love of your parents, and you will know how to love your significant other when you grow up. Because he himself is not lacking in love, giving love will become a kind of temperament in his bones. Sun Li met Huang Lei when she was 18 years old, and the two have supported each other for more than 20 years. Although there may be friction and unhappiness in the process, the two have always regarded each other as their only one. How many women envy Sun Li. It can be seen from her demeanor and temperament that her life has been happy these years. As for Huang Lei, he was quite handsome when he was young. In middle age, although he has gained weight, his charm has increased with his experience. He shows off his wife and children, but few have heard of his scandals. Children are lucky to be born into a family where parents love each other, even if it is an ordinary family. Secondly, he has a pair of parents who can fight together. A good education depends on your parents. The \”fighting parents\” mentioned here not only refers to the good material conditions that the parents can provide him, but also depends more on how the parents treat their children and how they educate their children. Obviously, Huang Lei and his wife are relatively successful in educating their children. They put their children\’s education and training in an important position. The division of labor in the family is very clear. When conditions permit, the two people have a clear division of labor, and the mother is responsible for taking care of them.Children, the father is responsible for making money to support the family. We all know that the best education is for parents to take care of their children in person, especially in the first few years of their children\’s growth. However, this requirement is not possible in many families. Either the mother needs to make money to support the family just like the father; or the mother loses herself in raising children, and some even lose the family. Huang Lei and his wife have done this very well. The father concentrates on developing his career, and the mother happily raises her children. Dad knows how to be considerate of mom, takes care of his wife and children when he has time, and stays with them at home as much as possible. With the joint efforts of the couple, their two daughters are sunny, cute, and motivated. The eldest daughter Huang Duoduo\’s English communication skills have envied many parents, and she is good in everything else. Obviously, they not only provide good material conditions for their children, but also devote themselves to their children\’s education. The children educated by such families will not be bad. Again, he will not be the focus of family conflicts. Yes, Huang Lei gave birth to a boy for his third child, but I don’t think he and Sun Li will love their two daughters less because of this boy. I don\’t think that Huang Lei has serious patriarchal thoughts after giving birth to a son. A friend who gave birth to two sons said that she would like to have another daughter if she could have another daughter. How many parents have this idea and hope to have sons and daughters, but not because they favor sons over daughters or daughters over sons. Whether it is a son or a daughter, they will care for and love them seriously. The arrival of this child will allow the parents to devote some energy to him, but the other two children will still be the treasures in their hearts. There is no one who is more important or less important with their parents. They can all share their parents\’ love well. Only in this way can children love each other, become each other\’s growth companions, and support each other when they grow up. If parents pay too much attention to a certain child and say that they have more children so that the older child can have a companion, they are actually planting wounds in the child\’s heart. I think most parents have the same idea as me. When a child is born, he must provide him with certain conditions. Parents do their best to make the child an independent and happy individual, rather than simply relying on the parents. The repetition of life is not just the continuation of parents\’ lives. As ordinary parents, although they may not be able to provide their children with the conditions that Huang Lei and his wife have, they still try their best to be a pair of competent parents: parents love each other and love their children.