My child, don’t let embarrassment get to you.

During the Spring Festival holiday, I took my daughter, who was about to take the college entrance examination, to learn from my best friend who had been a senior class teacher for more than ten years. My best friend asked about my daughter\’s study situation. My daughter said that the biggest difficulties are mathematics and English, and she still has only a partial understanding of many knowledge points. The best friend asked her daughter bluntly: \”The teacher usually doesn\’t pay much attention to you, right?\” The daughter blushed and nodded. My best friend continued: \”Do you know why teachers don\’t pay much attention to you? It\’s because you lack initiative.\” Next, her best friend said that among the students she had taught, the ones that impressed her the most were the ones with outstanding academic performance. The top students must be those students who often come to her with books to ask questions. The grades of these students are usually not very outstanding, but they like to pester the teacher. The teacher may seem annoyed on the surface, but in fact he likes these students very much. My best friend also talked about a student she once taught. He was super naughty and was a mess in the Chinese language taught by her best friend. But he especially likes to stick to the teacher. He often stays in the office with a small problem. Sometimes he meets the teacher on the road and even takes out the lollipop he is eating and asks the teacher to take a bite. My best friend, who is a teacher, scolded him that \”a seventeen or eighteen-year-old kid can\’t be serious anymore\”, but she was very happy in her heart. She must be extremely patient if she can give him some help in his studies. Compared with those students who did not actively raise their hands to answer questions in class and took detours when meeting the teacher, this ungrateful child attracted more attention from the teacher. As a teacher, I feel the same way about this. I remember that twenty years ago, I went to a rural middle school for an internship. When I first came to the podium, I was quite nervous and cramped, especially since the class teacher, classroom teacher and school leaders were sitting in the back row. Just as I was blushing and stuttering about the opening remarks of the class, one student raised his little hand high. I was quite surprised, and then made a gesture asking him to stand up and speak. \”Teacher, your voice is so beautiful, and your long hair is also very beautiful!\” Then there was a burst of laughter in the classroom. Although I was quite embarrassed at the time, this child was the first child I remember in my career as a teacher. During this one-month internship period, every time I went to class, I would always look at the child habitually, especially when asking questions, I would definitely expect that little hand to be raised high immediately. More than twenty years later, whenever I think of this child who raised his hand in class, the corners of my mouth still curl up slightly unconsciously. When I was a child, I was also a child who lacked initiative. I remember one time when the school held a chorus competition on National Day, the teacher had to select a few students to stand in the front row and lead the singing. At that time, I was very eager for the teacher to choose me, but later the teacher chose those few students who volunteered. On the day of the competition, looking at those classmates wearing beautiful clothes and beautiful makeup, I was both envious and frustrated. The same goes for campaign class cadres. Once, the original monitor was out of school because of illness, and the head teacher decided to choose a new monitor in the class. The teacher said that students who think they are capable can stand on the podium and deliver a campaign speech. I still didn\’t have the courage to go on stage, but I watched helplessly as my position as monitor was taken away by a classmate who was no better than me. thisA week later, I still couldn\’t calm down, so one night, I wrote out my desire to be the squad leader and my thoughts on what I would do if I became the squad leader in the form of a letter, and included it in the next morning. Go to the homework and give it to the teacher together. That afternoon, the teacher called me to the office and said to me with regret and appreciation: \”You have so many ideas, and they are all so good. Why didn\’t you take the initiative to fight for them? Now the candidate for monitor has been decided, teacher I just discovered your talent, what a pity!\” After the teacher sighed, he touched my head and said to me sincerely: \”My child, if you want to get what you want, you can\’t just bury it in your heart. You have to put it into action and take the initiative to fight for yourself!\” This sentence has always been with me in the future. Although sometimes the fight is not successful, I will have no regrets because I have fought for it. In fact, as a teacher, I care about every child in my heart. But in today\’s schools, a class ranges from forty to fifty to seventy or eighty. What teachers can pay attention to must be those children who are proactive and highly active in the class. Even if we are classmates, the ones we can still name by name many years after graduation must be those who have a higher appearance rate. For those classmates who are usually taciturn, when they meet again decades later, the other person may be scratching his head and embarrassed for a long time, unable to say his or her name. Taking initiative is really important for a student: if you don’t take the initiative to ask for advice when you encounter a problem, the teacher will not know that you have a problem and will not be able to answer it for you in time; if you do not actively raise your hand to answer questions during class, you will lose the teacher’s attention. Your self-confidence will gradually decrease if you have the opportunity to praise you; if you don’t take the initiative to fight for school or class activities, you will lose the platform to show yourself and exercise yourself. When others are holding flowers or prizes, you can only Envy and frustration on the sidelines! Children, don’t let yourself be in a state of waiting forever, and don’t let your capable self lose to those proactive classmates. Learn to take the initiative to raise your little hands high, learn to take the initiative to stand up and tell teachers and classmates: \”I can do it!\” Slowly, you will find that you are actually excellent, actually you are very glorious, and in fact you can also have more More attention, warmer applause and better results!