When the child reaches 14 years old, it’s time to suffer 3 kinds of “hardness”!

After returning home from school. Many students have this habit. They threw their schoolbags on the ground, picked up their phones and played games. When parents are urging them to do their homework. The child agreed, but he held the phone tighter. After encountering such a situation. The parents\’ anger suddenly rose, but no matter how much complained, it would not change the child at all. What should parents do in response to these phenomena? Professor Li Meijin once emphasized: Adolescence is a watershed. If children do not take these three \”bite medicines\”, trains in adolescence are prone to derailment. 01 The hardship of self-discipline has entered puberty, especially at the age of about 14. Children\’s personal consciousness is awakened. They hope to gain recognition and look forward to having personal space. They will even play the slogan of \”freedom\” and spend a lot of time browsing their phones, playing games, etc. And this phenomenon is actually a lack of self-discipline. Jobs once said: \”Freedom is not about doing whatever he wants, but rather dominating one\’s will.\” He has seen too many smart junior high school students, who have the chance to get into a key high school, but are trapped in the sugar-coated cannonballs of entertainment. Don’t let mobile phones and entertainment hinder the growth of junior high school students. When there are such signs in the child\’s behavior, he or she will suffer from self-discipline. If you want your child to be self-disciplined, parents can try this: ① Set up a teenager mode for your phone, and play for a limited time for one hour every day. ②On the weekend, take your children to the library to do homework. Starting from \”external discipline\”, help children taste the sweetness of self-discipline and gradually develop the habit of self-discipline. 02 The saying goes: \”Falling is to jump higher.\” In the three years of junior high school. Every student will encounter unexpected tests. For example, the test scores decline because they are underestimated by their classmates and are troubled by their inefficient learning… These situations are all a normal situation. Junior high school students need to keep a normal mind in order to pass many tests in their best condition. Many students lack the ability to withstand stress. Once their grades fluctuate, they will worry about gains and losses and will never dare to face learning. In this case, everyone is also prone to falling into endless entertainment. If your child is also facing this situation. Then parents should realize that their children should suffer some failure. Failure itself represents trial and error and exploration. As a junior high school student, you must have the courage to face failure in order to meet a better self. 03 I have seen a case like this: a top student dropped out after being admitted to a prestigious school because he couldn\’t do laundry. When everyone saw the reason, they all felt incredible. But what is the truth? Many students seem to be giant babies who cannot grow up. They lack hands-on ability, common sense in life, and even lack sufficient sense of responsibility. Therefore, when parents make reasonable requests. These students may be treated as \”winds in their ears\” and will not listen to them in their hearts. Doing homework means children think it is to please their parents. When participating in housework, the child feels that it is the parents who make things difficult for him. How can such a child pass the test of study and face life in the future? As Teacher Li Meijin said, \”This world will not revolve around you.\” When the child reaches 14 years old, he should have the sense of responsibility. There is a parent\’s approach that is worth our reference and reference: my son wants the latest sneakersThe parent asked his son to get up half an hour early every day to help walk the dog, and he bought it for one month. As a result, the child developed the habit of getting up early. 04Written at the end, parents should know: education is never about taming animals, but about accompanying the young lion to learn to run. The compulsory course for growth seems very hard. But these courses are necessary for children to grow up and will become the armor for children to overcome obstacles. Just like a butterfly, you have to experience the pain of breaking out of the cocoon before you can spread your wings. Facing a 14-year-old child. What parents can do is believe in the upward power of life and wait for the flowers to bloom.