A few days ago, when we were buying floor mats in a group, I specifically mentioned that I didn’t agree with support for standing because there was a fence model. Then I commented that many friends asked me why I didn’t agree with support for standing. If you think about it carefully, most children may have been helped to stand or were helped to stand in their infancy. If the movement lasts for a short period of time, the impact on the child will be very small. However, a wrong understanding of the behavior of standing up will have a negative impact on the child\’s development, and even cause irreversible damage. When I passed by the community garden before, I heard a very proud voice of a grandma, \”My child will be able to stand in more than a month, but he is amazing~ You should practice it at home too.\” An alarm bell rang in my head, \”What? A How many months have you been standing? It\’s not logical!\” I couldn\’t help but stop and look at the grandma. She was sitting on a stool chatting with another old lady. She was holding a child about four or five months old under her armpits with both hands. Standing on his legs, he would help the child jump from time to time, and his pride was beyond words. But it is obvious that the child\’s legs are always bent when standing, and the toes are basically on the ground, similar to the picture below. (Can you see the problem with this posture? Let’s talk about it in detail later.) Recalling the questions many friends had about support standing a few days ago, let’s talk about it today. (If you don’t want to read the details, just read the following conclusions.) There are two types of so-called supporting stations: one is autonomous supporting stations. The child will stand up by himself using the sofa, railings, toys, etc. around him. Normally, non-intervention is discouraged. One is to use artificial support to stand. Parents hold their children\’s bodies to help them stand. In most cases, they help their children stand by supporting their armpits. I firmly oppose this situation. In both cases, if the child lands on his toes, he must be stopped and not allowed to stand again (why will be explained in detail later). Why not intervene and encourage independent standing? Normally, the first time a baby stands on his own is supported. Under normal circumstances, the attitude towards children standing on their own is not to interfere and not to encourage. When the child\’s waist, leg and other muscle strength is already in place, and he can stand up with the soles of his feet on the ground while holding things on his own, it means that this is a matter of course in his own development, and parents do not need to intervene. But there is no need to encourage. Children are easily affected by their parents\’ emotions when they are a few months old. If we rashly encourage and force children to practice, it will have the opposite effect and will not be beneficial to the child\’s development. Therefore, when the child stands on his own, do not interfere or encourage, and give the child enough time to adapt to the feeling of standing. Why do people oppose artificial support? A few days ago, a video went viral. I wonder if you have seen it. In the video, a newly born newborn stood up and walked on his own with the help of a nurse. Many netizens commented, \”This baby has grown up amazingly.\” But in fact, this is a stepping reflex that normal newborns have, and it is not a real walking. At the same time, experts also remind new parents not to imitate to avoid injury to the baby. Because the newborn\’s spine is not fully developed, parents without professional knowledge may easily damage their child\’s spine if they operate improperly, or the child may fall out of their hands and cause accidents such as falls. (I won’t show the video to avoid misunderstandings.) I want to say that the proud titties at the beginningDid you mistakenly think that your child\’s stepping reflex is a sign of standing, so you focus on training your child to stand? But in fact, all artificial interference in the development of infants and young children is to encourage the development of infants and young children and will bring a lot of harm. Therefore, we are firmly opposed. 1. It is detrimental to the development of the child\’s arches and lower limb muscles. In fact, most children do not have the conditions to stand yet and their muscle strength is not enough. If the child is supported to stand artificially, it is detrimental to the development of the child\’s arches and lower limb muscles. Standing with artificial support for a long time may cause bow legs, because it will cause the child to passively put pressure on the muscles of the lower limbs. This is also the reason why we are worried about children standing too early and having bow legs. Children standing on their own strength will generally not have this consequence, but artificial support may. 2. Affects walking posture. If artificial support is used to stand for a long time, the child will not stand on his own strength. In this way, the child\’s balance ability will not reach the level of practice. When he learns to walk, he will easily walk on tiptoes, causing wrong posture. 