Stimulating children\’s imagination and social skills, doing this little thing well is the key

During the Spring Festival, I visit relatives and friends and stay with my baby full-time. I can only log in to WeChat before going to bed every night to check my friends’ messages. Among everyone’s messages, one left a deep impression on me: “My daughter is 3 years old and is obsessed with Peter Pan to the point of becoming obsessed with her. Recently, she is not allowed to call her by her name and we are only allowed to call her Peter Pan! Normally, she is not allowed to call her by her name. It\’s fine at home, but during the Chinese New Year, when I visited relatives, when someone asked her what her name was, she just replied \”Peter Pan\”, which made us so embarrassed!\” I couldn\’t help but burst out laughing. I didn\’t understand the scene described by this mother at all. Not unfamiliar. About a month ago, for a long time, classmate Zhe called himself \”Gordon\”, which was Thomas the Tank Engine\’s good friend Gordon. The most common thing he did at home was to run back and forth, saying while running: \”Come on Gordon, express train\” Got it! Get out of the way! In the past month, he has become obsessed with \”Tales from the Heavenly Book\” in the \”Chinese Beautiful Picture Book\” series, and calls himself \”Dansheng\” – yes, that is the little boy Dansheng who was born from a swan egg and inherited the mantle of the Heavenly Book. . It was the same situation as the mother who left the message. When we were visiting relatives during the Spring Festival, classmate Zhe always solemnly told people that his name was Dansheng. The other party was confused, so Dad Zhe and I naturally had to explain. However, now we have learned to understand his self-will, cooperate with his role-playing behavior, and no longer try to correct what he calls himself. Why do babies love Cosplay? Baby\’s Cosplay behavior does not appear suddenly. It accompanies the child\’s self-cognition development and mental development process, and has different manifestations at different stages. It is one of the symbolic behaviors that symbolizes the continuous development and maturity of children\’s imagination and creativity. Children under 1 year old are in the stage of self-exploration. They understand their own abilities through exploration of the surrounding environment and realize that they are individuals different from other things. Children aged 1 to 2 years old, while deepening their understanding of themselves, explore their relationship with the things around them, and their imagination begins to extend. Specifically, they like to imitate the actions of adults, imagine themselves as a certain character, and exercise their own abilities. Outside attempts. If you observe carefully, you will find that children start to have obvious role-playing behavior when they are about 1 and a half years old. When Zhe was 18 months old, we took him to get vaccinated. When he got home, he found a pen from nowhere and tapped it on my arm. I found that he was using the pen as a syringe to inject me. , hurriedly found a cotton swab and played an injection game with him. He quickly learned to use a cotton swab to press the eye of the needle for a while after inserting the needle. From injections to seeing a doctor, we played the game of \”going to the hospital\” over and over again for many days. Also popular with babies is the \”phone\” game. Mom and baby can use the toy phone to call dad, grandpa, grandma and everyone else they can think of to greet each other and have conversations. It is a very simple game that the baby enjoys playing over and over again. In the game, the child\’s imitation ability and understanding ability improve by leaps and bounds. Children aged 2 to 3 years old develop rapidly in language and body motor skills, and their self-awareness expands rapidly. They begin to emphasize more and more their own specialness and the differences between themselves and those around them. Most children begin to formallyGet into role-playing mode and cosplay characters you know from picture books and cartoons. Zhe’s first formal cosplay was with the little cat from the story “Three Kittens”. He played the role of a little tabby cat, and I folded a little mouse with a handkerchief, hid in the \”mouse hole\” made of cushions, and played the game of kitten and mouse with him for a full three hours. During this period, he constantly adjusted his mouse-catching plan, sometimes releasing bait to lure the mice, and sometimes carrying out sneak attacks from behind. I was pleasantly surprised to find that he not only designed the scenes and plots himself, but also constantly used his brains to find ways to solve the problem. For children aged 3 to 4, it is no exaggeration to say that role-playing is their life. People often say that children live in a fairy tale world, and to a certain extent this is true. In the past six months, classmate Zhe has played all his favorite roles. The one he loves the most is the little train \”Gordon\”, and then he is Dan Sheng in \”Tales from the Book of Heaven\”. I once sighed that he really devoted himself to cosplay. The character is his symbol. If you call him Zhe Zhe, he will correct you loudly: \”I am Gordon now!\” In this state, he will tell others that his name is \”Dansheng\” when introducing himself as mentioned above. The situation is really normal. And as parents, should we correct this? For children, correction means being denied. Once, I was queuing up in front of the supermarket checkout counter. There was a mother and son in front of me. The little boy was about three or four years old. He was sitting in a shopping cart. The mother was pushing the cart and kept scolding the child: \”You are so old.