• Tue. Dec 5th, 2023

Can children be cured of their carelessness? able!

I sat in on a history class on the subway the other day. In order to explain to her children the dangers of carelessness, a mother actually talked about the Central Plains War between Feng Yuxiang, Yan Xishan and Chiang Kai-shek in the 1930s. . In that war, due to the sloppiness of the staff, the word \”Qin\” was added in the order, and \”Qinyang\” was written as \”Biyang\”. As a result, Feng Yuxiang mobilized the army to the wrong location and ultimately lost the war. . Just one word difference, and the history of China may have been rewritten… I listened and was deeply impressed by this mother\’s profound knowledge. It was not easy for her children to have a deep understanding of sloppy, citing scriptures and taking great pains. However, seeing the child\’s dejected and helpless look, I began to doubt the effectiveness of the mother\’s good intentions… Speaking of sloppiness, mothers are really gritting their teeth and at a loss what to do. There is a saying that every mother may have said – my child is very smart and can do all the questions, but he is careless. If you get rid of your sloppy habits, your grades will definitely improve. But, how to change it? Generally speaking, mothers’ practices are as follows: they speak earnestly, quote scriptures and reason, and remind them over and over again to “be serious, be serious, be serious again”. We believe in \”Practice makes perfect\”. Being sloppy is because you don’t have a reliable grasp, so find various questions, do more questions, and do them again and again. is that useful? Apart from making children irritable and less interested in learning, it seems to have no use. Mothers are worried to death. If you want to solve the problem of sloppiness, you must first see what is behind the sloppiness. Rather than saying that sloppiness is a problem, it reflects the following issues: Physiological characteristics of brain development Problems with learning ability Problems with learning habits If you see the source of sloppiness clearly, you can prescribe the right medicine and solve the problem in a targeted manner. Tian Tian’s mother is a good friend of mine. She spent two years solving the problem of her child’s sloppiness, and her child’s math scores also changed from the bottom to the top. The method she used solved these problems intentionally or unintentionally, so the effect was obvious. Let\’s see how she does it. Reading – the first prescription given by the math teacher. In the first and second grade, Tiantian\’s math was average. Tiantian\’s mother didn\’t pay much attention to it, and thought it was just fine. Until a math test in second grade, Tiantian ranked at the bottom of the class. Tian Tian’s mother, who had always been calm, was no longer calm. She quickly contacted her math teacher and asked what to do. Fortunately, the math teacher is a very responsible teacher. She analyzed Tiantian’s mother: We can look at it from three aspects: First, the habit of listening in class. I have observed that Tiantian listens quite carefully in class, so there should be no problem in this regard. Second, work habits. Tian Tian\’s homework was completed on time and the completion was pretty good, which showed that he studied hard. Third, let’s take a look at Tian Tian’s test paper. You see, there are several places where you lose a lot of points because you didn\’t understand the question and missed some conditions in the question, so you did it wrong. This is also related to the age of the child. At this age, the child\’s reading ability has not yet developed, and there will be situations where the child fails to understand the reading questions and misses important information. This problem will improve as the child grows up. HomeParents should also pay attention to cultivating children\’s reading ability. The so-called skill lies outside poetry. The math teacher prescribed a \”prescription\” to Tiantian\’s mother: improve the child\’s reading ability and let the child read more. Tiantian’s mother felt that what the teacher said made sense, so she took the medicine according to the prescription. Spend 30 minutes every day as reading time. The mother and daughter each read a book and share their thoughts after reading it. After one semester, Tiantian has read hundreds of thousands of words – for a second grader, this is already very impressive. The effect is also obvious. By the third and fourth grade, Tiantian\’s reading ability had improved significantly, and he rarely lost points in the question review process. There is another reward: Tiantian falls in love with reading, and his compositions are getting better and better, and he has been published as a model in the school newspaper many times. Summary: Carelessness may be due to not accurately understanding the meaning of the question or missing valid information. By improving reading skills, the accuracy of question examination and analysis skills can be improved. Exercise – the second prescription given by the math teacher On that day, the math teacher also prescribed a prescription that Tian Tian’s mother did not expect: let the children exercise more. It turns out that children in lower grades have problems such as missing words, copying wrong numbers, and adding one stroke too many and one stroke missing. These problems may seem like sloppiness, but they are actually related to immature brain development. Normally, the eyes see information and pass it to the brain, which processes the information and then issues instructions to the fingers. This process is so familiar to adults that it is almost an automatic reaction. Children\’s brains are not yet fully developed, so receiving visual information and issuing movement instructions requires repeated practice and proficiency. Exercise can promote brain development. Through body movements and rapid identification and processing of various situations, the connections of neurons in relevant parts of the brain can be stimulated, which is very beneficial to improving memory, concentration and self-control. The primary school stage is the golden period of brain development, so instead of confining your child to a desk with little effect, it is better to take him to run wildly and play wildly. The biggest advantage of Tian Tian’s mother is that she will stick to it if she