Wise parents: Dare to let their children do this

01 Yesterday, one of my Beijing students reported that the child was responsible for the consequences and the harvest was pretty good. The reason is very simple. When the students were going to the toilet, they saw that the child in the second grade of junior high school did not sleep at around 12 o\’clock and was still playing with his mobile phone. In light of recent years, my child’s academic performance has declined. She said that in this state, it is impossible to listen to school, and it is meaningless. She simply asks for leave for the child to experience life and bear the consequences. She let the child wake up naturally after sleeping, and after waking up, she asked her father to take the child to pick up the bottle. 02 Wisdom parents dare to let their children do this: bear the consequences for their actions and pay the price. Analyze what gains can be obtained by bearing the consequences: The student\’s gains: She has a judgment. Based on her understanding of the child, what consequences are more appropriate and will not harm the child. She also loves her children very much, otherwise she would not let them sleep until they wake up naturally. This student is brave, firm in his position and without swaying. The child must bear the consequences for his actions, which is to let the child be responsible. The students also gained a sense of strength and gradually regained their own strength. Children’s gains: It is okay to make mistakes, and it is okay to not do it, but you have to pay the price for them. We don’t let our children pay for the price of raising children. We enjoy every day, so how can our children have the motivation to change. In this process, we can empower our children. When your mother sees that you are not afraid of losing face, she goes to pick up a bottle. If you accept this consequence, we must give feedback and empower your child. When your mother sees that you are a child who dares to take responsibility, you are awesome. This is the first empowerment. Mom has picked you up for a long time, not afraid of hard work, but also knows that you exchanged these waste products for money and bought steamed buns. Mom sees your ability to survive. You must also see your ability. This is the second empowerment. When the child comes home, we have to ask the child about his experience of life this day, what kind of feelings, and what kind of experience he has. Although it is a waste of time without mental labor, it is only 5 yuan a day for busy work. Ask your child what kind of life do you prefer to choose when studying and working hard outside? Are you willing to eat, drink, study hard, or live this kind of windy and sun-drying life, let your child make a choice, what the child says and decides by himself. This is what the child has thought about, which is much better than the advice required by parents every day. If your child chooses to study better, you can continue to talk about this matter. Where is the learning stuck, what dreams do you have, what plans do you have, what kind of resources do you need to provide, and how do you need your mother to help you? Ask your child one by one and let your child make decisions and make choices. This is the power that the child should have, rather than consuming it in confronting teachers and parents. Dad’s gains: It is indeed not easy to manage children’s studies, and it is not easy to improve grades, but it is easy to chat with children. It is rare that the father and daughter have time alone. If they don’t talk about learning, they just chat and chat while checking. They can listen to children share interesting things and worries, and they can also make children complain about teachers and classmates. Dad can also share various experiences in adolescence, so you will be connected with your children, have a close relationship, and stand together, and then you can help your children learn. This is to seize every opportunity to build a relationship. dadIf you have a good relationship with your children, you can liberate your mother and get a balance in your family relationship. The father has a sense of value and the mother also feels supportive and powerful. This is a win-win situation. Parents fight wits and courage with adolescent children, and children also gain more strength through constant temptation, making their parents\’ strength weaker and weaker, and even out of control. If you dare not let your child bear the consequences of raising a child, then the child will only gain a better position and will easily lose himself. We allow children to make mistakes, and children also grow up through constant mistakes, and at the same time, we must let children bear the consequences for their actions.