3. Influence other major motor development. When children get used to standing, they can see farther and see how vast the world is. He was unwilling to lie down or climb again. However, we have emphasized in the article on gross motor development that lying down and crawling are very critical stages of gross motor development. Missing these two stages will reduce the strength training of the muscles such as the waist and back, and the coordination ability will not be developed. , this kind of hidden damage is difficult to recover in the future. It is easy to judge when it is necessary to intervene in the child\’s standing. Observe the child\’s standing posture. If the toes are on the ground, parents should stop the child from supporting himself or stop passively supporting him. This is also the problem with the support station in the opening picture. If the child touches the ground on his toes when standing, it is because the muscle tension causes some muscles to spasm when moving, so the feet are tightened and the heels are on the ground, and the heels cannot be flat. This is a child\’s instinctive reaction. In other words, it means that the child is not yet strong enough to stand. I think there will definitely be many people asking if it is okay for the child to stand on the soles of his feet while his parents support him. If the child needs our help to stand, it is still not recommended to stand with help. Because this kind of standing method also cannot exercise the child\’s muscle ability and coordination ability. If the child is just standing up as if we were holding him up like a chair rail, we don’t need to give him the strength to bounce back and help him stand up. It’s not a big deal if we do it occasionally. How many months will it take to stand? This question is usually asked in two situations: one is \”My child is more than six months old and he stood up by himself while holding on to the railing. Is it too early? What should I do if his legs are bowed?\” The other is \”My child is bow-legged.\” She\’s ten months old and she still can\’t help her to stand. When I hold her to stand, she curls up her legs. Is there something wrong?\” Luo Luo understands the feelings of being a parent very well and will worry about it early or late. It’s too early to worry about bow legs, and later it’s too late to worry about the child’s developmental delay. However, the time period when each baby can stand independently is different. Some children are more than six months old, some are more than nine months old, and a few are later. No matter what time, we will remain calm. Because \”standing\” is not an important basis for judging gross motor slowness. If a baby born at full term cannot raise his head at 3 months, cannot turn over at 6 months, cannot sit alone at 9 months, thenHe is still unable to walk. Only when there are severe delays in these points do parents need to pay attention. When the child\’s muscle ability is developed in place, the child will be able to stand on his own. If he is not willing to stand yet, it only means that he is not willing to stand yet, and there is no need to worry. There is one thing that is more important than whether or not the child can stand. Many parents will compare how long it takes their children to stand, but in fact, standing posture is what needs more focus and long-term attention. Why is standing posture so important? Because incorrect standing posture will affect the shape of the legs! Who doesn’t want a pair of straight long legs? We may not be able to do anything about the length, but straightness can still be achieved. Unattractive leg shape, unless there is congenital disease, is mostly caused by changes in bone position caused by muscle imbalance. The fundamental reason lies in incorrect living habits and movement patterns, resulting in muscle imbalance. Therefore, unsightly leg shapes always have some weird muscle groups that are concave in shape. The standing posture affects the walking posture, so if you want your child to have a pair of beautiful legs, it is right to pay attention to the standing posture from an early age. What is the normal standing posture for children? The center of gravity falls on one third of the heel. Keep your eyes straight, your expression should be natural, your neck should be straight, your shoulders should be straight, your upper body should be straight, your chest should be straight, your abdomen should be lifted, your buttocks should be raised, your knees should be pressed, and your heels should be close together. Of course, when the child is young, we don’t have to remind or correct the child. The vast majority of children have slightly O-shaped or The unique developmental process of the hip joint. What we need to focus on reminding the child is when she is older, especially the golden time of correcting the leg shape between the ages of 6 and 12. Stand! As long as you do this action correctly, your legs will be straight! Using this picture as a reference, keep your heels together, the soles of your feet spread out, and your calves and knees together. It seems very simple, but in real life, very few people can stand like this, or are used to standing like this. Most people who have practiced dancing for a long time stand in this posture. The advantage of standing like this is that not only the legs become straight, but also the body shape is They\’re all standing tall! (Excerpted from Yunduo’s mother’s Zhihu) Let’s go back to the infancy. When a child stands up with the help of his own strength, he may not know how to sit down. Sometimes he can’t stand and his legs are weak and he falls down, but more often he can help himself. Children who stand will learn to bend their knees through experience and let their bodies slowly land on the floor. When the child stands firm, he will hold on to things and take a few tentative steps, and a new milestone has begun. Finally, I think there is one point that needs to be emphasized. Children\’s gross motor development is not something that can be learned and practiced, but comes naturally as the level of development increases. Long-term human intervention, holding the child to stand or supporting him to walk will only cause unnecessary trouble to the child. We should not let our children grow up because of temporary vanity or comparison. Let the rhythm of growth be given to the children themselves instead of being controlled by us. In this way, the children will stand more firmly and walk better.