You repeat these practices that ruin your children’s grades every day

When we were taking the bus in the morning, the grandmother in the seat next to her was loudly teaching her granddaughter addition and subtraction. \”2 and which number combine to make 9\”, \”2 and which number to combine makes 7\”, \”3 and which number combines to make 8\”… The little girl answered very slowly and often made mistakes. Grandma is getting more and more impatient. Later, the grandma angrily repeated the same question, while scolding the child in a disgusting voice: \”What are you thinking, you are so stupid\”, \”Everyone else can do it, stop studying\”, \”You are stupid\”. The little girl cried out the numbers she had guessed in her heart. I couldn\’t stand it, so I told the child\’s grandmother that the child was still young and might not understand the meaning of the question. If you teach patiently, you will be able to master it. The grandma replied, \”I\’m not the type to study there, so my patience will be in vain.\” She also looked at the child specifically, as if she was telling the child on purpose. It\’s really unbearable to see the child timid, aggrieved and afraid to cry. I remember reading an experience introduction by the nationally renowned teacher Zheng Xuezhi. In his early years, he taught Chinese in a vocational middle school. The children in that vocational middle school had very low enthusiasm for learning. Even in junior high school, many children were regarded as \”shameless\” by their teachers and parents. I just hope that the children can continue their vocational studies until they graduate. Teacher Zheng took over the class and told the children about writing compositions in these two classes. The children were in protest. He shouted that he couldn\’t write. Teacher Zheng lowered the standard and asked the children if they could write a paragraph. The children still shouted and couldn\’t write. Later, Teacher Zheng lowered the standard and asked the children to write only one sentence in two classes. The children laughed and thought the teacher was too fooled. After the children finished writing a sentence, Teacher Zheng read each sentence aloud in class. If the sentences are not fluent, they will be asked to rewrite them on the spot; if the sentences are fluent, they will be praised loudly; if they are well written, they will be praised with joy. After the class, the children were very happy. Teacher Zheng told the children that if there is one sentence or paragraph in an article, it is successful. They also analyzed attractive articles in magazines for the children, and discussed with the children which sentences in them were particularly impressive. After the children agreed with the teacher\’s statement, their fear of difficulties disappeared. After that, I learned the \”philosophy, theory, emotion, interest\” and rhetoric of composition, and gradually got better at it. Several children\’s compositions were even published in provincial magazines. What Teacher Zheng is talking about is the method in the teaching process, which is actually worth thinking about by many of our parents. The very act of educating children is beyond reproach. However, educating children is a long process that requires the accumulation of time, gentle care, and patient waiting. What we adults should do most is not to suppress children in the process of educating them and label them as \”idiots\” or \”unenlightened\”, but to help children master the essentials of learning and feel the benefits of learning. of happiness and accomplishment. There is a famous saying in the education industry: \”There are no unqualified students, only unqualified teachers and teaching.\” The person who proposed this point of view was Ms. Marva, an elementary school teacher with a high reputation in the United States. Ms. Marva was born in 1936 to an African-American father., mother is Indian. And he was born in a small town where black people live together. In an era when racial discrimination was prevalent, Marva\’s parents always encouraged and supported her. So Marva received an education and became a teacher in a ghetto where black people gathered. It is not difficult to imagine the teaching dilemma Marva faces. Alcohol, violence, and drugs are all prevalent among children. Children will leave school when they are teenagers, form gangs, and be accompanied by crime and drugs. During the coaching process, what Ms. Marva has been doing is to constantly tell the children that they all have their own talents and will be successful in the future. She reads storybooks to children and trains their reading and expression skills. Take the trouble to care about every student and tell the children they can do better. And she will also observe each student and teach them in accordance with their aptitude. According to the children\’s different learning levels and reading abilities, different homeworks are given to the children and different books are recommended. When faced with children who are troublesome and make mistakes, Marva never uses vicious words to insult them, but instead gives them \”beneficial\” punishments. For example, one time, a boy kicked another child. She asked the boy to look up the etymology of kick and then reported it to the whole class. She found a girl chewing gum in class and asked her to look up the history of chewing bubble gum and give a speech in front of the children. He also took out a world map and told the children where the trees for chewing gum mainly come from and how those countries trade with the United States. It is with great patience and love that Ms. Marva created a miracle. Very few of her students committed crimes. Instead, they became politicians, doctors, lawyers, businessmen, and a large number of people became teachers. Ms. Marva often tells children, \”No matter who you are or where you live, you have the right to a better future, and only if you embrace the world with your own wisdom, will it come closer to you step by step.\” Created by Ms. Marva The miracle also enlightens us that if a teacher can encourage children with selfless love, trust children, and inspire children\’s inner enthusiasm. As parents, why can’t we tolerate our children and give them a space to grow freely? Some time ago, a friend forwarded me an article by Professor Zhou Zhiwen of National Taiwan University. In the article, Professor Zhou recalled how his \”stupid\” daughter went all the way to become a Ph.D. Professor Zhou\’s daughter is called Qiu\’er. She has been much \”stupid\” than other children in everything she does since she was a child. Other children will notice what is happening, but Qiu\’er will never notice it. Teaching her to recite ancient poems was not only slow and inefficient, but also full of mistakes. Even in elementary school, even in a very poor school, my grades are still mediocre. When Qiu\’er was in fifth grade, Professor Zhou sent her to learn piano. The piano teacher liked Qiu\’er very much and praised Qiu\’er\’s \”general style\” in playing the piano. Professor Zhou observed that his daughter often made mistakes when playing the piano and her ability to memorize music was poor. However, after memorizing the music, she played very coherently. After that, Qiu\’er went to junior high school\’s music class and often failed in cultural classes. He is often on the verge of repeating a grade. My grades were so bad that I couldn\’t even get into a private higher vocational school, so I had to take a high school music class.. Because of his poor grades, Qiu\’er was isolated at school. He had few friends and was not liked by his teachers. Fortunately, Qiu\’er\’s music performance has always been good. I was admitted to a good university with my music expertise, and because the courses I took during college were all related to music, my grades improved greatly. Later, Qiu\’er was admitted to a good university in the United States to study for a master\’s degree, and top music schools were willing to provide high scholarships for Qiu\’er to study for a doctorate there. Professor Zhou thought about the purpose of education through his daughter\’s experience. He believes that “education should give educated people knowledge, and this knowledge should teach children to discover themselves and affirm themselves. Education should find ways to build a person, not destroy a person, at least make him content and happy, not make him happy. He is lost and makes him sad.\” In fact, each of our children is an independent individual. They are bound to have their own strengths and weaknesses. Some children are smart and lovely, and they should be affirmed and encouraged, and should face study and life with more confidence. There are also some children who are a little reserved, slow, naughty, and mischievous. These children also have the right to be treated gently. No child should be despised or abandoned. The law of nature is \”spring sows, summer grows, autumn harvests, and winter hides.\” We educators sow the seeds of beauty and hope when children are young. Only when the children grow up can they reap abundant harvests. To promote children\’s progress, we cannot encourage them to grow. The longer the road, the more slowly you have to walk. The more difficult a child encounters, the more he or she needs a caregiver with a calm and tenacious heart waiting for the flowers to bloom.