Establishing good tutoring is the foundation for children\’s success

American Tyman Johnson believes: \”Successful tutoring creates successful children, and failed tutoring creates failed children.\” In this sense, family education is the basis of all other education, and parents play a decisive role in the growth of their children. The importance of parents in children’s education cannot be overestimated. First, let us look at a few short stories about family education. Roosevelt\’s Mother\’s Tutoring Roosevelt, the 32nd President of the United States, is the only president in the history of the United States who has been elected for four consecutive terms. He came from a wealthy family, but his parents did not pamper him, but strictly controlled him. Especially Roosevelt\’s mother, who arranged a strict work and rest schedule for him. How to Be a Wise Parent in Family Education Complete Works 51 Lessons MP3 Download Little Roosevelt always used to be the winner when playing games. In order to educate him, one time the mother and son played a chess game. The mother deliberately refused to let him, and won the son one after another. Roosevelt was angry, and his mother deliberately ignored him and insisted that her son apologize. Eventually Roosevelt gave up. Implications: Strict education is particularly important for children living in affluent environments. Life has to go through many hardships. If you can only enjoy happiness but not suffer, such a person will not be able to gain a foothold in society, because such a person can only be satisfied with his own success and happiness, and will never mature psychologically. Roosevelt\’s mother respected her child and accommodated his reasonable requests. Strict control does not mean restraint. Give children time to move freely so that they can enjoy the joy of childhood. This is good for the development of children\’s personality and the formation of good character. The boy and the snail have a private school with many students. One day, my husband taught the students a poem with more than fifty lines, which seemed very difficult to memorize. The teacher said to the students: \”Recite tomorrow, and whoever recites more will get a prize.\” There was a student among them, and everyone always called him a stupid kid. He thought to himself, \”I\’m afraid even the smart children can\’t memorize the poems taught by the teacher today. How can I have any hope?\” After returning home, he lowered his head, frowned, and was listless. The grandmother was very sad to see her grandson behave like this and asked, \”Son, why are you unhappy?\” The child told his grandma exactly what had happened. The child said: \”I am very stupid. My classmates call me a stupid child. Those smart children may not be able to memorize it, let alone me.\” At this time, the grandma looked back at the wall and saw a snail. Climb up there. The grandma pointed to the snail and said to the child: \”Don\’t you see that this snail moves very slowly? But I know that as long as it concentrates on climbing up, it will definitely climb to the top of the wall. Now you come and compete with it. The snail will climb a brick.\” , you read the poem once.\” After listening to his grandma\’s words, the stupid kid thought to himself, \”I can\’t compete with others, so why can\’t I compete with a snail?\” He made up his mind, the snail put a brick on it, and he read the poem once. Before the snail climbed to the top of the wall, he had memorized the poem. The next day, in class, no one in the class could memorize this poem. Only this stupid kid could memorize it skillfully. Enlightenment: Children are not afraid of being stupid when studying, but they are afraid of not being attentive. If you concentrate and make sure the stupid bird flies first, you will definitely succeed. Some people who did not do very well in school later made great achievements in their careers. It was with them that theyIt has something to do with hard work. Some people may be very smart, but then achieve nothing, mainly because they are impetuous and not enterprising. The son of a goshawk who sent his son to learn to fly showed great strength and extraordinary skill in the flying competition of the Animal Games. I saw it in the blue sky, sometimes spreading its wings and hovering at high altitude; sometimes it quickly swooped down to low altitude… Its superb flying skills won bursts of cheers from the audience present. In the end, he was named \”Best Pilot\”. The next day, Goshawk\’s house was very lively. The white rabbit, the black cat, the frog… all brought their children and unanimously asked the goshawk to teach their children how to fly. Goshawk burst out laughing and said: \”It is a good thing to want your children to learn skills and be promising in the future, but you have to do it based on your child\’s strengths and interests. If I hadn\’t used my child\’s broad and powerful wings and the hobby of flying, but if you insist on teaching it to learn swimming, running, high jumping, etc., not only will it not get the honor it has today, but it may delay his life.\” Enlightenment: To educate children, you must start from the child\’s reality , fully discover and tap the children\’s strengths and potentials, and cannot follow the crowd. Just learn what others do. The Heart Has Ears A girl was excluded from the choir by her teacher because she was short and fat. Who told her to always wear a gray, old and ill-fitting dress! The little girl hid in the park and cried sadly. He thought: Why can\’t I sing? Do I really sing badly? After thinking about it, the little girl began to sing in a low voice. She sang one song after another until she was tired of singing. \”Singing so well!\” At this time, a voice sounded, \”Thank you, little girl, you let me spend a pleasant afternoon.\” The little girl was shocked! The speaker was an old man with white hair. After he finished speaking, he stood up and walked away alone. When the little girl went back the next day, the old man was still sitting in the same place with a smile on his face. The little girl then started singing again, and the old man listened attentively with an intoxicated expression. Finally, he cheered loudly and said, \”Thank you, little girl, you sang so well!