One day we have to accept that our children are just ordinary people

There is a scene that has stuck in my memory for many years. When my son was in elementary school, because he was not old enough, he asked an acquaintance to go to the school to ask the principal for accommodation. Unexpectedly, in the principal\’s office, we met many parents like us. Of course the principal did not agree to let their children go to school in the morning, but the parents were reluctant and let their children show off their talents in front of the principal: some asked the children to recite ancient poems for the principal on the spot, and some asked the children to do arithmetic on the spot… In short , parents want to emphasize to the principal that my children are not ordinary people and should go to school early. If they enter school at the same age as other children, it will be a waste of time and stifle genius. To be honest, I was quite dissatisfied with the behavior of other parents at the time. Because of their children’s little tricks, my children have already mastered them! I thought to myself, they are far worse than my children! (I believe every parent at the scene thought so, haha) The admission regulations at that time were not as strict as they are now. Finally, under the pressure of parents, all the children entered the first grade. I don’t know how other children will develop later. Anyway, my child did not become a genius as I expected. In his future studies, he has been a big fish in a small pond and a small fish in a big pond. Finally, he discovered that there are people outside the world, and there are only a handful of truly talented people. Moreover, it does not belong to oneself. Someone has said well that the biggest difference between Chinese parents and Western parents is that we cannot accept that our children may be ordinary people in the future. However, for the vast majority of families, their children are just ordinary people. This is the reality. Starting from the first grade of elementary school, most of our parents have the mentality of never giving up until their children take the exam. At this time, we completely forgot that when we were in school, our grades were neither good nor bad, and we were just ordinary people. In this case, why do we demand that if a child is born to be extremely smart, he must be a head above others! Every parent hopes that their children will be different, so we can all understand the mentality of hoping that their children will become successful and their daughters will become successful. But good wishes are one thing, and hard reality is another. \”You are known as a prodigy when you are young, you have little ambition, you are unknown for a long time, and you will eventually die with the grass and trees.\” This is the growth process of many people, and it is also the process of raising children of many parents. Thinking that your children are extraordinary is an ordinary thought shared by many ordinary people. To be cruel, sometimes, it is precisely because we are ordinary that we place our hopes on our children. Then, as the children grew up, their hopes turned to disappointment again and again, and finally, they had to admit that their children turned out to be the same as themselves. Don\’t be sad, this is the truest life. We will always slowly discover that our children, despite all their efforts, cannot become the best among the crowd. Therefore, I slowly lowered my expectations for my child, hoping that he would go to college smoothly, find a job, start a family, and live in peace for the rest of his life. Many first-time fathers and mothers have said the same thing: when a child is born, the most important thing you care about is not whether it is a boy or a girl.It’s not about whether you’re pretty or not, it’s not about whether you’re fat or thin, it’s about your body not wanting anything more or less. We just want a normal child like others. This is our original intention! One day, we have to accept that our children are just ordinary people; one day, we will be happy that our children are just ordinary people. When a family is together, living an ordinary life and enjoying ordinary happiness, this is the most real and down-to-earth life.