The difference between children who play with mobile phones and those who do not play with mobile phones is so big after 10 years

I read a report that was disappointing. An American psychologist selected 100 children from ordinary families and divided them into two groups: one group had no access to mobile phones, and the other group was obsessed with mobile phones. A follow-up survey a few years later found that almost all children who did not play with mobile phones were admitted to college, while only 2 children who were obsessed with mobile phones were admitted to college. Many people lament: Is the gap in life ruthlessly widened by a small mobile phone? It is undeniable that electronic devices, including mobile phones, are indeed very harmful to children! Dinner with my sister and her family on the weekend. The 3-year-old nephew was watching cartoons on his mobile phone and rubbing his eyes while watching. The younger sister said that the child suffered from dry eyes because he often played with mobile phones. He was using eye drops these days, and she snatched the mobile phone back as she spoke. As a result, the little nephew started crying \”Wow\” and kicked his legs while shouting \”stinky mom, stinky mom\”. Helplessly, my sister put the phone back again, and her crying stopped abruptly. Since when did mobile phones become the “magic tool for coaxing babies”? Children don\’t eat; children interrupt our work; children make noises in public places;… A mobile phone can handle it all. According to a survey, more than 80% of children aged 0-5 years use smartphones, and more than 30% of children have played with mobile phones since they were 3 years old. However, Steve Jobs, the \”father of Apple mobile phones\”, did not let his three children play with iPads and mobile phones during his lifetime. He said: \”We restrict children from using smart products at home.\” As a developer, he is well aware of the harm smart products can do to children. German child psychologists conducted a test: they asked three groups of 5-year-old children to draw little people on paper. As a result, the children who hardly watched TV every day drew the most complete and beautiful little figures. Children who watch TV for more than 3 hours a day draw simple and dull figures. For children who are not restricted in watching TV content, the little figures drawn either have broken arms or legs, or have incomplete or partial bodies. It is obvious that the children have been affected by some bad content on TV. Psychologists have concluded that allowing children to be exposed to electronic products too early and too much will greatly damage their brain development and affect their cognition, imagination and creativity. Moreover, this damage will be difficult to repair later. Nowadays, many children wear glasses early, mostly due to problems such as amblyopia and astigmatism caused by early exposure to electronic screens. Because most cartoons or children\’s games are colorful and the pictures change too quickly, it is easy for children\’s visual nervous system to become fatigued. An experiment at the University of Washington proved that for every additional hour of screen time a child spends starting from 10 months old, the risk of developing ADHD by age 7 increases by 10%. The stimulation of light and shadow from the electronic screen is strong, and it is difficult for children who have adapted to the fast pace to focus their attention in a relatively bland and static real-life environment. A primary school teacher said that 80% of children who can\’t sit still in class, like to wander off, and can\’t calm down to read a book, have the habit of playing with mobile phones and watching too much TV. In addition, playing with mobile phones will increase children\’s obesity rate, weaken immunity, and affect height growth and physical development. Children who love to play with mobile phones are having their health and learning abilities stolen bit by bit by their mobile phones, and they have long lost the ability to play with their mobile phones.Competitiveness among people of the same age. I saw a video of a seven or eight-year-old boy confronting his grandfather with a kitchen knife, shouting, \”I\’ll chop you to death if I don\’t pay you.\” The reason is that he is obsessed with a mobile phone game that requires money, and his grandfather does not give him money. Mobile phones have given birth to inner demons in children, causing them to lose their last remaining sanity and moral self-control. Psychologists say: Excessive exposure of children to electronic products will greatly damage the formation and development of their personality. Children will develop anxiety, depression, irritability, apathy, autism, split personality, and even violent behavior. If there are no restrictions, the children we have worked hard to raise and have high hopes for will be easily swallowed up by mobile phones. At a family gathering, two boys touched me a lot. A boy started playing with his mobile phone as soon as he entered the door and sat there, without paying any attention to the people and things around him. His father urged him to eat several times, but he said \”hmm\” several times and didn\’t move at all. Then his mother put the fruit into his mouth, and he chewed it mechanically. The tall man of 1.8 meters was cared for like a child of several