Don’t let wrong early childhood education curriculum concepts ruin your child

Recently I saw a documentary called \”No Starting Line\”. In this documentary, there is Irene, a mother of two children whose first child was a son. Initially, she wanted to give her son a relaxed and happy environment to grow up, so she did not deliberately train him. While other people\’s children were attending early childhood education with games when they were 6 months old, Irene\’s son was still lying on the floor playing. She didn\’t start contacting preschool education until his son was 1 and a half years old. When she took her eldest son to a kindergarten interview, she found that her son was not as good as other children and no kindergarten was willing to accept him. Irene felt very regretful because she was unwilling to put a burden on her son and wanted him to grow up happily, but in the end, he failed at the starting line. What I took for granted at the time resulted in regret today. So this mother decided that her second child must receive early education early, but her husband said: \”Isn\’t it pitiful for the child to go to school early?\” The mother was irritated by her eldest son\’s failure to pass the kindergarten interview, and she immediately replied: \”No school would make you more pitiful.\” .\” Many parents will ask me: \”Is early childhood education really useful?\” Early childhood education is indeed useful. This is not my subjective speculation, but is supported by research results. A study was conducted in the United States. Researchers followed children who received early education and those who did not until they were 12 years old. They found that: children who received early education had significantly higher scores in reading, mathematics, writing or other knowledge than those who did not. Early childhood education for children. The respondent @ Chang Youli posted a picture from the book. Let me give it to everyone for reference: Many people have misunderstandings about early childhood education. They think that early childhood education means sending children to learn knowledge. Actually not. Early education is not actually about letting children learn 123, 1+1=2, abc, memorizing the Four Books and Five Classics, and memorizing Tang and Song poetry at such an early age. It is about allowing our children to develop their potential and learn it more easily in the future. Knowledge. A child\’s potential is like a foundation. In the future of our children\’s lives, how high this building can be built, how many floors it can be built, and what shape it can be built in depends on the depth and breadth of the foundation below. It can also be said that potential is equivalent to a container filled with water, such as a cup, and knowledge is the water contained in the cup. How much knowledge and skills can this child learn in the future? The most important thing is to turn this cup into a bowl, a bucket, a vat, and a piece of cake when the child is young, during the critical period of 0 to 6 years old. The sea, instead of being so anxious, pour water into it when the children are very young. When the child is very young, it is just a cup that is filled quickly. But if the cup cannot expand its volume, it will only do so in the future. The book \”Calvert\’s Education\” mentions the concept of \”the law of diminishing potential\”: it means that every child has potential abilities, but this potential ability has a law of diminishing potential. For example, if a child is born with a hundred degrees of potential ability, if he is given an ideal education from birth, it is possible for him to become an adult with a hundred degrees of ability. And early education can help children grow into such people in the future. Early education is the development of potential, not the transfer of knowledge. How should early childhood education be done scientifically? In fact, parents can also provide early education to their children at home. Two key points first, there is a very important formula: game + experience = potential development. Our human nature is the same as that of children. One word is \”play\”. We humans naturally love to play, and our children naturally love to play, so any early education for children must be based on games. There is a very famous figure in the early education world called Maria Montessori, also known as Montessori. He once said: In fact, the most important method at the core of education is called real-life teaching. How do you let your children know what an apple is? How do you let your children know what an elephant is? Instead of showing a picture for the child to look at, you actually put the apple in the child\’s hand, allowing the child to experience this thing with multiple senses. See visually, touch, smell, and taste. Take a bite of this apple and know what it tastes like, so that children can understand it. The elephant must not be holding a card with \”elephant\” or \”elephant\” written on it, and the children will know the elephant. The best and ideal way to educate children is to let the children see real elephants. Visually see the tall body of the elephant, smell the smell around the elephant and the smell of feces on the elephant, and then if you can touch the rough skin of the elephant with your hands at close range, the multi-sensory experience is the best learning for children. Way. The second point is called: doing + experience. Only through games and experiences can children learn. What is experience? Parents, do you know how to meow like a cat or a dog? You can, right? You can also learn the calls of other animals, but can you learn the calls of butterflies and hummingbirds? Can you imitate the dinosaur call? Same thing with your throat and voice, why wouldn\’t you? Because you haven’t experienced it, right? This is the importance of experience, so our children must learn things based on experience. Remember this sentence: without experience, there is no learning. An authoritative American magazine \”Time\” once expressed a view: \”The most important stage of brain development is early childhood. Rich experience may enrich the brain.