\” After that, he still left alone. day to day. Many years later, the little girl became a big girl. When she became a big girl, she was beautiful and slim, and she was a famous singer in the small town. But she could not forget the kind old man sitting on the chair in the park. One winter morning, she went to the park to find the old man, but she was disappointed. There was only a small lonely armchair there. Later I found out that the old man had passed away a long time ago. \”He is deaf and has been deaf for 20 years!\” an insider told her. The girl was stunned. The old man who listened to a little girl singing and praised her enthusiastically every day was actually deaf! Enlightenment: Success requires praise, encouragement, and applause. Success requires support. Self-confidence is the prerequisite for success. We must praise and encourage more when raising children. Incompetence and Heartlessness During a summer camp, a little girl in second grade stared at a boiled egg in a daze. Her aunt asked her, \”Don\’t you like eggs?\” \”The little girl said,\” Then why don\’t you eat? \”This egg is different from the ones I have at home.\” The girl looked confused. She said: \”My eggs are white, soft and easy to bite, this egg is too hard to bite. Someone asked the children: \”Do you know where eggs come from?\” The children said in unison: \”Took it out of the refrigerator.\” \”There is a similar story. A laid-off female worker knew that her son liked to eat prawns. She gritted her teeth and bought the prawns from the market. She prepared them and served them to the table. She watched her son eating them with relish and was reluctant to move her chopsticks. . Seeing that her son had finished his meal, the mother couldn\’t help but want to taste the remaining shrimps – \”Don\’t move!\” The 13-year-old said, \”That\’s mine.\” \”When the mother told this incident, her eyes were filled with tears. Enlightenment: These two short stories reflect a common misunderstanding in family education, which is over-protection and over-indulgence of children. The result is that Children become incompetent and heartless. This is not the child\’s fault, but the fault of the parents\’ education. Let the children go out more and see Xu Xiake, a traveler and geographer from the Ming Dynasty in China. He has loved nature since he was a child and is particularly good at reading geography and travel notes. He could recite many chapters of books about the genre eloquently. When he was a teenager, he wanted to travel and realize his beautiful ideal of investigating nature since he was a child. However, he was worried that his old mother would not be taken care of, and he hesitated in his heart. Decision. His mother saw his thoughts and encouraged him: \”If a chicken is penned in a fence or a pony is tied in a horse pen, it won\’t make much difference. Good boy, don\’t worry about your mother. Let\’s go!\” \”The beautiful ideal and the encouragement of his mother made him embark on the journey. He began a long journey. Starting from Taihu Lake, he climbed over five mountains – Taishan, Huashan, Lushan, Wuyishan, and Huangshan. Everywhere he went, He recorded what he saw and later compiled \”Xu Xiake\’s Travels\”. This book is not only an excellent collection of essays, but also an important geographical document. It occupies an important position in the history of science and culture. Comments: \”Travel thousands of miles and read thousands of miles.\” \”Books\” is the best way to learn. Children who stay under the wings of their parents have no future. The benefits of \”mistakes\” A lady went to an American friend\’s house as a guest. During the conversation, she often saw her friend\’s child under 3 years old trying to make a mistake. She awkwardly inserted the key into the lock and tried to open the bedroom door, but due to lack of height and coordination, she couldn\’t open it. Seeing this, the lady couldn\’t bear to let the child \”suffer\” anymore, so she hurriedly walked over to try to help. He was stopped for a moment, but was stopped by his friend. The friend said: \”Don\’t disturb him, let him make some \’mistakes\’ on his own first, and let him figure out how to open the door among the \’mistakes\’, so that he will never forget how to open the door again.\” It\’s open! \”Sure enough, after struggling for a long time, the child finally opened the door and clapped his hands happily. Enlightenment: Children will always face various \”mistakes\” as they grow up, and they will continue to experience \”mistakes\” Torture. Many parents are afraid that their children will make mistakes, or cannot bear the torture of their children, so they can\’t wait to punish the child who made the mistake, or immediately help the child correct the mistake. The consequence of this is that the child will make the same mistake again and again. Even more wrong. A poor shoemaker trained a great writer. The Danish fairy tale writer Andersen was born in a small town called Oseden on the island of Fuen. There were many nobles and landowners there, and AndersenTusheng\’s father was just a poor shoemaker, and his mother was a washerwoman. The aristocratic landowners were afraid of lowering their status and never let their children play with Andersen. Andersen\’s father was very angry about this, but he did not show it at all in front of his children. Instead, he said to Andersen very easily: \”My child, if others don\’t play with you, daddy will play with you!