They say it’s important to cultivate children’s self-confidence, but do you know how to cultivate it?

It is important to cultivate children\’s self-confidence, which has long been recognized by many parents. When communicating with parents, I often hear requests like this: Teacher, please give your child more opportunities to exercise. Teacher, this child is timid, please ask him to speak more. Teacher, please help your child more and cultivate his self-confidence. …Parents don’t know: Teachers can give children more opportunities to practice their abilities, such as letting them hand out notebooks, form teams, and set up tables and chairs. However, if the child does not have the ability to complete these tasks, the teacher’s care will become a one-off task. Buying and selling, the teacher will not let him try it again next time. The teacher can ask your child to speak more often, but after being called, the child cannot answer, which becomes a kind of hurt and blow. Self-confidence is not cultivated, but what you get is hurt. Teachers can help children more, but self-confidence cannot be helped by others. What is self-confidence? It is a kind of strength and a kind of confidence. It is a clear judgment of oneself and knowing \”I can do it!\” Children can have confidence in themselves. It is definitely not enough to rely on external help alone. The prerequisite for self-confidence is strength. The possession of strength requires effort. Of course, this effort will definitely not be achieved overnight. It will definitely take a lot of time and energy, and it will definitely have to overcome many difficulties. Even so, it may not necessarily lead to extraordinary strength. If you are not strong enough to surpass some of the people around you, it may not be so easy to build confidence. How to do it? Is there a relatively simple method, is there a shortcut? There are still some. Before finding this shortcut, let\’s look at a few examples. I once taught a student who was very well-behaved, honest, and hard-working, but not very talented. Needless to say, we will also find in life that some people learn things very quickly, while others are slow to learn new things. , it’s just laborious. This child is the one who is lost in the crowd in the class. Except when the teacher asks him alone to help him with his homework for the second time (he didn\’t learn it in class, and he still hasn\’t learned it in the first tutoring), he rarely gets attention. However, in the school\’s customary science and technology activities, he once won the first prize, which was unexpected even for him. His work looks very simple at first glance. It is a locomotive made of a can. The can is colored with ink and slightly modified. It really looks like an ancient locomotive and steam engine. This award is mainly due to his creativity (of course, it may also be his parents\’). This is not important. What is important is that I noticed that in the future, his works will win awards in science and technology activities every year, and most of them will be first-class. prize. To be honest, this kind of award is not an important award. It has little help for the child\’s academic study and further education, but it has a great impact on the child\’s condition. The impact is that this child has found his own shining point and his strengths that surpass others in the group. From then on, he was not useless in the group. Maybe it\’s not because he is strong or good at it, but because others don\’t pay attention to it and don\’t pay attention to it, giving him a chance to show himself. Another child, the youngest in the class, studies hard and works hard, but his grades are average. The school has a subject competition every semesterIt is dynamic, has various forms, and the questions are of certain difficulty, mainly to broaden students\’ horizons. There was a mathematics subject competition, and I actually heard the news that she won the prize, and she was the first in the class. You must know that the content of the mathematics competition is Sudoku. When competing, the first thing to look at is the speed of completion. When it is completed, it is handed in, and then the accuracy rate is looked at. For questions like Sudoku that are interlocking, if you make a mistake in one place, you may make a mistake in everything. And she was actually first place. A student who was usually average in all aspects actually won first place in a competition that required speed and accuracy! I was curious and chatted with her. I asked her: Have you practiced at home? Practiced, practiced often, practiced almost every day. I asked her again, how do you practice? She said: My father practices with me, and sometimes we compete. I was immediately impressed by her—and her dad, too. I also noticed that in subsequent Sudoku competitions, she almost always came out on top. From these two examples, we can actually summarize some methods and tips. First, if you want to develop self-confidence, you must have strength that exceeds that of ordinary people in a certain aspect. Trying to develop self-confidence without strength is like water without a source or a tree without roots. Second, this aspect or point does not have to be a big aspect, a difficult aspect, or a special aspect. It can be any aspect or point, and the scope is very wide. Third, if you want to find this point in this aspect, you need daily companionship. Only with sufficient companionship can you understand the child and find this point. Fourth, if you want to find this point, you can seize the activities of the school (kindergarten) and use this as an opportunity. Fifth, sometimes such points are not eye-catching and may not be noticed by most people. At this time, it is much easier for us with ordinary qualifications to stand out. Sixth, finding this point is not achieved overnight, but finding the direction. A certain amount of effort is needed later: for example, in the production of scientific and technological works, you have to use your brain and hands to complete a satisfactory work. For example: In the practice of Sudoku, it takes a period of continuous practice to make your problem-solving ability surpass that of your classmates. After finding this point, putting in a certain amount of effort, and achieving great results, the child will gain a little confidence. Once you gain confidence, you can use your points to lead the way, make more attempts, and try your best in the attempts, so you are very likely to achieve good results again. In a virtuous circle, children become more and more confident and work harder and harder; children work harder and harder, and become more and more confident!