To raise a child who loves to read, you must pay attention to these 4 keys

Everyone knows that it is very important to cultivate children\’s reading habits. Among various methods, the most classic is the so-called \”interest theory\”, which means to first cultivate children\’s interest in reading. There are also many thoughtful and knowledgeable parents who help their children choose a book list early, hoping that their children will read all the books on the list according to their own wishes. But before making all these plans, you have to correct your own ideas. After all, reading is the child\’s own business. In the early stages of children\’s exposure to reading, what books should they read and how should they read it? Children should be given some say. After all, reading is only called reading when children hold books in their hands! It doesn’t matter if you “turn over the book and stop reading it”. Many mothers who are over one year old have told me very anxiously, “Yu Dad, my child doesn’t like books. He has stopped reading them after looking at them and has no interest at all. What should I do?” In fact, there are two reasons. One is that the books chosen by parents are not suitable for children, and the other is that parents care too much. Regarding how to choose books for children of different ages, Fish Dad will write a detailed article next time. Today I will talk about parents’ attitudes. Don\’t always set some predetermined values ​​for yourself and your children. You must read a few books before you have finished reading. You must do what your children do. In the end, you and your children will be very tired. In fact, it is very common for children under the age of two to stop reading after flipping through it. The key lies in the guidance and persistence of their parents. For older children, parents can try to \”let the children choose the book\”, but if this method is used, the atmosphere will often become: \”You picked that book, so you must read it to the end.\” This will also lead to Put pressure on children. If they see their children throwing it aside after reading a book halfway through, parents will also say: \”You picked that book, so you have to read it to the end!\” But this is not the case with reading. Sometimes we flip through the beginning of a book and then quickly put it aside, only to pick it up and re-read it again long later when we are curious about what\’s next. Isn\’t that true? Or we may like the picture on the book cover and think, \”This book seems interesting.\” Then we read a few pages, only to find it boring. This is a matter of course. Yet, by asking children to choose a book and assuming \”that\’s the book you chose,\” we reinforce the atmosphere of \”you have to finish the book.\” Especially since many books are chosen by parents, it becomes more difficult for children to love them more. Create a natural reading environment where \”you want to read\”. Ask book lovers why they like books. Most people will answer: \”Because there used to be a lot of books at home.\” This \”lots of books\” environment is very important, so if you want your children to If you want to read, you should have books at home. Writer Zhou Chong mentioned in an article: I was a guest at a friend\’s house and saw that his children loved reading. Not only did they like fairy tales and stories, they even read a reference book with gusto. I was very surprised and asked my friend how he raised his children. How was it cultivated? No training at all. My father is a scholar and my mother writes prose. They love each other and have many books at home. In the living room, study room, bedroom, children\’s room, and toilet, you can see the history, philosophy, and religion that the father likes, the literature, art, and music that the mother loves, and the picture books that the children are obsessed with., fables, fairy tales…as long as you want to read, you can get your favorite reading materials at your fingertips. When nothing happens, the whole family gets together to read. The moon is as bright as water and the light is gentle. Everyone is immersed in their own cultural world. When they read the happy parts, they chat together. \”Hahaha, Sun Wukong is so funny…\” \”Why is it so funny? Tell me!\” I also play role-playing, adapt the ending, or write a story about three people. It is full of fun and makes people laugh. None of this is intentional. , parents love it, children like it, they naturally don’t resist and do it happily. A child has grown up in this atmosphere since he was born. Naturally, in his view, reading is as normal as eating and breathing. Regarding the influence of family atmosphere on children’s reading, this is roughly the case. Yuba has always mentioned it to everyone on the platform, because whether it is the parents who choose the books or the children themselves, as long as there are a lot of books at home, the children can read their favorite books at the time they like, and stop when they want to. It doesn’t matter if you come down and read another book. Once a child develops the habit of reading books at home, by the time they reach the upper grades of elementary school or junior high school, they will naturally read even difficult books that their parents read. The most important thing is to prepare a lot of books at home, and don\’t have the compulsive idea that you must read them all, or \”you must read this book.\” Actively using the library is an issue worth talking about. A mother told me that the current financial situation of the family is not well-off, and it is really expensive to buy books, because for children who read a lot, just buying books will really occupy a lot of the family. part of the expenses. I understand very much. So every time Fish Dad talks about group buying of books from his friends in the publishing house, he has to argue over the price and fight over and over again to get the best deal for everyone, because his money is tight. In addition, you can actively use the resources of libraries and community picture book libraries. Except for books that some children particularly like but are not available in the library, you can choose to buy them home. If you want to have many books at home, on the one hand, it costs a lot of money, and on the other hand, you also need space to display the books, so borrowing books from the library is of course a good way. Let’s start with the child touching the book. No matter how old the child is, let’s start with the child being able to access the book! When a child is young, if you can let him eat and sleep every day with a book as his companion, he will most likely fall in love with reading. You can set a time every day to tell stories to your children. For older children, you can go to the library at a set time every week to expose them to new books. For example, when children watch movies and cartoons, they often say, new, new, I want to watch new. Let them explore the world of books and feel fresh and wonderful. As long as you develop this habit, one day your children will fall in love with books and start reading. Parents may think in their hearts: \”If possible, I hope he can read this book.\” \”I hope he can read all the books he bought home.\” \”I hope he can read obediently every day.\” \”I can remember all the books I like.\” However, real reading is not like this. \”What kind of books to read\” and \”read thoroughly to the end\” are what you need to do in the in-depth reading stage.At the beginning, let\’s start with children being able to touch books. Please don\’t be anxious, that\’s enough.