\” The father personally decorated Andersen\’s simple room. It looks like a small museum. There are many pictures and decorative porcelain on the walls. There are some toys on the window cabinets. The bookshelves are filled with books and music sheets. There is also a landscape painting on the door glass. His father often told Andersen \”One Thousand and One Nights\” and other ancient Arabian stories, and sometimes read him a script by Danish comedy writer Holberg or a play by British Shakespeare. In order to enrich Andersen\’s spiritual world, his father also encouraged Andersen to go to the streets to see the craftsmen immersed in their work, the bent old beggars, the nobles riding horse-drawn carriages and other people\’s lives. These experiences provided the basis for Andersen\’s later writing \”The Match Seller\” Fairy tales such as \”The Little Girl\” and \”The Ugly Duckling\” have laid a good foundation. Enlightenment: Don’t restrict your children too much. You should let your children observe and experience life more. This will help enrich your children’s spiritual world. Facts have proven that the foundation and key to many children’s success is outstanding family education. It is the responsibility and obligation of parents to teach their children to become successful. In order for children to be well nurtured and educated, and to make family education an inexhaustible spring that nourishes children\’s hearts, parents need to understand the mysteries of education and find an education that suits their children. Only by grasping the opportunity of education every moment can we discover the unlimited potential of children. The following teaching methods are for your reference. 1. Setting an example is an important way to influence and educate children with the good thoughts and good behaviors of others. For example, the outstanding qualities of classmates, neighbors, teachers, heroic role models, positive figures in literary and artistic works, and revolutionary leaders are all objects for children to learn and imitate. Regardless of whether parents\’ words and deeds are wrong or correct, they have a profound impact on their children. Therefore, parents should check their words and deeds at all times and everywhere in their daily lives. 2. Environmental influence: Parents should consciously create a good living environment so that their children can be infected and influenced. The family is the main place where children live. Parents should organize life well, handle the relationship between members well, adhere to correct moral behavior as the norm, form a united and harmonious family atmosphere, establish an orderly life order, and cultivate the good sentiments of their children. 3. The specific methods of persuasion education: First, talk. Parents should present facts and reason based on their children\’s actual thoughts, so that their children can understand certain truths. The talk should be targeted and flexible, and the attitude should be kind and not stern-faced. , scolding and sarcastically condescendingly. The second is discussion, where parents and children discuss together. During discussions, you must respect your children and listen patiently to their opinions. If you have incorrect opinions, you must also patiently reason with them so that your children can distinguish right from wrong. Parents should be brave enough to admit that their views are incorrect. 4 Practical exercise The content of actual exercise is quite extensive, such as adapting to the surrounding environment, exercising, taking care of yourself, housework, and independent work.Industry, civility and courtesy, social communication, etc. To carry out practical exercises, children must first clarify the meaning of the purpose (why), put forward specific requirements (how to do it), and encourage them to overcome difficulties and persist to the end. The exercise content must be suitable for the children\’s age characteristics and personality characteristics. Based on their actual abilities, the tasks assigned and the requirements must be appropriate. Children should be allowed to make mistakes in practice without being too demanding. Parents should not stop exercising midway because they are afraid that their children will suffer hardship. 5 Praise and Rewards Praise and rewards are to affirm and praise children’s thoughts and behaviors. Through affirmation and praise, we can strengthen our children\’s enterprising spirit and sense of honor, and strive for greater progress. Praise and rewards must be realistic, timely, and explain the reasons. They should be mainly spiritual rewards and supplemented by material rewards. 6 Criticism and Punishment Criticism and punishment both deny children’s bad thoughts and behaviors, but the latter is a means of education for serious bad thoughts and behaviors. When criticizing and punishing, we must first have a comprehensive understanding of the situation, grasp the specific circumstances and severity of bad thoughts and behaviors, and proceed from the reality of the mistakes. Criticism is to point out the harm and ideological roots, deny their thoughts and behaviors, make them feel ashamed and painful, and then produce corrections Wrong motivation. When criticizing, do not be sarcastic, sarcastic, or abusive. Punishment is mainly the deprivation of certain rights, not corporal punishment, humiliation of personality and physical and mental destruction. 7. Guidance and arrangement of living order. A good living order is an effective way to cultivate good habits in children. Guide children in arranging their daily life, arrange their living environment, and teach their children how to arrange and use their time in an orderly manner. Let the children make their own arrangements, and parents can provide guidance. 8. Guide extracurricular reading and guide children to read books, newspapers and magazines to absorb useful spiritual nutrition. Parents should master the content of their children\’s reading, discuss it with their children, and guide their children to increase their knowledge, broaden their horizons, and be spiritually edified through reading. 9. Lead your children to go out and get in touch with society. Take your children to parks, scenic spots, shops, factories, and rural areas, or to visit classmates, relatives and friends, and have social interactions, so that they can broaden their horizons, get in touch with society, and understand society. Mr. Tao Xingzhi said: \”We have two extreme mentalities towards children, both of which are harmful to children. One is neglect; the other is too much expectation. Neglect means leaving the child to fend for itself like thatch, and too much expectation will only encourage the growth of the seedlings, but instead Promote their premature death.\” Therefore, reasonable teaching is the correct route to relieve children\’s pain and enhance their happiness. 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