5 forces to develop good habits are the real reasons for widening the gap between children

During the recent final exam, my son caused a minor disturbance. After handing out the test papers, he realized that he didn\’t bring his pencil case. He was timid and did not dare to tell the invigilator. In desperation, he burst into tears and failed to take the exam well in the final exam… After I got home, I comforted him and then told him, \”The exam results are not important, but Are you finally suffering from your bad habit of neglecting things?!\” The son cried and nodded seriously, \”Mom, I will definitely change this bad habit!\” Educator Ye Shengtao said: The essence of education is to cultivate habits. What widens the gap between children is often not IQ, but the various habits developed since childhood. Childhood is the best time to develop habits. A good habit can make a child successful, while a bad habit can harm a child. I hope children can develop these five good habits that will last a lifetime during the summer vacation. Punctuality: Let your children become \”reliable\” people. There are two classmates in my son\’s painting class, and they are in two completely different situations. The boy is often late, doesn\’t take it seriously when criticized, and looks lazy every day. The girl always arrives early, sets out her utensils, and sits quietly waiting for the teacher. There was a heavy rain, and only the girl and her mother rushed to class dripping wet. The girl\’s painting skills have improved by leaps and bounds, but the boy is still incomprehensible. Everyone learned from the girl’s mother, and she said that it was nothing special. For children, talent is important when it comes to learning, but attitude is even more important. I only ask my daughter to be serious about everything, and the prerequisite for being serious in class is to be punctual. Attitude determines status, and status naturally determines performance. There is a saying: People who are punctual may not necessarily be excellent, but excellent people must be punctual. Because punctuality represents self-discipline and responsibility, which makes people feel reliable and trustworthy, making it easier to get good opportunities in teamwork and future development. For children, punctuality represents the ability to manage time, study and live in a planned and responsible manner. Once I was chatting with a kindergarten principal, and she said that children who often miss the mark or are late when entering kindergarten basically have problems with procrastination and lack of seriousness. Therefore, some schools in the UK will charge fines to parents of students who are often late, hoping to draw attention to punctuality. Picture source: \”Little Shoes\” Punctuality can best reveal a person\’s education and accomplishment. Details will always determine success or failure. Please let your children learn to be punctual from the day they know time. Organizing: Cultivating a sense of order and concentration. A Korean organizer went to a house to tidy up the children\’s room. He was extremely surprised: there were messy books and toys everywhere, clothes hanging randomly, the desk was full, and there were three hamsters. The smell in the room is hard to describe. The child\’s mother complained: \”I force him to read all day long, but he just doesn\’t like reading. Alas, I can\’t help it!\” In a warehouse-like room, how can the child calm down and read? The organizer started cleaning, and later the children joined in, throwing away the junk and putting away the useful things. A few hours later, the room was clean and tidy. The child happily sat down at the desk, picked up a book and read it with relish, even forgetting the existence of the organizer. Just by organizing, you can let your children concentrate on their studies. How amazing! Image source: \”The Piano Boy Who Wants to Fly\” A Harvard Business School survey found that children with clean and tidy desks tend to become adultsExcellent performance, cheerful personality, focus and endurance. And children who often lose things and are procrastinating and lazy basically don’t have good habits of tidying up. Japan attaches great importance to \”nurturing\” education, and cultivates good tidying habits in children from an early age: putting toys back to their original places to cultivate a sense of order; organizing school bags for the next day by yourself, so that you can be more calm before going out; cleaning desks and desks in a timely manner There are no clutter in the room. Studying in a tidy environment is more efficient. Don’t underestimate the power of children to do these things! Organizing can not only exercise children\’s observation ability, hands-on ability, and self-discipline ability, but also subconsciously sort out inner emotional garbage. Only by sorting out things can children sort out knowledge; only by planning their space can they plan their lives well. Reading: A lifelong wealth educator Suhomlinsky said: A child who does not read is a potential poor student in learning. It sounds scary, but it makes sense. According to a survey, children who insist on reading will have an average academic score of more than 10 points higher, and 80% of the top scorers in the college entrance examination love reading. A classmate who scored 148 points in Chinese language in the college entrance examination said: If you read too many books, you will develop a sense of language. My mother loved telling me stories since I was a child, and my love for reading began at that time. Yin Jianli said that the most important way for a child\’s intelligence to distance itself from other children is reading. Reading should start with prenatal education, with the mother stroking her belly while reading softly, so that the fetus can perceive the rhythm and rhythm of language; parent-child reading should begin around 1 year old, and the 20 minutes before bedtime should be used to let the child enjoy the pleasure of reading; after 5 years old , you can try to teach your children to recognize some words to prepare for independent reading. When my son gave a speech in the kindergarten, he said, \”The happiest moment every day is when my mother reads to me.