\” That is to say, we provide early education to make children\’s brains better and more developed. And to develop it better, we need to give children a variety of rich experiences. In a word, giving babies rich age-appropriate multi-sensory experiences is early education. Speaking of which, are all kinds of games and experiences acceptable? No, here I will tell you about this very mysterious and important 3+3 principle. If you understand this 3+3 principle, you will know what early education is. 3+3 Principles of Early Education 1. About Games This is the first of the 3+3 principles of early education. Regarding games, they must be repeatable, consistent and age-appropriate. Let’s talk about them one by one. Repeatable Why do children’s games have to be repeatable? For our children to learn something, it needs to be repeated many times, and it cannot be learned in one go. Dear parents and friends, how long does it take for you to learn to sing a new song? For example, if you want to learn a new song by Joker Xue, you have to listen to it several times before you can learn it. You can’t learn it just once, right? For our children, they have to repeat it many times before they can learn something, so they play thisThe game must be repeatable, not just playable once. The hide-and-seek game is a repetitive game, and playing hide-and-seek can also teach children that objects do not exist just because they are invisible, which can alleviate the baby\’s anxiety about entering the kindergarten. @pediatrician Yudi, a highly praised answerer on maternal and infant topics, also mentioned on Zhihu that playing peek-a-boo can help babies understand the concept of physical balance. Consistency means that when playing games with children, the process and results of each game must be consistent. For example, we often play hide-and-seek with our babies. The mother would often come out from behind the door to tease the child, which made the child giggle. But you know what? When you play hide-and-seek with your children, it is very important that you hide in the same place every time and then emerge from the same place again. You must not do it from the left, from the right, from the top, or from the bottom, because this way the child will not be sure what is going on with you. Because he is doing a \”reconfirmation\” process, he needs to know where his mother was just now. Has her mother disappeared? Mom will come out again, and he is waiting to confirm whether you will come out. If you really come out from behind the door again, the child will be very happy. So in fact, if you play hide-and-seek with your child, the child will smile happily not because you look good, but because the child has confirmed his thoughts. Age-appropriateness means that the games we educate and play with children are for children at what age? For example, there are many games and music that babies aged 0 to 1 year old can play and listen to. These will be different in different age groups. Let’s talk about two first. For example, when the child is six months old, there is a toy that the child must play with called a rattle. He must play with it. In addition, it is recommended that children listen to soft music from the beginning, and then listen to music with a bright rhythm and a strong sense of rhythm so that children can become interested in following the rhythm, rather than listening to intense rock music at the beginning. In addition, it is also very suitable for classical music and foreign music. There are many games that babies aged one year and three months should play. For example, music games require the children to listen to the music and interact with you to follow the beat. For example, listen to songs and play the game of throwing handkerchiefs to the beat. 2. About experience About experience it must be that the experience is full of joy. In this experience, we encourage the baby and recognize the baby\’s expression. A joy-filled first that makes the experience joyful. There is no learning without experience, and this experience must be joyful. If it is not joyful, children will not like to participate. Have you ever had such a life experience? For example, when a child sees a glass of water on the table, he wants to reach for it and drink it. We don\’t let our children drink, so we say, \”Don\’t touch it, baby, that glass of water is so hot!\” Will our children be obedient? He didn\’t know how, so he went up to grab the glass of water, and the child was scalded and made an \”ouch\” sound. The child has never touched something hot before, so he doesn\’t know what hot means. Does that mean we have to scald children when educating them? Definitely Not. So how can we let children know that it is hot? It\’s so simple, we can put three glasses of water. The first glass of water is cold water, the secondThe first glass of water is warm water, and the third glass of water is slightly hotter. Tell the child that the first one is called cold, the second one is called hot, and the third one is called hot. By experiencing it step by step, the child will understand. When Mei Ting takes Yangyang to the early education center, the teacher will ask parents to do some interesting experiences, such as asking the mother to imitate a special voice. When this is interesting, the children will also love to participate and interact with you. Encourage the baby What does it mean to encourage the baby? For example, if you take your child to a playground and he climbs a step or a slide very hard, how will the child behave? Yes, your child will look at you longingly, expecting you to encourage him and praise him. But what do we actually usually say? \”Why are you so stupid? You couldn\’t climb up in a long time.\” In fact, children need your encouragement, so how should you encourage them? It doesn\’t mean: \”The baby is so smart, the baby is so awesome\”, except for these two sentences, there are actually many ways to truly praise your child. Praising your child must be specific, for example: \”Baby, you have worked hard to climb this level and tried your best. Mom is really proud of you!\” The third expression of approval of the baby is called the expression of approval of the baby. As we all know, Baby\’s expression is not just language, and human expression is not just language. There are many forms of expression. So besides language, what else does the baby express? Yes, it\’s crying. His body language, the way he uses his fingers, and the way he blinks his eyes are all expressions of your baby. No matter what the child shows during this process, whether it is talking, crying or blinking, we must agree with his expression. Don\’t stop him because he cries, and don\’t stop him because he hits the floor. We must agree with his performance. Having said so much, I would like everyone to remember a few words in the end: The effects of early childhood education cannot be seen now, but will be seen in the future. If you rush for success, it will be counterproductive. Because early childhood education is not about teaching children knowledge, but about developing their potential so that they can do better than others in the future.