If you don\’t get into a good university, will your life be ruined?

There has been a lot of discussion about the college entrance examination recently. Although the baby is still young, he will also take the college entrance examination in a few years. Moreover, the children who were promoted to junior high school or junior high school in front of us did not make parents’ hearts hang in their throats. It tests the efforts of one family after another. Last year, a relative’s child was admitted to a very ordinary second-level school and asked me if I wanted to educate my child. I said without hesitation at that time: \”Go! Why not go?\” A relative said to me worriedly: \”Isn\’t it said that it is difficult for college students to find a job now and they can\’t find a job after graduation? Besides, this school has no reputation at all. I\’m afraid it will be harder to find a good job.\” \”If I don\’t go to school, what kind of job can I do now? Open a shop with you, or work part-time?\” \”I just don\’t think he can endure hardship, and he is young. And he also wants to study. Alas! Don’t know what to do?” “Uncle, everyone has to rely on themselves in the end. What you can do to help him is to send him to a new platform, and don’t worry too much about the results. Because now at least there is a chance to choose. If you miss it, you will regret it. It’s too late, and many of my friends have regrets, saying that they just didn’t study enough.” He said that he would think about it later. In the end, the relatives sent their children to college. I can understand his anxiety. For an ordinary family, there are no resources to protect their children\’s future. What awaits their family is full of uncertainties. But this kind of variable contains hope, the hope of changing one\’s own destiny. The advice I give to my relatives with such certainty is also based on my own experience. In the college entrance examination that year, I only got into an ordinary school. Seeing this result at that time, the family members were also worried and hesitant. Because in their eyes, those who come from Peking University and Tsinghua University are promising, and they must at least take a high-level exam. I listened, watched, and thought worriedly. A relative also planned my life path: I would work for a few years, go home and build a house, then get married and have children, and live a good life. Because this is the most reliable and safest way they have seen. Affected by their own fixed vision and thinking, many people have been stuck in a cocoon their entire lives, feeling that their children\’s lives can only follow the stable patterns they see. But I am not willing to do so. Because I know that only by going out can there be hope, and only by climbing to the top of the mountain can I know the scenery on the other side of the mountain. I told my family to let me go to school. If I work harder, I will get a scholarship, and I can also work part-time to make money. Moreover, if you don’t try, how will you know that I won’t be successful? Just let me try, I\’m not afraid! Seeing that I was determined, my family still couldn\’t bear the blow. Finally, I got into college as I wished. When I entered school, I had only one thought in my mind: study hard and don’t let yourself regret it. When I got to college, I discovered that my parents’ concerns were not unfounded. Because not many people actually study, but many sleep in class and play computer games after class. Some people are thinking about political power, and some people are forming gangs everywhere. Just like in a vast field, a group of people are sowing seeds. There are not many people who really work hard. This should be the biggest difference between ordinary universities and good universities. But you can\’t give up on yourself just because of this. Only when a person gives up can he really achieve nothing. We can tell our children this concept when they are young. firmKeep doing what you think is right, even if you are laughed at. On the road of hard work, no one may discover your sparkling heart. And your efforts look silly and silly. But your sweat has already been pouring the cornerstone of the future. Many years later, I discovered that most of those hard-working, seemingly dull scholars have achieved excellent results in their own industries. And those college students who have no knowledge and skills have changed their jobs again and again. Some of them just gnaw at their old age and become college students who cannot find a job in the eyes of others. Some people will complain that fate is unfair. In fact, there is no unfairness, it is inseparable from your own hard work. We have seen many people complain that life is unsatisfactory. So what were you doing during your best years of study? Some people are reading to recharge, while others are having fun. After graduation, the achievements are of course different. Quality of life also tends to vary. Today, the most fortunate thing for me is that I persisted and entered university. What should be more appreciated is your own efforts and your consistent hard-working attitude. Although I am also very tired, this kind of tiredness is my own willing choice. Rather than living a forced life. I feel a sense of accomplishment, I feel dignified, my heart is full, and there is happiness accompanying me. Long Yingtai wrote a paragraph to his son Andre: \”Son, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope you will have the right to choose in the future, and the choice will be meaningful and meaningful. Work with time, rather than being forced to make a living. When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your job gives you time and does not deprive you of your life, you have dignity. Sense of accomplishment and dignity , give you happiness.\” Only those who have walked through it can have a profound understanding of this sentence. My son once asked me, \”Dad, why do you and mom both work and can\’t play with me often?\” \”Baby, because everyone has to work.\” \”What\’s the purpose of work?\” \”Some people just want to live. Some people do it for their own ideals.\” The son couldn\’t understand. I said you will understand when you are older. Dad hopes that you can work for your ideals in the future. One day, this little hairy head in front of us will grow up. What will their lives be like? It is inseparable from the training of parents today. It requires preparation for a rainy day. This is a long-distance race that requires endurance. In a certain sense, education is about fighting for parents and fighting against mothers. The famous German philosopher Jaspers said: \”Real education is to use one tree to shake another tree, use one cloud to push another cloud, and use one soul to awaken another soul.\” Parents are that The tree is the cloud, the watchman who awakens the child\’s soul. You can\’t take advantage of the heat when you should be working hard. The growth of a tree starts from the root stage and finally grows into what it should be. There is a saying that is very popular recently: Go and engage in your happy education, my child will go to Peking University. From this sentence, we can understand the best wishes of parents all over the world for their children to succeed. Some mothers will say that education itself can be very happy. We just want our children to learn happily, and they will be happy if they don’t go to Peking University. Of course, not everyone can go to Peking University. It is also a good thing to make children happy. But just like freedom, there is no absolutehapiness? There is always a need for someone to carry the burden forward and to make a contribution. Last time I sent my son to kindergarten, the teacher asked me, \”What aspects of ability do I most want my child to improve in school?\” I said it would be good to make him happy. When I say this, it is because I have been trying and working hard to cultivate children\’s learning habits. Where is the knowledge that is easily acquired without any effort. Take reciting poetry as an example. People with extraordinary talents may have a photographic memory. But most ordinary people still need to recite it repeatedly to remember it. Most children have average qualifications, and what ultimately distinguishes them is the cultivation of their parents and their children\’s efforts. Destiny is unpredictable and changeable. Maybe while you were lamenting, someone was already on the road. Many people complain that they are so smart, why have they accomplished nothing and are not as good as those with mediocre qualifications? That\’s because hard work is more important than cleverness. Until the end, who knows what the outcome will be? It is better to use your own efforts to embrace this variable. There is a saying in the Book of Changes: \”If you are poor, you will change; if you change, you will be general; if you are general, you will be long-term.\” Only change can bring hope and open channels. Even if you don\’t go to a first-class university, you still have to work hard to live a good life. Hopefully parents will have this courage and their children will have this determination. Tell your children that hard work has become a habit. One day, excellence will come to you like an old friend.