How do teachers coax and accompany children who have just entered kindergarten?

How to accompany a new child to kindergarten. A child comes to kindergarten. This is the first time for him to leave his mother. After the mother sent the child to the kindergarten, she said to the child: \”Mom has to go to work now.\” The child hugged the mother\’s neck and cried heartbrokenly. Separation fills children with fear. It\’s like the child leaving the mother\’s body at birth. collection! Download the full set of 108 compulsory courses on how to accompany your child\’s growth. The teacher took the crying child from his mother\’s arms, but the child was still crying and pulling at his mother. Finally, the mother disappeared from the child\’s sight, and the child turned around and hugged the teacher, still crying in fear. The child leaves his mother for the first time to go to kindergarten. How to comfort your child? The teacher held the child in his arms, patted his back gently and said, \”Teacher knows that you are scared to leave your mother. You cry, crying will make you feel better. The teacher is with you!\” The child cried out his fear loudly. …After crying, fear naturally flows out. The teacher added: \”You are safe now. The teacher will take care of you, protect you, stay with you, and will not leave you until mother comes to pick you up.\” No matter how long you cry, the teacher will always be with you. After a while, the cries of fear turned into cries of sadness. At this time, the child is only sad to leave his mother, not fear anymore. He and this new world were getting closer and closer amidst such cries… The normal feeling gradually began to return, the mood began to calm down, and gradually the mother\’s departure was accepted. Crying is the expression, expression, expression and derivation of pain and sadness. Crying here is not about hurt, but the flow of emotion. The comfort at this time is to listen: listen to the child\’s emotions and listen to the child\’s cries. Listening is allowing children to express their emotions, which is acceptance and understanding, which is love. Mother is a safe, stable, familiar and friendly world for the child. He will feel safe around his mother. Suddenly a stranger (teacher) came, and this stranger carried the child to a strange place (kindergarten), and the child\’s natural sense of insecurity and disorder emerged. What fear and terror is this! The emotion at this time is completely an instinctive and natural reaction. Therefore, when a child first enters kindergarten, we usually let the mother accompany the child for a few days to let the child become familiar with the kindergarten and the teacher. Mothers should wait until their children feel at ease with the teacher before leaving. Of course, after this, the child still needs a long time to get familiar with the teacher and a long time to get used to life without his mother. This process of familiarity and habituation is the process of the child expanding his own world. The first and most powerful of all emotions is panic. After arriving in kindergarten, their mothers leave to go to work. This separation from their mothers makes some children full of fear. Children need to cry out their fears, and in this cry, let themselves and the outside world gradually get closer, and gradually accept others. There was such a conversation in the kindergarten: the teacher said to a child who had just entered the kindergarten: \”Stop crying, mom will pick you up in the afternoon. The teacher loves you too!\” The older child standing aside said to the teacher: \” Teacher, let him cry! I was very scared when I first came here, and I cried like this. As I cried, I let my fear go.I\’ll be fine. \”This is the older child\’s own emotional experience and experience. Coming to a strange place and being handed over to strange people, the child will have the emotion of fear. This emotion makes the child defend himself. This is the life energy of the child\’s self-protection. With the help of this flow of life energy, the child will return to normal feelings and psychology, and will derive and develop psychology and cognition. He will slowly begin to accept others to take care of him instead of his mother, slowly accept the unfamiliar environment, and slowly understand his mother and his mother. The world outside the family slowly expands the space of their own inner world. Finally, they fit the gradually expanding external world into their gradually expanding inner world. In this process, through feelings, emotions, psychology and cognition, children will integrate: “The world can be trusted, others can be trusted, I can be trusted, and I am capable. \”A self is slowly created in this process. The growth process of a child is a process of continuous expansion of the world. From the mother\’s belly, it expands to the outside… From the family to the kindergarten, to the family The combination with kindergarten… This expansion process is sooner or later, natural, inevitable and necessary. But it often does not expand slowly, but all at once. For example, when children go to kindergarten, in many cases it is not Because the child wants to get out of the house, it is not because he is curious, needs, and yearns for the kindergarten, but because adults think that children need it, or adults themselves need it. I hope that one day, our kindergarten can prepare a place for parents of newly admitted children to rest and The space of \”sub-work\” (the transition between home and kindergarten) allows family members to live with their children in kindergarten. Depending on the specific situation of the children, choosing a time when the family members leave completely is a transition method. When growing up, During the process, children need a loving companion no matter when and where they are. Love is the background of life\’s growth, which is why in the first month of each child\’s first entry into the kindergarten, the kindergarten must have a teacher to accompany this new child. Children, and give him enough care. In the first 6 years of a child\’s life, any time that may bring inner changes and shocks to the child, the child needs a loving companion.