Raising a daughter is 10,000 times more worrying than raising a son

During New Year\’s Day, my children were at home for the holidays and I couldn\’t work. It was a good time to connect with friends, so I called a friend I hadn\’t contacted for a long time. She is the mother of a male classmate of Xiao Xi’s kindergarten. The two children used to play well, so I have a good relationship with her. But we have lost contact since we moved, but I still think of her often. We were chatting about the second child. My friend used to be very envious of us having a second child. However, neither of them is an only child, and they both work in state-owned enterprises, so they have always been in the envious stage. Now that the policy has been relaxed, she is a few years younger than me and is suitable to be a mother again, so I asked her if she would have a second child. \”I don\’t dare to give birth! If our family is a daughter, I will definitely have no hesitation. If we have a son for the second time, we will have a son and a daughter, which is the best. If we have another daughter, the two girls will be fine too. But our family is a son. Once I have another son, I will cry to death!\” My friend\’s family has two houses, one of which I live in now, and a small apartment in the suburbs that I bought as an investment a few years ago. They thought that when they got old, the couple would move to the suburbs and leave the house in the city to their son. \”If there is another son, we have to prepare a house for him. Now that the house price is so expensive, isn\’t this going to cost him his life? If he cannot be provided with a house, the child will suffer a loss when looking for a girlfriend in the future; if two If the brothers share the current house, then for the eldest son, what could have been enjoyed exclusively has to be shared equally with the younger brother. Thinking like this makes me feel sorry for the eldest son…\” On the other hand, a friend also talked about the hard work of raising a son, saying The child has been so naughty and loves to make trouble since he was a child, and he has always been in front of the house. He is really worried about this, and he is extremely envious of Xiaoxi\’s well-behavedness. To sum it up: raising a daughter is easy, and you won’t be afraid of a dozen of them; raising a son is a worry, and having one is enough! My friend’s idea is actually very representative. When talking about the second child in a mother’s group, someone joked: If the second child can guarantee the birth of a daughter, there will be no hesitation! I also held this view before, especially after reading various jokes on the Internet about \”my daughter is China Merchants Bank and my son is China Construction Bank\”, etc., I became even more complacent. After giving birth to Xiao Nuo, she was envied by many of her friends, and she was very proud: Look at the daughter I gave birth to in one birth, and I can easily (?) give birth to a second child, how great! The second child is also a daughter. Although grandparents in rural areas are inevitably disappointed, I am very satisfied. This saves me a lot of worry! Until one time, when I was holding Xiao Nuo for several months at the school gate to wait for Xiao Xi to finish school, I was chatting with a father next to me. His words completely changed my mind: \”I don\’t understand what mothers think. As a father, I really feel that raising a daughter is very worrying. My child is only in second grade now, and I am already worried all day long. At school, I worry that she will not be able to beat boys and will be bullied. After school, I worry that she will meet bad people. When she grows up, When I get older, I will definitely worry more… I don\’t dare to have a second child. If I have another daughter, I will worry to death!\” This was the first time I realized that raising a daughter requires more worry. It’s really scary to think about it! In this society where women are still a vulnerable group, parents of girls really have to worry a lot more than parents of boys. No wonderA friend once said that her husband often lamented to her daughter in kindergarten: \”My daughter is so beautiful, what will she do in the future?\” The biggest pressure in raising a son is financial: when the son grows up, he needs to buy a house for him. Car, otherwise, he may be disliked and picky by the girl he likes because of his poor conditions, and thus he will not be able to marry a good wife. I have to work hard for this all my life, and I may have to help them supplement the family income when I get old. Raising a daughter, in today\’s society, does bring less financial pressure. When the child grows up, it is certainly better if you can help her buy a house. It doesn\’t seem to matter if you don\’t have the ability. The social atmosphere does not place such requirements on girls. Secondly, boys are naughty. When they are young, they may make a mess at home and damage numerous items; when they are older, they may bully others in school, and parents have to clean up the mess; when they are older, they may worry about him fighting, breaking laws, etc. When daughters are young, they are generally more well-behaved and less troublesome, which allows parents to worry less. However, these two points actually cannot withstand careful scrutiny. We all know that the new Marriage Law stipulates that pre-marital property is personal property and is not regarded as joint property of husband and wife. The house