How to make children self-disciplined

We all hope that our children will be excellent and become talents when they grow up. How hard do parents work so that their children can excel? There is a sentence in the once popular drama \”Little Shede\” that expresses the aspirations of the majority of parents: For the sake of our children, we can endure hardships, suffer hardships, and be wronged. No matter what we have to do, we are willing to do it. Today, as educational involution becomes more and more serious, it is no exaggeration to say that behind every outstanding child is the hard work of his parents. However, whether a child is excellent or not sometimes really has nothing to do with external resources such as extracurricular tutoring; what really determines the child is the quality of \”self-discipline.\” Self-discipline determines the height a child can achieve in his life. Roosevelt, the 32nd President of the United States, has a famous saying: There is a quality that can make a person stand out among the mediocre people who do nothing; this quality is not talent, education, or IQ, but self-discipline. Self-disciplined and unself-disciplined children lead completely different lives. No child is born with self-discipline, self-discipline needs to be cultivated from an early age. It can be said that behind every self-disciplined child, there are “tolerant” parents. Being able to endure is the highest state of being a mother. The more you can tolerate the following four things, the more self-disciplined your children will be. Only when you hold back your hands can your children be independent. Yang Jiang\’s father said: It is better to educate children to be independent than to be number one. Children who do not have the ability to live independently will find it difficult to live happily and comfortably no matter how good they are. \”Please help me complete it independently\” is the inherent need of every child\’s nature. How to develop self-discipline in children: self-driven growth free reading mobi+epub+azw3 Dr. Montessori pointed out that the first task of early childhood education is not to create obstacles for children’s normal growth. Never help a child do something he thinks he can handle on his own. This should be a parenting rule that every parent needs to abide by. Parents who are far-sighted know how to resist doing everything for their children, and know how to let their children do things within their capabilities from an early age. Love that knows how to let go is the best gift parents can give their children. When educating children, you must not fall into the misunderstanding of \”nanny-style\” parenting. They worry about every detail for their children, and their parents take care of everything big and small. Not only are parents tired, but so are their children, and it may also hinder their children\’s development. After the child reaches the age of 3, he or she has passed an important period of developing a sense of security. Parents should learn to let go and start training their children\’s ability to take care of themselves independently. In life, let the child do things on his own; by packing his schoolbag, tidying up the room regularly, and washing his own clothes and socks, the child will gradually learn to manage himself. As a parent, hold back and let your children try what they should do and learn what they must do; allowing children to have the ability to be independent in the world is the foundation for their future self-confidence and self-discipline. Only by resisting nagging can children awaken their inner drive. In order to educate their children and make them understand the truth, some parents nag like sparrows all day long. As everyone knows, if the child hears repeated words too much, he will not take them seriously. Thoughts are almost every parent’s “specialty”. But sometimes once your love and care go too far, it will become a shackles on the child.There is an \”overlimit effect\” in psychology: when a person is stimulated too much, too strongly, or for too long, it will cause extreme psychological impatience or rebelliousness, and the final effect will be counterproductive. The famous American humorist Mark Twain once went to listen to a pastor\’s speech. At first, he thought the pastor\’s speech was good and planned to donate money. After 10 minutes, the pastor had not finished speaking, so he became impatient and decided to donate only some change; after another 10 minutes, the pastor had not finished speaking, so he decided not to donate. When the pastor finally finished his speech and began to collect donations, Mark Twain was so angry that he not only did not donate any money, but also stole 2 yuan from the plate. This story is a good explanation of the \”over-limit effect\”, and the same is true for educating children. The more nagging you are, the more disobedient your child will be. The famous artist Chen Danqing once said: A good education is less wordy. Many times, you only need to tell your children once and they will already remember it, so there is no need to remind them again and again. Educating children diligently may not be effective, so parents need to reflect on their own education methods. If you are diligent in nagging and making excuses, the results will often be poor; if you are diligent in finding methods and countermeasures and can effectively implement them, it is worth learning. Only by holding back the temper can children have high emotional intelligence. Losing temper is the biggest enemy of education. The bigger the temper, the worse the educational effect! What kind of environment creates what kind of child. Parents who love temper will raise children who are rebellious, suspicious, sensitive, fragile and love to argue. Experts in the education field point out that poverty will not cause educational failure, but mental abuse will definitely create a problem child. As Dr. Montessori said, every character defect is caused by childhood misfortune. A bad temper will make your children afraid to get close to you and open their hearts to you. They will always be worried and scared, and will have no sense of security. They will have all kinds of problems when they grow up. No matter what hardships life throws at you, please control your temper in front of your children. The more calm you are on the parenting journey, the smarter your children will be. If you can\’t help but get angry at your child, here\’s what to do. First, accept the fact that you are angry, don\’t feel guilty, and let your child know what your emotional response is to him at this moment. Secondly, objectively express your feelings and concerns about your child. For example: I am angry because I am worried about you; rather than: Why is your child always such a headache! If the parents are strong and impulsive, the children will be timid and have low self-esteem; if the parents are patient and tolerant, the children will be brighter and happier. Only by resisting urging can children become more self-disciplined. Educator Rousseau has a famous saying: \”Nature wants children to be like children before they become adults.\” Experience slowly, repeat slowly, ponder slowly, and gain ability development from practice slowly. Generally speaking, children rarely dawdle on purpose before they are 5 years old. Children under the age of 5 don’t know what time is. Children of this age are full of curiosity about everything in the world. They are exploring and discovering all the time, and enjoy this \”slow\” process. In the process of a child slowly doing something, all the senses can be fully used; the child can form his own feelings about things, and his observation ability, thinking ability, etc.Ability and concentration can be improved. The biggest difference between children and adults is that children always live in the present, while we adults always worry about the future. In the eyes of children, it is completely impossible to understand why adults are always anxious. Almost all children before the age of 5 are immersed in \”living in the present\”. Therefore, for children under the age of 5, we must properly respect the child\’s \”grinding\” and not always rush them at the pace of the adult world. In the \”slow\” world, children\’s growth wisdom is hidden. If you want your children to become more self-disciplined, parents must learn to \”forbear\”. The more parents can tolerate these four things, the better their children will be in the future. Don’t do everything, let the children do what they can do; don’t be impatient, give the children a peaceful childhood; don’t rush, allow the children to follow their own pace; don’t nag, let the children grow in love and grow into a self-disciplined person people.