\” Can\’t you even remember your own name? Are you obsessed with watching cartoons? No matter how much you like watching them, you have to remember who you are! McQueen is a car, not you; you can\’t be McQueen!\” Me Understand, this kid is a \”Cars\” fan, and he likes Lightning McQueen. Under his mother\’s questioning, he huddled in the shopping cart, lowered his head, and looked hurt. Looking back, classmate Zhe called himself \”Gaodeng\” to visitors, and we tried to correct him, but when Zhe\’s father seriously told him, \”You are not Gao Deng, you are Zhe Zhe,\” he burst into tears. Later I learned that this matter is not as simple as a title in the mind of the child. When he emphasizes that he is a certain character, in his mind, he has the same power as that character. To deny this title is to deny this power. During the Spring Festival greetings, when he repeatedly emphasized to his grandparents that he was Dansheng, I also cooperated with him time and time again: \”Then Zhezhe, can you tell everyone why you are Dansheng?\” \”Because Dansheng\” He can do magic and fly!\” \”So Zhe Zhe thinks Dan Sheng is very powerful, right?\” \”Yeah!\” \”And Dan Sheng is also very kind and likes to help others, right?\” \”Yes!\” He must be someone he admires. Positive energy is to help him absorb this energy; full understanding and respect can maximize the positive influence of a character. On the other hand, if an adult does not understand the truth and blindly corrects the child\’s name for himself, he is actually denying the child\’s yearning for the role and subverting the child\’s perception of the role\’s power. On the one hand, it will make the child feel frustrated that he has been denied himself, and on the other hand, the child will feel frustrated. On the one hand, it will also restrict children’s freedom to use their imagination.and creativity. The correct way to start role play Many mothers say that their babies have always been well-behaved and easy to take care of, but when they are two or three years old, they seem to have changed. They are disobedient in various ways and constantly challenge the rules, which is unbearable. Parenting experts call this phenomenon \”Terrible Tow\” (terrible two years old). It is not limited to two years old, but refers to a period of rebellion in children during early childhood. This kind of \”rebellion\” of children has its psychological reasons – although they are weak on the outside, they are very strong on the inside and think they can do anything. In fact, when they are babies, they are indeed \”all-powerful\” and any request can be met, because at that time their requirements are nothing more than food, drink and sleep, which can be easily satisfied. But as their minds mature and their mobility becomes stronger, they have more and more demands, some of which obviously violate safety principles and social ethics and cannot be met, and these rules are precisely what children cannot fully understand. At this time, the child\’s inner sense of omnipotence is often thwarted, and you can imagine how frustrated they are. The feeling of omnipotence is so wonderful that children will not give up easily. They try every means to protect this feeling, so they have confrontations with their parents again and again. At the same time, children are very smart. They find that needs that cannot be met in real life can be fulfilled in imagination with the help of a powerful character. This is one of the reasons why children are obsessed with role-playing at this stage – at least, in In the imaginary world, they are omnipotent. Therefore, role-playing is actually an outlet for children\’s emotions. By making good use of this outlet, we can reasonably respect the child\’s deep inner nostalgia and pursuit of omnipotence, and prevent blind suppression from causing the child\’s lack of confidence and self-doubt. Strengthen communication during the game, listen carefully to the child, encourage the child to tell why he likes a character, listen carefully to his description, and help him make supplements. To figure out why a child likes a certain character is actually to figure out the power that the child desires in his heart. Help children understand and accept their emotions. When children express emotions, help them describe these emotions, such as \”You look happy\” or \”You must feel disappointed.\” You can look in the mirror with your baby to recognize \”happy\” and \”happy\” sad\” look. Guide your children to understand their own psychological feelings. Regularly chat with your children about their favorite, most troublesome, most unhappy and most fulfilling things. When reading picture books and watching cartoons with your children, guide your children to express their feelings. At the same time, help the child summarize and summarize his feelings so that he can better understand himself and gradually recognize his own preferences. Encouraging children to let go and imagine that role-playing is the best game to stimulate baby\’s imagination. The simulated dialogue during the process can stimulate the language center of the baby\’s left brain, allowing the child\’s imagination to be expressed naturally through language, and it can also greatly promote the development of the left and right brains. . During the role-playing process, children will reproduce interpersonal situations and practice social communication skills by memorizing storylines and imitating real life, which has a great impact on children\’s imagination, observation, thinking and problem-solving abilities. There are benefits. Famous early childhood educator Chen HeqinxianA student once said: \”Children\’s knowledge is gained from experience, and a child\’s life itself is a game.\” So, if you also have a baby who likes Cosplay at home, congratulations – the level of cosplay reflects the It is the level of children’s social communication skills and interpersonal intelligence.