bought by parents for their son will always belong to the son, and it does not even need to be notarized. However, the parents did not buy a house for their daughter. The daughter will always live in someone else\’s house and can only enjoy the right of residence. Once the marital status changes, the daughter will have no shelter. In this case, do you still dare not to work hard to buy a house for your daughter? As for the problem of children being skinny when they are young, this is indeed a common phenomenon. For example, a friend\’s son was fishing in the fish tank at home, but he couldn\’t catch a goldfish, so he grabbed the goldfish with his hand and stabbed it on a toy fishhook. Later, they even broke their fish tank. For example, Xiao Ming may have broken the windowpane of the house next door when he was playing ball; another example is that the Zhang family\’s son broke a classmate\’s head, and his parents were criticized by the teacher, apologized to each other, and paid for medical expenses; and another example is that the Li family\’s son in junior high school lifted a But I chose to face the former with my eyes closed, compared to my daughter who is introverted, timid and sensitive, when my son crushes a goldfish to death and smashes the fish tank or breaks the neighbor’s window glass. I would rather pay money to a classmate whose head was broken by my son than to have my daughter be the child whose head was broken. I would rather my son lift up the skirt of a female classmate than have my daughter lift up the skirt of a male classmate… First of all, if you raise a son, you need to prevent abduction, fraud, and robbery when he is young. If you raise a daughter, you need to prevent abduction, fraud, and robbery throughout her life. Remember the girl who was dragged at the Summer Palace Hotel, right? Even as an adult, there are still many crises. The anti-trafficking slogan says: Combat the criminal activities of abducting women and children! Women are definitely at a disadvantage physically and physically. In many cases, it is not just that you have knowledge and IQ that can avoid danger. This is what the saying \”one force can defeat ten\” means. No matter how hard you try, you cannot completely avoid the risk of meeting bad people, so you can only always worry about it! Secondly, my daughter’s family will have to deal with the troubles of her aunt for most of her life. If she is in good health, but if she has dysmenorrhea, she will have to suffer a lot more in her life! I have a friend who suffers from severe menstrual cramps. Her monthly visits from her aunt are a disaster. She often has to take time off from school to sleep at home because of the pain during school.The bed groaned. Any plans after work must be considered and staggered for a few days. How can a parent not feel heartbroken as he watches his daughter suffer without being able to do anything about it? The third daughter will be pregnant and have a baby when she grows up. Although these pains make women feel like they are reborn in Nirvana, the pain and suffering they have experienced will add more gray hair to their parents! What\’s more, when a woman gives birth, it\’s like walking through the gates of hell. The mother-in-law and the biological mother waiting outside the delivery room may have very different thoughts: the mother-in-law is full of expectations for her grandson, and her joy is beyond words; while the biological mother is thinking about what her daughter may encounter when she is going through the most painful and painful life. Danger, her heart might be burning on fire. Fourth, it goes without saying that women are in a vulnerable group in love and marriage relationships. When she fell in love at a young age, her parents were worried that their daughter would suffer a loss and that it would affect her study and future. As for their son\’s premature love, his parents at least don\’t have to worry about him suffering a disadvantage. In her late thirties, her daughter has become a \”leftover girl\” without having a relationship, and her parents may be too worried to sleep. Although \”leftover men\” also worry parents, as the saying goes, \”A man is only thirty-one flowers and a woman is thirty-years-old dregs.\” In any case, society is much more tolerant of men. Finally, the children found a suitable partner and got married. Parents will start to worry about whether their daughter has a good relationship with her mother-in-law and whether she will be ostracized by her eldest aunt and sister-in-law. But few parents need to worry about their son having a tense relationship with his father-in-law and being bullied by his sister-in-law and brother-in-law. Once a couple quarrels, parents may worry about their daughter being abused by their son-in-law, but they don’t have to worry about their son being beaten and kicked by his wife. If a couple gets divorced, both parents will be extremely worried! The probability of remarriage is very different between divorced women and divorced men. Most divorced women can only lower their standards and find a man, but divorced men are hardly affected (please tell me about individual cases, I am talking about high probability). The impact of a daughter\’s divorce on her parents is comparable to the impact of a parent\’s divorce on a young child! Therefore, if someone tells me that it is easier to raise a daughter than a son, I will answer him: P! Raising a daughter is 10,000 times more worrying than raising a son!