The new semester has begun, and children who have enrolled in kindergarten and primary school have begun to return to school and resume their normal schedule. There are also some children around 2 years old who, for various reasons, have begun the biggest test of their growth – being separated from their parents, leaving their families, and entering kindergarten. When it comes to the reasons for letting their children enter school so early, parents have their own difficulties. Some of them are trying to seize the opportunity first. In some well-known kindergartens, parents no longer have to worry if their children go to nursery classes first to occupy their seats. If your child does not attend nursery school and waits until small class to sign up, he or she may miss out on a famous kindergarten because there is no space. Some parents have no choice but to do so because they have no one to take care of their children. Especially those working mothers who are usually too busy at work, the elderly at home are in poor health or there are no elderly people to help take care of the children, so they have no choice but to send their children to kindergarten early. Some parents feel that their children are too squeamish at home and that going to kindergarten can help them develop good living and study habits. So is it necessary to send children over two years old to kindergarten? Let me first share a few real examples around me. When playing in the community every afternoon, 2-and-a-half-year-old Zhenzhen looked enviously at the children returning from the kindergarten school bus. She told her mother that she also wanted to go to kindergarten. After Zhenzhen mentioned it to her mother countless times, thinking that Zhenzhen had basic self-care abilities and was very obedient, her mother found a nearby childcare center and sent Zhenzhen there. Sure enough, Zhenzhen adapted to the kindergarten with almost no difficulty. In the kindergarten, Zhenzhen\’s self-care ability became stronger. Not only did she take good care of herself, she also learned to wear clothes, fold quilts, and use chopsticks skillfully. This made her mother very happy. When Xuanxuan was just 2 years old, his parents found a kindergarten for him. Parents of babies of the same age around him couldn\’t understand why they should send their babies to kindergarten so early. In this regard, their parents\’ explanation was that it would be better to send their babies to kindergarten as early as possible. Cultivate children\’s independence and easily develop good behavior habits. But not long after Xuanxuan entered the kindergarten, the parents discovered that not only had they not cultivated good behavioral habits, but they had actually regressed. For example, Xuanxuan learned to take care of himself very early, but after entering kindergarten, he had to wet several pairs of pants every weekend. I went to the kindergarten to check and found that the teacher put diapers on every baby for convenience. Seeing that Xuanxuan\’s habits were getting worse and worse, his parents had no choice but to give up and let him go to daycare. Lele\’s registered permanent residence corresponds to a key kindergarten and primary school. In order for Lele to attend primary school smoothly, Lele\’s mother helped Lele register for the day care class early. Because the kindergarten with the same household registration is in the city center, it is the house of the grandparents, which is very small. Lele\’s family lives in the suburbs. For the convenience of Lele, her parents rented a house next to the kindergarten. On the first day of entering the kindergarten, Lele suffered from severe separation anxiety and cried continuously. A few days later, Lele suddenly suffered from a high fever. She finally recovered after being raised at home for two weeks. As soon as I entered the kindergarten, I fell ill again. After several struggles, Lele\’s health got worse and worse, and she got sick and had to get injections at every turn. In the end, she had to stay at home. Lele will not enter kindergarten until she is old enough. Originally, Lele\’s parents were very worried, but after school started, they found that their child\’s behavior was completely different when he was one year older. This time he went to kindergarten., Lele cooperated a lot and quickly adapted to kindergarten life. In life, there are very few children like Zhenzhen who can quickly adapt to kindergarten. Most children like Xuanxuan and Lele have serious discomfort when they first enter kindergarten. Generally speaking, I do not advocate that children over 2 years old go to nursery school, because babies at this stage are not suitable physically or psychologically. Physiologically speaking, babies around 2 years old generally have poor self-care abilities and have problems eating, sleeping, urinating, etc. Some babies also have relatively poor language skills. It is very painful for such babies to go to kindergarten. Kindergarten usually has two teachers and one nanny. Even if there are only 10 children in a class, each teacher has to take care of 3 children at the same time. Under such circumstances, it is not easy to pay attention to the conditions of all children. More often than not, it is not possible to cover every aspect and take good care of every child. If the baby wets his pants or the teacher does not immediately notice and change the baby after getting up from bed, the baby will be particularly vulnerable to colds and illnesses. Many 3-year-old babies are much better at taking care of themselves. Some mothers may wonder, just a few months difference, can it have such a big impact? To this, Yuehua’s answer is: Yes! Even if the baby is only a few months apart, their abilities will be very different! Psychologically, 2-year-old babies are in a critical period of self-construction. When they are born, babies think that their mother and themselves are one. At the age of 2, they have just realized that their mother and themselves are different individuals, and their self has begun to form. However, at this time, the baby\’s attention is still focused on themselves, so they still He clings to his mother, is not willing to share toys, and does not interact with the children around him. We have to wait until the baby\’s self-construction is completed. At this time, they will turn their attention outside the family and begin to have a desire to interact with peers. It is also at this stage that they are willing to leave their mothers and enjoy collective life with children of the same age. Generally, babies will complete this stage of self-differentiation when they are about 3 years old, so it will be much better for children to go to kindergarten after 3 years old. The most important thing is that whether children go to daycare or kindergarten, children will face \”separation anxiety\” for the first time in their lives. If not handled well, it may have a long-lasting impact on the child. Therefore, you must decide whether to send your child to daycare based on his or her actual situation. Generally speaking, if the baby eats well, can fall asleep quietly without being coaxed, can put on his clothes when falling asleep and after getting up, can take care of himself when urinating, and can tell the teacher about his bowel movements, then the child can be considered for day care. If the child can\’t do anything, then it is better to wait until the child is older and has better self-care ability in all aspects before entering kindergarten. If there is really no one at home to look after the children, the parents have to work, and the elderly at home are in poor health or there is no elderly person to help take care of the children, the children can be sent to day care in advance. If the family environment is relatively good and someone is caring for the child while the parents are at work, it is best not to send the child to daycare. Some parents send their children to kindergarten to develop good habits, or they hope that their children can learn some knowledge systematically early. If you send your children to kindergarten with this mentality, it will be completely wrong.no need. Children cannot learn any substantive knowledge in kindergarten, and for 2-year-old children, they have no concept of learning at all, and neither their brains nor their bodies are fully developed yet. The main task of kindergarten teachers is to lead children to play. So don\’t expect your baby to learn much practical knowledge in nursery or kindergarten, and children should be allowed to play and enjoy the fun during their childhood. Finally, if parents themselves are very anxious and worried that their children will be injured, bullied, hungry, sick, etc. in kindergarten, then it is recommended that parents wait a little longer before sending their children to kindergarten. For example, when parents go to pick up their children every day, as soon as they see their children, they are very nervous to check whether the children are injured. They look and touch them, fearing that the children are uncomfortable or suffering somewhere. This conveys a feeling of anxiety to the child, which will be reinforced in the child, and the child himself will also become anxious about going to kindergarten. Therefore, in this case, parents are not recommended to send their babies to kindergarten too early. Even if the baby goes to day care, parents should treat it with a normal attitude and don\’t worry too much. They can pick up the baby early after school and don\’t leave the baby in the kindergarten waiting for the parents. This will increase the baby\’s anxiety. You should pay more attention to your child and take care of his feelings.