\” After listening to this, I felt very sweet. Children who love reading have richer and more mature thoughts and are less likely to fall into prejudice and stubbornness; children who love reading have independent personalities and unique insights and are less likely to follow blindly. There is a friend who, whenever he feels stressed, he goes to the bookstore, gets a cup of coffee, a good book, a moment of peace, and feels that strength is returning to him little by little. Reading is not only a good habit, but also a ritual for children to gain insight into their hearts and perceive life. Exercise: Stimulate children’s “physical self-esteem.” My best friend’s son is in kindergarten. Because of his small stature, he is always timid and unsure of himself. My best friend tried her best to encourage her, but it just didn’t work. Once, while playing long jump in kindergarten, my son actually won first place and was praised and watched by teachers and classmates. From then on, my son not only gradually became cheerful and lively, but also became proactive in interacting with his classmates. Picture source: \”Goodbye, Our Kindergarten\” My best friend asked me why, and I said: \”Congratulations, the child\’s physical self-esteem has been stimulated!\” The child has proven his strength and ability, and has established self-esteem and confidence in the group. , this is the charm of sports! Brain scientist Professor Hong Lan said: Exercise stimulates the body to secrete a variety of positive substances and enhances intellectual development! Children\’s thinking ability, self-control, endurance, competitiveness, and cooperation will also improve. Western schools regard sports as elite education. British experts point out that children aged 1.5-5 years old are required to exercise or be active for at least 3 hours a day because they have discovered the secret of sports.effect. If allowed, allow your child to stick to an individual sport or team sport from an early age. Don\’t rush to let him immerse himself in homework after school. You can skip rope, play badminton, shoot balls, etc., and enjoy activities and vents. It can not only release stress, but also help grow taller and prevent myopia. Writer Haruki Murakami said: It is decades of long-distance running that have shaped who I am today. What is produced in movement that is vital to us cannot be seen by the naked eye, but can be felt by the mind. Don\’t let our children be \”plastic children\” who stay indoors, let them sweat as much as they want! Doing housework: cultivating self-care ability and sense of responsibility. A relative has a boy who was pampered since he was a child and never did any work. On the first day of college, he called for help: \”I don\’t know how to put on a quilt cover!\” Not only that, he didn\’t even know how to wash his socks, so he only bought a pair when they got dirty. When I go home during the holidays, I always bring back a large bag of dirty clothes for my mother to wash… Many parents don\’t want their children to do housework, for fear of being burned, bumped, tired, or afraid of not doing it well and causing trouble for themselves. Does the saying \”Just study and don\’t worry about anything else\” sound familiar? However, \”when clothes come to you, you can stretch out your hands, and when you have food to eat, you can open your mouth\” not only cannot teach good children, but it can also easily cause children to lose their sense of responsibility. Harvard University conducted tracking for 20 years and found that children who did housework and those who did not did housework had an employment rate of 15:1 and a crime rate of 1:10 as adults. Can we still say that housework is not important to children? Image source: \”Seven Years in Life\” Since my son was 3 years old, I have asked him to try to do housework. When the dishes were out of reach, he would step on a small stool. There was often dirt and dead leaves in the dishes, but we didn\’t blame him. Now, taking out the trash, mopping the floor, washing socks, and frying vegetables are all \”a piece of cake\” in his eyes. He also often says: \”Mom, please rest, I\’ll come!\” Whenever someone praises him, my son will be happy, and that kind of joy makes me extremely proud. Children are not as delicate and fragile as we think. Let them do housework, so that they can understand the hard work and hardship of their parents and understand what dedication and reward are. Japanese girl Ahua learned to make all lunches and most housework at the age of 5. Her mother hopes that “her daughter can be self-reliant and live a good life no matter where she goes or what she does in the future.” Isn’t this what we expect from our children? Zeng Guofan has a family motto: A frugal family will prosper, and a diligent person will be healthy; if you can be diligent and frugal, you will never be poor. Only through diligent and frugal education can we cultivate a child with ambition, will and love. Children can become great talents if they are willing to use it. Psychologist Seidez said: People are like ceramics, and early childhood is like the clay used to make ceramics. What kind of education will be given will determine the prototype. Parents give their children gold and silver, but it is better to teach them to develop good habits that will benefit them for life. Children who develop these good habits from an early age will have independent thoughts, a healthy body, the ability to cherish a rich heart, and the ability to understand others. When they grow up, they will become a confident and powerful person. Children with abilities will fly high, and children with good habits will fly far!