What is the difference between \”public\” and \”private\” kindergartens? The benefits of going to public only explode in the second grade of elementary school

\”Do your child go to a public kindergarten or a private one?\” Every time he hears this question, his best friend always shows a \”long talk\” look. Her daughter is now in the second grade of elementary school. Recalling the entanglement of choosing a kindergarten, she said: \”Actually, I also thought that privateness is better. If there are many courses, high starting points, and children who are exposed to knowledge early, can they run faster?\” But when the child reaches the present, her views have become more three-dimensional. She began to discover that behind each choice, there are completely different paths of growth. Some gaps will not appear immediately, but will unfold quietly in a few years. 1: There is a very popular private kindergarten near her home. The teaching staff is strong and the environment is excellent, and the course schedule is full. Every day, there are English, science, mathematics enlightenment, and various interest courses taken in turn. After returning home, children can speak simple English sentences, draw structural drawings, and often bring back amazing handicrafts. This type of kindergarten does pay great attention to children\’s cognitive development and is good at giving parents confidence in \”visible progress\”. Many children in it have been generous and clear in language since childhood, and have a strong ability to accept new knowledge. Public kindergartens seem much more \”simple\”. The one she chose did not have English classes and rarely taught knowledge. The most important task for children every day is: play. Outdoor games, role-playing, building blocks, taking care of plants… there is still a lot of time left at your own discretion. She also had doubts at the time: \”Isn\’t this too relaxed?\” But slowly, she understood the concept behind this – it was not that children would learn nothing, but that they could accumulate experience in exploration and practice expression and negotiation in real relationships. 2: In the first grade of elementary school, there is no obvious gap. When she was just in the first grade, she did feel that private children seemed to be \”a step ahead\” – recognize more, write quickly, and express well. They dare to raise their hands in class and can complete their homework quickly after they get home. In contrast, her daughter reads half a beat slower, and often writes the pinyin incorrectly, so she can\’t keep up with her learning. She also found that children born in private not only have a wide range of knowledge, but also have a particularly obvious advantage: strong expression and dare to show themselves. This makes them very popular in the group and more likely to gain the attention of teachers. \”I was really anxious and doubted during that time. Am I too conservative?\” she said. Private kindergartens have indeed played an accelerating role in expression training, logical ability, and knowledge enlightenment, and have laid a good cognitive foundation for many children. But later, she was glad that she chose the public. 3: After the second grade, there was another gap between my best friend and my best friend said that what really made her \”stay\” was after the second grade of elementary school. In the first grade, I could still rely on the teacher to take him away. When I was in the second grade, the pace became faster and the teacher began to jump in his lectures and no longer taught word by word. The assessment also began to include questions such as \”reading comprehension\” that need to be analyzed by oneself. When doing homework, organizing time, and checking information, children start to take responsibility for themselves. She observed an interesting change: some first-grade children who are particularly \”beatable\” and are starting to struggle at this time. It’s not that they are not smart, but that when there is no teacher to guide them, they are temporarilyI don\’t know how to start or arrange the tasks. Her daughter, a child who was \”slow and slow at the beginning\”, showed strong self-management ability. Organize your own schoolbag, make plans, and find wrong questions and can take the initiative to correct them. She said: \”It\’s not because she is smarter, but because she is used to \’solving it by herself\’. Even if it\’s not perfect, she is willing to try it out.\” 4: Growing up is not about who is faster, but about who can face the world more independently. My best friend recalled her daughter\’s three years in a public kindergarten and felt that the biggest gain was not knowledge, but a kind of \”inner order.\” From tying your own shoelaces and collecting toys, to drawing \”mood cards\” when you are in a bad mood and learning to express your feelings, these little things allow children to slowly build up the belief that \”I can handle things.\” She said: \”In fact, it is not \’public\’ or \’private\’. The key is whether the child\’s \’autonomy\’ is being cultivated.\” Although some public kindergartens do not teach knowledge, they will not cultivate their autonomy. Some kindergartens not only expand children\’s knowledge, but also pay great attention to the cultivation of independence and autonomy. This requires us to be parents and understand the teaching philosophy of the kindergartens around us. Another friend I know, her child is studying in a very good private kindergarten. The kindergarten emphasizes that \”children are proactive learners\”, and teachers will guide them to ask questions, design projects, and report on their own. That child is particularly opinionated, with excellent expression and creativity. My best friend is very glad that the public teacher she met not only depends on whether the child can write, but also cares about whether she will get along with the child, whether she can express grievances, and whether she has made contributions to the class. Another friend of mine also felt lucky that the child entered a private kindergarten that truly built education, and devoted himself to the curriculum design, so that the child could see a bigger world at a young age. In fact, kindergartens are not about letting children \”prepare in advance\”, but about letting them \”lay the foundation\”. This foundation is not knowledge, but habits, character and underlying abilities. Not every child is suitable for the same growth rhythm. Some children find directions while playing, while others feel at ease in the rhythm. Some families do not want their children to learn early, while others pay more attention to the current learning results. There is nothing right or wrong with these, only if they are suitable or not. But whether public or private, if a child learns to express himself, instead of just please; learns to manage himself, instead of waiting for instructions in everything; learns to face difficulties, instead of crying or escaping when encountering things; then he is approaching a truly independent person – this is the purpose of education. What really widens the gap between children is never the kindergarten they go to, but whether he has developed the ability to face the world during that time.