years old. Mobile phones are like spiritual opium, sucking away all the full and vigorous mental state of a child. The other boy has been chatting patiently with his relatives, being courteous and polite, exuding youthful vitality and making people feel very comfortable. His mother said that she bought her child a mobile phone, but the child rarely played with it and spent all his time doing sports and reading. It is not surprising to hear that this child has excellent academic performance and is rated as one of the top three students and an outstanding class leader every year. Can a mobile phone predict whether a child will be successful in the future? Maybe not. However, a child\’s attitude towards mobile phones will, in a sense, affect his attitude towards life and the future. I have seen two pieces of news before: A 13-year-old girl in Hebei did not study at night and secretly played with her mobile phone. Her mother broke the mobile phone and ran away from home in a rage. A junior high school boy in Henan had unsatisfactory grades. His father criticized him and confiscated his mobile phone. He drank pesticide and committed suicide in anger. How could these children be so vulnerable? A survey in the United States shows that excessive play with mobile phones and other electronic products has increased the suicide rate among teenagers by 31%. In our country, more and more children under the age of 15 are suffering from \”cyber autism\” because they are addicted to mobile phones. They are successful characters on the mobile phone, but when they return to reality, they have weak personalities and fragile psychology. It\’s easy to go to extremes over little things. Most of these children have no intention of studying. \”They are in the Cao camp and their hearts are in the Han Dynasty.\” They act as \”fake learners\” every day, and are left far behind by their peers. Some netizens once met a group of Japanese primary school students at Chiang Mai Airport in Thailand. They were either sitting on chairs or on the floor. No one was playing with their mobile phones. Instead, they all had a book in their hands and were reading carefully. Not only was I moved, but I was also sighing. It is said that \”a young mother will make the country strong; a strong young woman will make the country strong.\” The gap between children who like to play with mobile phones and those who don’t like to play with mobile phones in ten years may be farther than we imagine. In such an era of intelligence, it seems difficult to prevent children from playing with mobile phones at all. But what is the right way to do it? Develop reading habits first, then come into contact with electronic products. Children\’s institutions in many countries recommend that it is best not to be exposed to electronic products before the age of 2. 3-6 years old can be used appropriatelyUse your mobile phone, no more than 3 times a day, for more than ten minutes at a time. Exposure to electronic products for ages 6-18 should be limited to 2 hours a day. Brain scientist Hong Lan suggests that children should only be exposed to dynamic electronic screens after their reading habits and interests have been well developed. Make an agreement on the time to play with electronic products. Many times, children play with mobile phones on a temporary basis and without restrictions, which makes them prone to addiction. We can set a rule for children, for example, they can play with their mobile phones for half an hour after school, they can watch one movie on Saturdays and Sundays, and younger children can only watch one episode of cartoons every day, etc. When the habit is developed, both children and parents will become conscious, and there will be no \”see-saws\” or \”negotiations\” due to the number and duration of play. It is important for parents to lead by example. A child of a friend once said something to his father who was playing with his hands: Dad, you are so ugly! Like a big smelly shrimp slumped on the sofa! One word awakens the dreamer. It turns out that the way we play with mobile phones is so ugly in the eyes of children. If you want your children to play with mobile phones less, telling them a hundred times is not as effective as the power of a role model. The company of parents allows children to see the bigger world. Long Yingtai said: \”Play is the foundation of knowledge in the world.\” The best parents are the ones who are the best at playing with their children. Take your children for walks, travel, and read a lot of books. Children will observe insects, birdsong, and grass dew in nature, perceive the beauty of mountains, seas, clouds, and fog, and expand their horizons and minds through books. Children who have been irrigated by nature, infiltrated by humanities, and influenced by books since childhood have endless interests and a big world in their hearts. How can they be addicted to mobile phones and other electronic products? It is said that education is about the financial resources of parents and the aura of children. Rather, it is about the cohesion between parents and children. Good parents care for their children, listen to their children, and guide their children, rather than throwing a mobile phone to their children. A small mobile phone often hides the philosophy of parenthood and the future of a child. May parents encourage each other!