What to do with a child\’s bad temper? Parents often look for reasons from themselves

01. Parents repeatedly give in, but children are proud of themselves. In the evening, I was walking in the park. A family of three walked in front of me. The little boy looked like three or four years old. He was making milky sounds and jumping around, looking like he was enjoying himself. As they were walking, the little boy suddenly shouted: \”How annoying! You are so annoying!\” As he said that, he stood still. In fact, it was just because his mother said that during the parent-child outing a few days ago, a certain child was both diligent and polite, and performed well. When the baby got angry, the mother immediately knelt down and coaxed him flatteringly: \”The baby is not angry because it\’s the mother\’s fault. In fact, the baby performed very well that day. It\’s all the mother\’s fault, okay?\” The little boy pouted and still stood. He stayed where he was, looking very unhappy. At the same time, he glanced at his father secretly to see his attitude and reaction. His father didn\’t respond, and the little boy continued to freeze in place and continued to get angry. People were coming and going in the park, and everyone looked sideways. The father probably felt embarrassed and complained to the child\’s mother in a low voice: \”You too, what can you say? Our son is the best…\” The little boy then relaxed his tight little face and continued to move forward proudly with his head held high. Walk. This reminds me of a trip when I was eating at a restaurant in front of a scenic spot. There was a large family sitting at the next table. Except for a little girl of two or three years old, everyone else was an adult. From the words, I could roughly tell that the adults were the little girl\’s grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles. Everyone took turns teasing the little girl, and it was full of laughter. When the meal was served, the mother put some vegetables in a small bowl for the little girl and fed her. The little girl was playing with toys in her hands. One moment she said the food was too hot, the other moment she said she wouldn\’t eat this or that she wouldn\’t eat, her head shaking like a rattle. By the time everyone else had almost eaten, the little girl hadn\’t taken a few bites, and her mother hadn\’t even taken a bite. \”Baby, eat quickly. After we finish eating, can we go in and ride the Ferris wheel? Otherwise, we won\’t be able to get on the Ferris wheel if it\’s too late.\” Mom was still coaxing her patiently. \”If you don\’t want to eat, you won\’t eat! You are so annoyed, so annoyed, so annoyed!\” The little girl screamed loudly, while her mother carefully kept her smile on her face. The grandparents next to me said distressedly: \”If you don\’t want to eat, just eat. I brought so many snacks and I won\’t be hungry.\” The little girl showed a victorious smile. In fact, it is best for adults to say this at this time: If you don\’t eat, you will be hungry later, and you have to wait until the next meal to eat. Think about it yourself. If the child still refuses to eat, just let her go. Don\’t give her snacks when she is hungry. Let her learn a lesson and she will eat well next time. The reason why the two children mentioned above dared to be rude, arrogant, and domineering was because their parents repeatedly gave in and doted on them unprincipledly in their daily lives. Adults\’ lack of propriety and lack of principles lead to children\’s lack of propriety and lack of principles, which lead to bad tempers and unreasonable behavior. 02. Parents are procrastinating, but children are taking chances. Last week, I went out to play with my friends and family. My friend\’s daughter just started kindergarten. After playing for a day, she was probably tired. When she was walking to the parking lot after the activity, she suddenly asked her mother to hold her. The friend carried a lot of things in his hands and explained the situation to her. He also encouraged her with a song taught by the kindergarten teacher, saying that the baby had grown up and should walk on his own. The little girl still doesn\’tKen, stand still. The friend ignored her and walked away. The little girl suddenly cried loudly, hugged her mother\’s legs fiercely, and lay on the ground with her whole body. She stayed there and rolled around. At that time, people were coming and going, smiling and watching the fun. The friend was unmoved, broke away from the child, and continued walking forward, only quietly paying attention to her safety out of the corner of his eye. The little girl looked up at the pedestrians next to her, howled a few times, looked at her mother walking further and further away, suddenly got up and ran to catch up with her mother. After she caught up, her friend stopped, squatted down, and gently encouraged her. There were still tears on her face, she sniffed, nodded, and said she would never do that again. Then he happily followed us and started singing after a while. If her friend gives in at the beginning and lets her cheating succeed, she will push further in the future. If her request is not met, she will use this \”killer\”, lose her temper, and wallow. Her mother left cruelly, which completely ended her chances of luck. She had no hope. She looked around and felt frightened. She had to stop acting violently, get up and chase her mother. Many times, it is parents who are not cruel enough and procrastinate, which makes their children take chances. As long as parents state their principles, act decisively, and leave no illusions to their children, they will soon learn that getting angry is useless and they can only accept reality. 03. Only when parents have a consistent attitude will their children know how to behave. Once, our family was having dinner, and I didn’t know what topic was discussed. My son suddenly said to me impatiently: \”You are really annoying!\” I choked on my food in anger. In the throat, it cannot go up or down. My son will be in sixth grade next semester. He is at the junction of being a naughty child and being rebellious. I also understand that children of this age are undergoing earth-shaking changes in their thinking and will have some emotions and tempers. But he said this If so, this was the first time, I was angry and sad. I put down my bowls and chopsticks, stopped eating, and stopped talking. He looked at me and slowed down his meal. He glanced at his father quietly to find out his attitude. In an instant, the atmosphere solidified. His father also put down his bowl and chopsticks, looked at him, and said word by word: \”How did you talk to mom just now?\” The tone was sonorous, majestic and powerful. A trace of fear and regret flashed across his face, and he lowered his head and said nothing. \”As a family, we will forgive you for being rude, but you have broken our hearts. In your interactions with others, if you are not polite, speak rudely, and speak rudely, no one will tolerate you and you will have no friends. , not popular.\” His dad continued. He bit his lip, seemed to have mustered up the courage, and said, \”Mom, I\’m sorry. I know I was wrong. I shouldn\’t have said that. I will change it in the future.\” Seeing his sincere attitude, I also expressed my forgiveness. Then we continued eating, and the atmosphere became harmonious again. Since this incident happened, I have found that my son has to pay more attention to his attitude when speaking and doing things than before, his temper has also become gentler, and he no longer gets angry easily. When it comes to educating our children, my husband and I never play the good role and the other the bad side. We always have the same attitude. In this way, children will know how to measure and have a sense of boundaries. In addition, there is another very important point. Parents must set a good example. First of all, they mustHave a gentle temper and be good at controlling your emotions. Don\’t lose your temper easily and become violent. Losing your temper hurts others and yourself. Respect others and others will respect you. It is the responsibility of parents to cultivate a gentle character in their children from an early age and teach them to be polite and respectful to others.