decides on something. Understanding the benefits of exercise for children, she takes a few days a week to take Tiantian downstairs to run laps, play ball, jump rope, or ride a bicycle. The mother and daughter are often sweating profusely and out of breath from playing. On weekends, the family often spends a whole day hiking in the mountains. At first, it took four or five hours to climb to the top of the mountain. Later, it took only one and a half hours. Tian Tian’s mother said that if there is any immediate effect of exercise, then there is none. However, over the past two years, I feel that Tiantian\’s concentration has improved and he can focus on one thing for a long time. Summary: Carelessness may be due to the fact that children’s brain development is not yet complete. Through exercise, brain development can be promoted, memory, self-control, logic ability can be improved, and children’s quality and willpower can be cultivated. The effects of exercise are not immediate, but if you persist for a long time, there are many benefits. No more checking children’s homework – Sweet Mom’s Tips Tiantian’s mother is a very caring mother who is good at observing and summarizing. In addition to the prescriptions prescribed by the teacher, she did two more things to deal with Tiantian’s situation. First, instead of checking Tian Tian’s homework, let the children check their own homework. Because she discovered that if parents helpIf I check my homework, the child will develop a dependence. Anyway, my mother will check it for me after a while. It doesn\’t matter if I make a mistake. I will correct it after checking it. When you think about it this way, your mentality will inevitably become impetuous. When you encounter a slightly more difficult question, you will tend to be perfunctory and careless. If it is almost enough, the error rate will be high. As soon as the parents checked, they felt that the child was too sloppy – he even answered such simple questions wrong and even copied the questions incorrectly! Therefore, Tiantian’s mother told Tiantian that her mother would no longer check her homework in the future. She would have to make a draft and check the calculations by herself. If she made a mistake and failed to check it, she would have to be criticized by the teacher. He was used to his mother checking his homework, but suddenly he started checking his homework by himself. Of course Tian Tian stopped doing it, crying, fussing and annoying her mother. Tian Tian’s mother came up with an idea: in the transitional stage, you can choose three questions that you are not sure about every day and ask your mother to help check them. This sounded acceptable, and Tiantian agreed. During the time when he just let go, the situation was worse than before. Tiantian made a mess of mistakes in his homework and was criticized several times by the teacher. Tian Tian’s mother knows that re-establishing order is a necessary stage. She endured it and decided not to interfere in checking her homework. After a month or two, things started to look up. Tian Tian gradually got used to checking his own homework after completing it, and his accuracy rate has greatly improved. More importantly, Tiantian realized that homework was her own business, not her mother\’s. Of course, my mother will also secretly keep an eye on Tian Tian’s homework. Sometimes when Tian Tian doesn’t master new content well, her mother will help her analyze her ideas, find patterns, and find methods. In this way, the child will feel that her mother does not completely ignore her, but that her mother still loves her and will help her when she needs it. Summary: Incorrect study habits can cause many problems, and carelessness is one of them. It is necessary to cultivate children\’s correct study habits as early as possible and establish the awareness that \”learning is their own business\”. The further back you go, the easier it will be. Another clever trick from Tian Tian’s mother – the draft should be neat. Tian Tian’s mother asked Tian Tian to have a draft when doing the questions, and the draft should be as neat as the homework. If there are any problems, mark them with pens of different colors so that you can focus on them during the inspection. Tian Tian’s mother is from a science and engineering background, and she has benefited a lot from this habit. The draft is neatly written, which on the one hand can make the ideas clearer and deduced step by step, which can help deepen the understanding of the meaning of the question. On the other hand, a lot of sloppiness occurs when doing calculations, such as copying wrong numbers, misaligned numbers, scrawled writing, and even misreading what you wrote… A neat draft can avoid the above problems and also improve your mental health. Develop the habit of carefulness and meticulousness in children. Summary: Externalizing children\’s thinking paths through specific techniques can help form clear ideas and develop the habit of doing things seriously. These methods seem ordinary and nothing special, but Tian Tian’s mother has always insisted on doing this. When Tiantian was in the third grade, it was not obvious. Starting from the fourth grade, his math scores have obviously caught up, and he has always been at the top of the class. Tiantian\’s mother is very fortunate that when Tiantian was in the second or third grade, she used the right strength to let go when she should let go and hold on tightly when she should. She spent two years helping Tiantian develop good study habits and enter a new world.A benign track is much easier now. The problem of sloppiness, unconsciously, is no longer a problem. More importantly, in this process, Tiantian also gained many unexpected gains: good health, improvement in reading and expression skills, as well as a sense of responsibility for oneself and confidence in what he can do well. Say one more thing. You see, if you only see the sloppy problem itself and try every means to eliminate the symptoms, the results will get worse. If you improve your cognitive level, see the causes behind sloppiness, start from the root, and use clever techniques, you will get twice the result with half the effort. In fact, it’s not just a matter of sloppiness, it’s also a problem with children’s education and many problems in the world, isn’t it?

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