Son, I heard that you don’t want to go to college

Yesterday, I received a message from a senior high school student in my background: \”Teacher Su Xin, I am about to take the college entrance examination, but I am very confused. My brother has graduated from college a few years ago and is still working in a private company, earning a salary of It’s just enough for daily expenses. My parents often say that he went to college in vain. A sister from my neighbor’s family only went to a technical school. After graduation, she worked in a hotel. Now she is a housekeeping manager, and her salary is several times that of my brother. Times. They grew up together, and someone wanted to bring them together, but that sister didn\’t like my brother at all, saying that he was a poor scholar who would never be able to afford a house in his life. I felt that there was really no use in going to college. I might as well If you go out and work hard early, you might do better than a college student in the future.\” To be honest, what this classmate said was not false. I have seen many similar situations myself. What this classmate saw and heard was only the beginning of the story, but the sequel of the story was deeply rooted in my heart. More than twenty years ago, I had a neighbor sister who went to high school for one year. She felt that studying was too hard, so she went to work in a hotel. She was well-organized, smart and capable, and was quickly promoted to supervisor. Her work clothes are particularly good-looking, with a white dress and black skirt, a pair of stiletto leather shoes, and a slim figure when she walks. In my eyes, she looks just like a movie star. Her mother often comes to my house to visit and talks about all kinds of things about that sister, how much her salary is, how much bonus she has, how good her benefits are, and how she knows all kinds of dignitaries. Fortunately, my mother, who has read a lot of books, has never been moved by the immediate benefits. She never approves of children starting to earn money early. She said there is no need to worry about making money. If you study for a few more years while you are young, your vision and structure will be different, and there will be more opportunities in the future. Last month, the neighbor sister came to our unit to do business. Although I hadn\’t seen her for many years, I recognized her at a glance. Her eyebrows were vague, but her face was full of vicissitudes of life. She was only in her early forties and looked much older than her actual age. I took the initiative to say hello to her, and she looked surprised. She didn\’t expect to meet me here. We sat on chairs in the corner of the hall and talked about our experiences over the years. She got married when she was twenty-five, and her husband was a good-looking man who worked in a factory that was very profitable at the time. When she got pregnant after marriage, the hotel wouldn\’t let her have sex. She didn\’t start working until her child went to kindergarten at the age of three. The old hotel had no intention of accepting her anymore. Her prime years were gone, and the \”youth meal\” was unpalatable. I had no skills and no education, so I finally found a job as a salesperson in a small clothing store. Her husband, like her, had no education or skills. Over the years, the factory could not keep up with the market, and his life was very hard. There were many opportunities before her, but she couldn\’t even get in because she didn\’t have a diploma. Her son is about to take the college entrance examination and his academic performance is good. She said that she must let her child study more and go to higher places. Don\’t be like her, who only sees the scenery on the first floor in your life because of short-sightedness. When she told me this, I felt very uncomfortable. She lived such a glamorous life when she was young, but now she lives such a miserable and miserable life. At the beginning, I was addicted to the immediate benefits and glitz, and did not look at the heights. When I wanted to take a step up, it was already difficult. Years, holding a sharp sword, forced her into the corner of fate, but she had no choice but toHe had no ability to fight back, so he could only escape all the way to a lower place. I remember once I was giving a lecture and someone asked me this question: What is the use of going to college? Of course, you can learn a professional skill without going to college and use it to make a living and settle down. But that diploma, at a certain critical moment, can really help you realize your long-cherished wish in life. My big dream in this life is not to be a writer, but to be a university lecturer. Four years ago, there was a university very close to my home that was recruiting for many positions. I submitted my resume and wrote a sincere cover letter. Perhaps my writing style impressed the teacher in the HR Department, so she called me and asked me to go for an interview. I was simply overjoyed. Although I was still far from the door of my dream, I had already seen the light. The interview was controlled by the Human Resources Department, and I passed smoothly. Then there was the trial lecture a week later. During that week, I worked very hard and recited the lecture content in front of the mirror. I had to study every expression many times to strive for the best. The dean and department chair listened to the trial lecture live, and judging from their expressions during the exchange, they were quite satisfied. After the lecture, the teacher from the Human Resources Department asked me to go home and wait for the announcement. I waited anxiously but excitedly. In those days, I felt that there would be no problem and I could start working at the university immediately. Seeing the dream of life coming true is about to come true, and you will wake up with a smile even in your dreams. A week later, the teacher from the Human Resources Department called me and told me that they required an academic qualification of no less than a master\’s degree. My academic qualifications were not sufficient and I was not admitted. When I put down the phone, I felt a sense of powerlessness that I had never experienced before, which made me almost suffocated. I have said before that ability is greater than academic qualifications, but at this time, because of academic qualifications, my dream suddenly hit the ceiling. The opportunity was right in front of me, but I watched it go away. I felt like crying without tears. Fortunately, I almost lost my composure and reported my resignation to my employer. In fact, many people are just like me. Although they don’t like their current job, at most they only want to get drunk in their hearts, and they don’t dare to hand the resignation report to the boss coolly like what was shown on TV, and then , turned around and left handsomely. Many people envy Andy in \”Ode to Joy\”, a Wall Street investment company executive who combines wisdom, strength, and calmness with all kinds of beautiful qualities. But don’t forget, she has a PhD from Columbia University Business School. She has read thousands of books, traveled thousands of miles, and met thousands of people before she reached such a height. Fan Shengmei always dreamed of having a successful and wealthy man who could save her from troubles, but she never got it. And the men around Andy are all excellent. It\’s not that Andy is very lucky, it\’s just that what matters in relationships is that they are well-matched and equally matched, and it\’s the same in the career world. What kind of person you are depends on what kind of person you can meet. My child, although a diploma may not necessarily make you a successful person, it will give you more opportunities to choose. Those opportunities can take you through the turbulent river of destiny, broaden the longitude and latitude of your life, and allow you to see more. A vast world. Then, you will have the capital to travel across the world with bright clothes and angry horses, and meet outstanding people at the highest point of destiny.