\”Arrive early\” is the secret to good grades for children

Ogawa\’s aunt is a senior teacher at a provincial key primary school. In more than ten years of front-line teaching, she has summed up a seemingly simple rule: children with good grades are not only never late for school, but also always \”arrive early.\” This is also true of my own teaching experience in the past few years. Most college students with excellent grades have the habit of \”arriving early\”. In fact, \”arriving early\” is by no means a simple matter of a few minutes, nor is it simply \”punctuality\”. It contains more deep-seated habitual meanings. Here, the Iceberg Model proposed by American psychologist McClelland is used to interpret the \”early arrival\” behavior of good students. Above the water, what we see is the early arrival behavior of good students; but hidden under the water, it is difficult to directly see the series of good habits that support their insistence on arriving early. Children who are proactive and accustomed to \”arriving early\” to school have a yearning and longing for school in their hearts. They know the value and significance of going to school for themselves, will face it with a proactive attitude, and then take proactive actions. In fact, developing a proactive habit will not only significantly help learning, but will also often play a key role in future work and life. Tell a story about you. Dad Chuan’s cousin is a god-like existence among our group of relatives and children. In just a few years, he rose from a grassroots employee in a Fortune 500 technology company to become a regional general manager of his own. He said he had a dull talent and relied on being \”proactive\” all the time. One winter, there was a sudden snowstorm in his city, and all public transportation was paralyzed. In order not to be late for work, he went out before dawn, walked for three hours in snow that was ankle deep, and arrived at the company five minutes early. That day, many colleagues took leave or arrived in the afternoon. Only two people came to work on time: the first was him and the second was the general manager at the time. Children who are accustomed to planning and preparing and arriving at school a little early can start the day\’s study more leisurely. They have made adequate preparations before going to school: before going to bed the night before, they completed their homework, packed their schoolbags, prepared the clothes to wear, and set the alarm clock… These preparations reflect the children\’s high degree of planning in doing things. . They know their goals and plan ways and means to achieve them in advance and prepare in advance. Therefore, they will not do things on the spur of the moment, and they will always be able to take their time and leisurely. In addition, children who arrive at school early often have a strong sense of rules. They can follow the instructions and arrangements of the school and teachers, complete homework on time, with quality and quantity, carry out review, etc. Of course, children who arrive at school early also have a strong sense of time and do things neatly and without procrastination. Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that a child who is proactive in learning, good at planning, preparing, and completing tasks on time will have good grades. How to develop the good habit of \”arriving early\”? Children\’s habit formation has special characteristics that are different from adults. They need help and the power of role models. Let me tell you about a famous American schoolThe story of the doctor and her mother. This doctor studying in the United States is from Hunan. One year there was a flood in Hunan, and the downstairs of their house was flooded. The seats of many bicycles parked downstairs were almost submerged. Rotten vegetable leaves and newspapers were floating in the turbid water. Occasionally, a dead bird was seen floating in the water. mouse. She wanted to go to school, but couldn\’t get there. Her mother saw it, and without saying a word, she changed into a pair of sandals, rolled up her trouser legs, and said to her, \”Get on my back, and I will carry you over.\” Her mother was very thin and weighed less than 50 kilograms, and she was very tidy. woman. However, that day, her mother carried her on her back and walked hard step by step in the murky water. She walked slowly but steadily. She was not late for class that day—less than half of our sixty-person class arrived in the end. She said she didn’t know if the downstairs of other classmates’ homes had also encountered flooding; more importantly, whether they had a good mother who was willing to carry her children through the dirty water. Now, I am working towards such a “good mother”. Most of Ogawa\’s interest classes are within the Third Ring Road, and we live in the suburbs. Everyone knows the horror of commuting in Beijing. Often, I would drive Xiaochuan alone for dozens of kilometers to go to class from one side of the city to the other. In order not to be late, we got up at around 6 o\’clock on weekends, ate at the speed of light, ran, got in the car and set off. My father or I drove, and Xiaochuan squinted in the car for a while. We usually arrive at school a little early and are almost never late. In a word, there is no shortcut to the development of children\’s good habits. Some are just the repetition of correct behaviors over the years with the company of their parents.