Our children are starting to develop

Our child began to develop my daughter, Miss Tang. For \”Smasher\” (meaning \”breast\” in Northeastern dialect), in order to avoid unnecessary trouble, I will use \”za\” instead in the following text. Note: It is not that cosmetics brand! ) has an indescribable fascination. This kind of \”indescribable\” means that she likes it very much, loves it very much, longs for it very much, and looks forward to it very much. Even though I am so old now, before going to bed at night, my little hands will still stick into my clothes. I exclusively breastfed her until she was two years old, and then weaned her naturally. However, the fact that she likes to touch her breasts is down to my mother. We all accepted the weaning calmly, but my mother had to say heartbrokenly: \”My eldest grandson is so pitiful. He has no breasts to eat. Come on, mom won\’t give it to you.\” Eat, come and touch grandma!\” Me: …but actually I have no objection. Although there are times when I feel like, \”Oh, you\’re so annoying,\” most of the time, I think it\’s a very intimate moment between mother and daughter. I held her in my arms and scratched her back. After scratching, she pretended nothing was wrong and put her hand into my clothes. Then the two of us started chatting, chatting about everything. Suddenly everyone sat up and turned on the light to watch the cats, because they were either fighting or acting strangely. After that, I tucked her into my bed and didn\’t allow her to touch her again. At this time, she would say: \”Huh, what\’s so great about not being pulled down by being touched? I will do it myself in the future! I want to grow bigger than you!\” Me: \”…This is not necessarily true, daughter, maybe you The development of breasts is up to your father…\” Breasts are the best connection between children and their mothers to establish a secure attachment. In other words, although breast milk can no longer provide comprehensive nutrition for babies after six months (but in fact, children fed exclusively with milk powder also need to add complementary foods after six months, so this is not a problem of insufficient breast milk nutrition, but It’s time to add complementary food to the child), but in the subsequent breastfeeding, the spiritual supply provided to the baby is far greater than the food supply, and the child will build a sense of security and attachment to the real mother. For example, many children who are fed milk powder or weaned early will be obsessed with small blankets, small pillows, small quilts, small towels, plush toys, etc. Especially before they go to bed, they must touch or even hold these soft, warm, and Items that can accompany them for a long time, so that they will have enough sense of security. This is essentially the same as my daughter’s love of touching her baby since she was a child. The only difference is that she has established all trust and sense of security. On me, our parent-child relationship has always been very harmonious, very equal, and very close. The attachment relationship will affect us throughout our lives, and its origin is when we are very young babies. At that time, the way our mother treated us and responded to our needs directly determines our attachment, which is secure attachment and anxiety. -Resistant attachment, or avoidant attachment. The impact of attachment on us is that it is the \”mother\” of all our interpersonal relationships. Off topic again. Having said so much above, I just want to brag to show that because Miss Sugar has built a sense of trust and security in me, she can handle topics like development that make children sensitive and shy.Communicate with me openly. Miss Sugar has been looking forward to development since she was in the first grade of elementary school. She would observe me every day when I took a shower, and then say to me or my grandma in surprise: \”Look, I\’ve grown!\” She has been saying this for four years, and until now, there has been basically no change. Two days ago, in order to comfort her, I bought some girly pure cotton vests for her. God, Miss Sugar really likes it so much. I look at it from left to right and can\’t bear to put it down. I said, daughter, mom has washed the vest, you can wear it to school tomorrow. She happily agreed. I was very busy that night, formatting my articles and advertising copy, so she took a bath by herself and then fell asleep by herself. We didn\’t chat that night. When I enter my bedroom late at night, I always see the sweetest sight. My daughter sleeps soundly in bed, with two cats beside her. Whenever this happens, my heart feels very, very soft. That night, as usual, I walked to the bedside and stared at my daughter by the light. Her little face is chubby, and although her eyes are not big, her eyelashes look very long when she sleeps. I kissed her cheek and she woke up. When she saw it was me, she actually smiled – although I kissed her every day after she went to bed, she rarely woke up, let alone smiled at me when she woke up, and I obviously found that there was something in her smile. She kept the secret, so she seemed a little shy. I couldn\’t guess why, so I asked her: \”Did your daughter be woken up by her mother?\” She still smiled a little shyly, then opened the quilt, and said a little happily and a little mysteriously: \”Look, Mom, I\’m sleeping in a little vest.\” My heart melted at that moment. I even guessed how she turned over and over in the bedroom alone and liked those little vests, then carefully selected one and put it on after a long time of effort. After covering herself with the quilt, she might have peeked at it over and over again. Go back, and finally fall asleep sweetly with a little joy and secret. My daughter has the little thoughts, little expectations, and soft heart of a girl. And I am so lucky to be able to accompany her through her development period and adolescence since she was born. It seems that I have lived through the baby stage again. Everything she can experience, I can also experience; everything she expects. , I look forward to it as much as she does. I kissed my daughter\’s face again and said to her: \”Daughter, you are so cute and mommy loves you so much.\” She still smiled like when she just woke up and responded to me: \”Yes, mom, I do too.\” Love you.\” Then I stayed with her and she fell asleep again quickly. The next day, at my suggestion, she happily put on a vest and went to school. As a result, I stopped wearing it on the third day. I said, why don’t you wear it? She said: Hot! Me: …Since then, she has never mentioned those little vests. Maybe in her opinion, I bought them a little too early… But she is still full of confidence that she can enter the ranks of girls early. expect. We have never shied away from similar topics and are very honest. She can ask any questions she wants, and I will try my best to explain them to her from a scientific perspective. We also often joke. for exampleOne time, I suddenly said to her: \”Daughter, let\’s play a role swap game!\” She said: \”How to swap?\” I said: \”You will be my mother, and I will be your daughter. Okay. , let’s start now! Mom~~~~” She said: “Hey daughter! You see your baby’s baby is bigger than mom’s!” Me: “…” Another time, I wore a large dress When Miss Tang saw it, she said to me disdainfully: \”Mom, you look fat in this dress.\” I said: \”Yes, people like you without breasts will look thin in it.\” She: \” …?? Mom, are you angry with me?\” I said, \”Yes.\” She was also always angry with me. For example, she said that their modeling teacher said that the models were all flat-chested, and the clothes worn by people with big breasts were too vulgar. ! I said you should stop growing. Your breasts should be as big as your father\’s. She said: Forget it, I\’ll just be more vulgar. ——These moments are really our most intimate, happiest and most beautiful moments. I hope they can exist for a longer time, and even longer, I will collect them carefully and use them to warm me for the rest of my life when she grows up. I asked her: \”Daughter, what should you do if you enter adolescence and start to rebel?\” She said: \”What is rebellion?\” I said: \”You don\’t like to hear anything your mother says, and then with a \’bang\’, you throw yourself Locked in the room. And then left my mother alone to be sad.\” She said: \”But why should I be rebellious?\” I said: \”Everyone will have this stage! My mother also went through it when she was a child.\” She was very serious She said to me: \”Mom, that\’s too far. Let\’s not think about this problem. We are happy now. Isn\’t that good?\” Uh-huh, I think what she said is absolutely correct.